Don't really feel like going on holiday.....

Mishap you will have hundreds of us in the car with you all chattering away and telling you how brilliant you are

We have delayed our departure as I am really not up to doing a long drive safely; and OH cannot do it because of all his drugs.

I have appointment with doc for tomorrow to see if we can find some way of dealing with the migraines, which are dragging me down.

I feel really bad about all of this but what can I do? I am quite worn out and going away is just a step too far at this minute - the stress of that and everything else (OH, blessed foot, hip pain, Dad, brother's investigations for bowel cancer, sister with huge life problemswhich I seem unable to help with) - I am sure others have far worse to put up with but I seem to have reached my waterloo just now, and the trip is just a step too far.

Thanks for all your very kind support - it is appreciated. Hope I can return the compliment one day.

for you mishap

Mishap you have helped me loads over the past little while by being kind. Be kind to yourself now. Hope you feel better having made this decision and a huge ((((hug))))

Mishap with so much to deal with I think all we can offer is support. Whether you go away or not, just understand that you have made the right decision and go with it. [hugs]

Mishap

Good that you are seeing the doctor tomorrow. Tell him/her everything.

Mishap
I am relieved that you have postponed your departure, you need to look after yourself after all the worry and stress you've had.

I hope your doctor will be able to help you to feel better (((hugs)))

Sounds like you've made the right decision, Mishap. Go and bend the GP's ear. You have very broad shoulders but could do with a little less to deal with

It is done now, Mishap and you're taking steps to look after yourself-try to continue to do just that. You really do have an immense amount to cope with, without worrying about anything extra. I hope the visit to the GP is helpful. Meanwhile (((hugs)))

I hope that you will feel a huge weight has been lifted from your shoulders. You have an enormous burden to carry and this "holiday" must have been a bridge too far. Don't beat yourself up about it, how much worse would it have been to set off and be ill- either physically or with worry while away. NOW REST. I hope you can take the time to do as little as you want, get yourself fit, and be better able to cope with the stress of the rest of your life. I know problems don't just go away, but it sounds as if you are putting yourself at the bottom of a very long list of priorities - instead of the top. and a big {{hug}}

Glad to hear you have made this decision mishap sending lots of (((hugs))) and a few . Try to relax and also rest that foot.

I think you've done the right thing.
Make sure you give the gp all the facts. If you don't tell them --- well, we're not psychic!

So sorry mishap - like you I am dreading a three week touring holiday in France next month. Gagagran and I share the same husband I think, but where he is very fit, I have arthritis, have had skin cancer so try to stay out of the sun (we are going to Beziers for a week) and get tired very easily. So him buying a four day pass to all the sights of Paris and telling me that I will have to run around on the metro was a good start. I think we are staying in 5 different places, with son as well, so loads of washing while we are away and on our return we are straight into visiting relatives and having others to stay with us. I feel exhausted before we have even gone. DBH keeps on talking about 'not wasting a moment'. Plus for two weeks we shall be internetless.

He has always been the same, at first I was pleased when he took over our holiday planning but now I long for a relaxing beach holiday in a small pretty quiet town in the UK, rather than stressing about toll money, trying to remember the names of car parts in french when we have our annual breakdown and trying not to lose my temper when our bags are taken away in Carrefour for being too big. As if we look like shoplifters.

So migraine or not, I am actually quite jealous, mishap. I'm not driving so have no excuse not to go.

Mishap . Such a relief to have made a decision and you can enjoy your hols another time when things are easier for you all.

Right decision I think Mishap.
Janerowena it might help to get the Bip and Go thing that you put on your windscreen and then you use the Télépeage lanes on the autoroute. There is a site in English, very easy to set up and the tolls are taken straight from your bank account. It makes life so much easier.

Link here
https://www.saneftolling.co.uk/

Mishap - I'm glad the decision has finally been made and hope that eases your mind a little and gives you the opportunity to rest at home.

janerowena you husband sounds like mine too though maybe not for the same reason. Mine just doesn't like to miss anything. I keep threatening to get him a big yellow umbrella to hold up as he leads his party (well me!!) along.

Mishap your body is making the decision for you. You have had so much to deal with I don't know how you are still standing!! Maybe your GP will say you shouldn't go and you can use cancel the holiday and reclaim from insurance. I am amazed you have kept going so long. Sending you and . We are our own worst enemies when we should be our own best friends. You are an inspirations lady. Take care and try to relax - if possible.

I think with all you have on your plate it's no wonder you have migraines. Try to have your holiday at home. If everyone thinks you've gone away, leave it that way and hide in the garden under a big hat.

You've made the right decision, Mishap. It doesn't mean that you can't still go on holiday when the time is more right for you. Now at least you don't have the added strain of an impending holiday hanging over you.
Try and relax now. Be as kind to yourself as you can. You deserve it. .

janerowena and kittylester - yes we do seem to be married to clones of the same man! They are exhausting to go anywhere with!

I try to avoid holidays now and really don't miss them. It's hard work getting ready to go, tiring keeping up with himself and wonderful to get back to our own bed!

I'm sure you feel a huge sense of relief Mishap and will rest easier tonight in your own home than en route!

Add my DH. He is also stressful to go away with.

Dear Mishap, you'll feel so much better now that you've made your decision. Good luck for your doctors visit.

Best thing we did Mamie getting a telepeage tag. it makes my job easier as I was always the one raking for the correct money.