Going it Alone

Well done Gally - enjoy!
Hello Susannah. I was very involved with GN when it started up but haven't been around much because of family stuff. I sincerely hope I can get back to it as GN has proved stimulating, supportive and helpful - as well as entertaining.
I too live alone and have come to relish my independence. I wholly sympathise with those who are struggling and grieving. I didn't welcome divorce but coped and adapted. Now I wouldn't change.
I am now worrying about my DD who very recently left a dreadful relationship.
We received invitations to a family wedding the other day and when I handed hers over she looked very sad. She explained that it upset her to have an invitation which didn't include a partner, adding that I am happy on my own but she isn't. Now I'm worried that she might rush into yet another ghastly relationship just to avoid being alone.

Hello Gally

I'm sure you'll have a marvellous time, and I think you are very brave.

Like others I hope you have a great time Gally. The hardest thing I find is walking into somewhere alone when you have been used to being part of a couple. My DH was very outgoing "life and soul of the party" type, whereas I am much quieter and shy (until I get to know you!). I am sure you will have a lovely evening.

Congratulations on your courage Gally. Hope you have a wonderful time

Hello, susannah2b and welcome. You can join in any thread that takes your fancy! Enjoy it.

gally Good for you; I hope you have a great time.

well done Gally, i hope you enjoy the concert, very brave, i hope to be as brave as you very soon . x

Just read this thread! Gally have wonderful time an acquaintance of mine does this too well done for having courage and you will be absolutely fine ! Enjoy!

You'll be fine Gally and have a great time.My niece has just come back from a short US tour, singing with Eric Whitacre.She had to sing sitting on a stool as she is 31 weeks pregnant!Somehow don't think she'll be going to Sydney.

Gally Well done and have a wonderful time.

My first solo venture was to the Manet exhibition in Paris seven months after DH had died. The exhibition was magnificent and I fell in love with the Musée d'Orsay.

susannah2b There are plenty of us femails around who are either widows, or indeed, living alone through choice. There are also a lot of women who are married to partners who don't wish to go very far but who wish to continue living life to the full, whether socially or culturally. Some of us have met up because of GN.

I'm sure you'll love it:-) It's wonderful to find an event you would really enjoy, and know you couldn't have done with husband/child/friend since they wouldn't share your taste, and go alone.

However I've just joined this group (hate the name though .... do we have value only as a grandparent?) and am hoping to find shoulders to share experiences and sadnesses with ..
I'm 69, live alone, no longer working, do several voluntary jobs including Hospice home support, but have lived abroad and don't have close friends where I live. I've joined various classes, etc., but fail to make friends; they almost always seem to be in couples, & fully committed with golf, etc. Don't want to impose on my son too much, see his family probably weekly, and my daughter lives in Australia. I probably need to move to a smaller house, find more people, but no longer have the energy for major changes on my own. Help!! Which forum on this site could I contribute to?

Sending all good wishes and warmth to you all, hoping the never ending winter isn't creating negativity,

sue
x

Well done, Gally. I can see you in my mind. Full of enthusiasm and excitement when you take your seat.....and it will be wonderful!

Gally's post, and those from other widows/widowers, make me once again aware of how different it is for those who, like me, have chosen to live alone and those who have it thrust upon them. I send my heartfelt good wishes to all of them. I am sure you will never stop missing your life partners, but I hope that you will eventually do as Gally has bravely done, and step out on your own.

Well done Gally, I admire your courage in "going for it" and am sure you will have a wonderful evening. It is nice to have something to look forward to, a special treat for you. We look forward to hearing how you got on.

Gally I hope your experience is sufficiently wonderful that it builds your confidence to do more of the same. My mother in law is a conductor/musical director and I've been to many of her productions alone, but because I spend so much time with others I love it and always feel it's slightly indulgent.

Well done Gally I am sure it will be a night to remember

Eric Whitacre - what can I say? I am deeply deeply jealous!

I am absolutely sure that the joy and inspiration of his wonderfful music will help you to forget that you have had to go on your own - music is so inclusive, that you just feel a part of everything that is going on and have a shared emotion with all those around you. It draws you in - especially Eric's compositions.

I always go to concerts on my own as my OH, who is a great music lover, is sadly unable to go to concerts because he becomes so anxious in that situation that he has panic attacks and his PD symptoms worsen. I have always found that opening a conversation with those around me is very easy - we all share a love of music and I have never felt alone - just surrounded my like-minded people.

Have a truly wonerful time and get lost in the music.

Gally, I go to see the Halle orchestra quite often, and lots of people go alone.
Most people are very friendly and chatty, so I'm sure it won't be the last time you go on your own.
Have a wonderful evening

Enjoy the concert, Gally. I've started going to opera on my own - don't think my friends would enjoy them much. You will get so wrapped up in the music that you won't notice that you're on your own.

Gally how wonderful for you enjoy the music and the surrounding.

nightowl I've been going to concerts on my own for years.I so agree with your words - ' I enjoyed the opportunity to immerse myself in the experience with no thought for anyone else'-
Enjoy

Go Gally Not so different from going with someone esle as you can't talk during any show. Beforehand and during the interval you could look for somewhere where there is just one seat and you will find yourself talking to the people near you. Enjoy.

Good for you Gally. I am far from the most outgoing person but I have been to a few concerts by myself (like you my desire to see and hear these people was greater than my fear of going alone) and I found it very liberating. I found that I enjoyed the opportunity to immerse myself in the experience with no thought for anyone else. Have a wonderful time!

Well done, Gally. It will get easier every time you do it.

Gally I'm sure you'll have a fabulous evening, enjoy