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petra Mon 25-Mar-13 15:56:02

By this I mean: if I didn't have any money I wouldn't be in the situation that I am now of one DD accusing me of giving more to the other DD.
This is totally untrue. The trouble is, the accuser is in a bad way with her health and her love life and she wants to lash out at someone.
I wish I had had a warning, then I could have put the crash helmet on LOL.

gracesmum Thu 28-Mar-13 23:19:07

Sorry, Ana that was addressed to Frank not you.
Frank you have not proved anything other than a total obsession with one particular theme - the question did not and does not arise and all I can ascertain is that it it YOU that is unable to let the subject go. What you have to gain by resurrecting it on a daily basis is quite beyond me.

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 23:17:14

Frank, you didn't need to fight. There was no contest. Let it go!

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 23:16:16

grin

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 23:16:01

Hi Ana

I was just trying to prove a point to gracesmum.
Would you have just let half of a £500,000 house go plus the money you spent on it without a fight?.

Frank

gracesmum Thu 28-Mar-13 23:15:30

What has that GOT TO DO WITH ANYTHING?

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 23:15:23

You're such a wag, Frank! grin

annodomini Thu 28-Mar-13 23:14:01

Me too gracesmum.

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 23:12:47

I don't think Dad lost the will to live.
He was always planning ahead.
He passed away in January, we had booked an Easter and June holiday and he was asking about a September holiday.

Frank

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 23:09:50

I think we've established that by now, Frank. Even I, one of your staunchest supporters, am getting a bit tired of the endless repetition of the reasons for your claim to your father's house. hmm

gracesmum Thu 28-Mar-13 23:08:58

[Losing the will to live again] emoticon

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 23:00:36

gracesmum

I did have a claim in my parents property.
My mother left her half to me and I spent money on the property.
Dad could have not have stayed in it if it had not been for my pension money.

Frank

gracesmum Thu 28-Mar-13 22:56:05

But surely the people who matter are the couple in question. I do not think adult children have any call on property unless their parents so wish it. For heaven's sake - what does growing up mean if it doesn't entail standing on your own 2 feet?

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 22:53:35

You have been warned, Galen! grin
(Just keep dream man as a bit on the side is my advice!)

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 22:51:06

Galen

Late in life marriages can cause no end of problems to the families.

Frank

Galen Thu 28-Mar-13 22:47:40

Thank goodness we are not going to marry! I couldn't deal with the convoyed legalities!
I thank the gods I've had a lucky escape!

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 22:40:02

I think he could have a claim under the Family Inheritance Act 1975.
Of course the court will have discretion on how the estate is distributed.
The court may say the man will be able to live in the house and the children may have to wait for example.
I am not sure what would happen if the children owned half the property before the marriage happened.

Frank

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 22:32:50

If Galen didn't leave her house to him in her will, it would be his problem where he lived. A spouse isn't necessarily obliged to make provision for their other half - it's not the law!

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 22:30:17

Ana

Where would you expect him to live?.
On a park bench?.

Frank

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 22:28:53

Why?

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 22:28:01

I am presuming they would live together and possibly marry.
He would have to have somewhere to live if Galen pre deceases her.

Frank

Galen Thu 28-Mar-13 22:24:44

grin [wooden stirring spoon] emoticin

Ana Thu 28-Mar-13 22:21:35

Why would Galen have to make a provision for her 'dream man' to live in her house if she predeceased him, Frank?

It's her house - she can leave it in her will to whoever she wants, and I don't think a spouse/partner would have any claim on it if that wasn't what she wanted, especially if they'd not contributed financially in any way.

Galen Thu 28-Mar-13 21:45:36

grin scaredy cat!grin

HUNTERF Thu 28-Mar-13 21:43:56

Galen

No I am not.
Our family is very stick together with all estates etc going to the offspring.
There has not been a single divorce.
Mine is the only marriage which has terminated before the people were 75 in living memory.
Nobody has got married for a second time.
I do not want to complicate matters.

Frank

Galen Thu 28-Mar-13 21:35:48

frank are you applying for the position ?