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Red Hats

(23 Posts)
gracesmum Tue 21-May-13 12:37:47

I was over in our noew local Waitbury's (complaining, as it happens about blades of grass in last night spinach!) so after doing my grumpy old woman act I went for a free coffee with my "My Waitbury" card and a custard slice and sat down beside a lady in a rather natty red hat. Then I realised that the woman beside her was wearing a red fascinator as was the woman who came to sit down opposite. Feeling this might be a private occasion, I asked and found that they all (there were 2 more fairly quickly) belonged to the local "Red Hat" chapter which seems to exist for women over 50 to meet for coffee or whatever, go to theatres/concerts/events together and generally have a nice time in company! I thought, and said that it sounded not unlike Gransnet and I wonder, are any of you Red Hatters out there? They were absolutely lovely, friendly chatty and welcoming (just like Gransnet) and I thoroughly enjoyed my coffee stop!

glammanana Tue 21-May-13 12:46:21

gracesmum I did read about Red Hatter's a while ago on Gransnet and we did have a few members but can't think when it was we where talking about it,they seem to do such fun things I would love to meet up with some who are members in my part of the world a fabulous excuss to wear a nice hat for the

kittylester Tue 21-May-13 12:49:05

I couldn't join - I get dreadful hat hair!!

glammanana Tue 21-May-13 13:11:42

kitty grin

Ana Tue 21-May-13 13:20:04

Perhaps you could cheat and just dye your hair red, kitty? grin

Sook Tue 21-May-13 13:23:42

I've got such a big head I can never find a hat to fit, unless I knit one (cringe) grin

FlicketyB Tue 21-May-13 16:21:13

I think it is a group formed after someone wrote that poem 'When I get old I will......' which included a line about wearing a red hat with purple dress. It is a poem in praise of becoming an old bat. And if I thought I would become like that in old age I would book my ticket to Dignitas now.

gracesmum Tue 21-May-13 16:35:03

What do you mean "Become an old bat....."?? I am very proud of my old battery-ship! grin And, frankly, getting old is still a more attractive prospect than the alternative!

HildaW Tue 21-May-13 16:38:25

I met a lovely group of totally mad 'Red Hatters' in Arizona a few years ago....I just happened to be wearing a purple jumper (they wear prurple) and they greeted me like a long lost friend. I quite fancied the idea local station getting on a train to meet up with daughter I spotted a couple of British Red Hatters, complete with hats and purple accessories.....honestly, two of the most miserable looking women I have seen for a long time. On several occassions I looked up quite deliberately to catch their eye (was thinking of starting a conversation with them about where they were based etc etc) not a dickey bird, nothing. So unless I see a more cheerful example of British ones I shan't be bothering.

annodomini Tue 21-May-13 16:42:10

I've just (optimistically) acquired a white sunhat with red spots. Does that qualify me as a red hatter - or just a mad one? grin

janerowena Tue 21-May-13 16:48:23

I went round a garden in East Angular last year, and a whole coachload of ladies in purple wearing red hats descended from a coach, some of them looking far too young for the poem. They were all very happy and friendly. I thought it was a lovely idea, but some of my friends were appalled at the thought of having to wear those colours. I loved it, it looked like a bunch of large fuchsias going for a walk.

Galen Tue 21-May-13 17:08:20

maniac is one I think.

Notso Tue 21-May-13 19:09:01

I joined the local chapter on a trial basis (their description) as a way of meeting people when I moved after retirement. I attended one outing to do indoor archery which was great. I put my name down for a restaurant outing the following month & paid a deposit.
An emergency cropped up in youngest DDs family which meant I couldn't attend the meal so I emailed the organiser about a week in advance with a full explanation and apologies. I said I realised the deposit would not be refunded and that I would happily pay the balance of the cost of the meal if required.
She emailed back to say they could only accept members who were prepared to demonstrate a committment to the group and its arrangements.
I'm sure that the majority of Red Hat organisers are welcoming, friendly and sensitive. This one wasn't!!

FlicketyB Tue 21-May-13 19:38:22

On holiday I met a drunken group of red hatters coming out of a hotel and acting like a group of drunk women of any age.

Maggiemaybe Tue 21-May-13 20:01:43

Notso, I hope you told her where to shove her red hat! grin

I saw what must have been a group of Red Hatters at Leeds Bradford Airport last year - I just assumed they were just a more mature hen party. They seemed a happy bunch anyway.

Notso Tue 21-May-13 22:30:45

I seem to remember a fairly stinging reply to her email Maggiemaybe. grin

Maniac Wed 22-May-13 15:02:33

Galen I am NOT a Red Hat -would never wear one. It's a social organisation started in US although some branches now in UK.
When visiting US in 2005 with 3 friends we chanced to meet a gp in San Francisco . Posted photo on my profile

sunseeker Wed 22-May-13 15:23:54

I think the Red Hats were featured in a Simpsons episode. As I recall they wanted Marge to help them steal from Mr. Burns! (Sorry that will mean nothing to those of you not into the Simpsons)

Eloethan Wed 22-May-13 15:50:43

Notso How rude of her. I wonder if there's anyone left in that "chapter".

Nonny Wed 22-May-13 18:40:47

Have you heard of the saying "Red hat no knickers?"

Ariadne Wed 22-May-13 19:11:24

Nonny no, but I like it! (Suddenly realised "hey Nonny no...") grin

Sook Wed 22-May-13 19:39:21

Nonny no, but one of my mothers favourite sayings was "Fur coat no knickers"

mrshat Wed 22-May-13 19:44:47

Red shoes no knickers ....................grin