The first round of divorces - my children's peers

In her mid to late teens DD was considered unusual by her peers as her mum n dad were still married.
I understand your sadness GN after having got to know them so well.

I can't remember where I heard it recently that our personalities are only fully formed at around the mid-thirties, so I suppose it depends on whether people can grow up together or whether they grow at the same pace, or catch up if at different paces - whether or not the marriages last if people do get married young.

A lot of people did say I did the wrong thing in not having any other girl friends after meeting my future wife at age 11.
As far as we knew we were well suited to each other even though neither of us had dated anybody else so why change?.
Also they said I might have been influenced by the fact her mother was the headmistress of the school.
After all the headmistress of my school did say my future wife was the best so that had got to have been correct.
All I can say we were happily married for 26 years but I would say we were in effect married for 38 years as I tend to think the wedding only rubber stamped the relationship.
Also our marriage did not end in divorce.

Frank

I realise that the last sentence of my post sounds as if I don't expect young marriages to last and that I may have an avalanche of protests from those of you whose early marriages have been wonderfully successful. I, on the other hand, married at 29 and divorced at 45. There is no predicting the length of a marriage. DS1 played the field (and what a field!) and married at 29; DS2 has been monogamous since he and his partner both turned 21. So, apologies - and no offence meant. I must learn not to make generalisations.

I had hoped that the trend for divorce might have dried up in the newer generation. My sons and their friends seem to have intact relationships - DS1 and his wife, together for 16 years, married for 13; DS2 and partner together for 19 years, never married but as good as. Good luck to your DS and DD, Grannyknot. It's probably a good thing that they didn't settle down in their 20s.