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"Get a life"

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j08 Wed 24-Apr-13 08:32:53

I meant referring to a post in another thread. #probablyparanoid

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Greatnan Wed 24-Apr-13 08:23:39

Agreed,jingle, but I think in this instance it was said with the best of intentions.
Isn't every comment a post about a post - I don't follow your meaning.

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j08 Wed 24-Apr-13 08:14:23

Is a post about a post the same as a thread about a thread?

I think it is a cruel phrase and could be tremendously wounding to someone already feeling down.

If you must use, use it with great care. Preferably don't use it. It is just a silly modern idiom and there is rarely any thought behind its use.

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Greatnan Wed 24-Apr-13 08:13:23

Depends who says it!
Good for you in making an independent life for yourself. It took me 20 years, but mainly because I had to wait until I could support my daughters on my own.

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Grannyknot Wed 24-Apr-13 07:58:17

"Get a life" may be a crude and harsh way to express it, but it was the best advice I was given (gently by my mother-in-law) when I was a young 'golf widow' (I married into a family of golfers) and I used to mope around miserably and bleat about my husband being on the golf course on weekends, making everyone around me including my children unhappy too.

What it meant to me (when I got the message) was that I was no longer dependent on something or someone else to make me happy (or blamed them or it for my unhappiness), but I simply got on with my life and made the best of it. And enjoyed it!

Although it didn't make things right (he was being selfish), I started enjoying my independence, harmony returned to my home, and not long and it would be a case of "What do you mean you're not playing golf this weekend?! I'm off with so-and-so to do such-and-such. Bye!" smile So to me being told to "get a life" was a good thing.

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