Don't really feel like going on holiday.....

I'm always very ambivalent about holidays and often really wish I didn't have to go. Usually at least end up enjoying getting away, now and again spent the whole time longing for home time.

I wonder what you will do Mishap

Galen I went to Reikavik a few years ago. Loved it but it was cold. Went out one night to see aurora but it wasn't coming out to play!

Mishap have just caught up with this thread. I totally sympathise with you. You have had so much to deal with in the last few months it seems silly to pile on the pressure unnecessarily. Would it be a huge financial cost to cancel? What you need is someone to make the decision for you. Maybe your doctor would say you and DH are not fit to do all that travelling? Sending you hugs. You have dealt with so much lately and you deserve someone to "take over" for a while. When things are rough it is good to have friends around. Don't do what you don't want to do.

Galen I am jealous. I love Scandanavian crime books and am just working my way through some Icelandic ones (translated of course). Would love to go to Iceland one day. Enjoy your break.

Actually I'm sure ill enjoy the break. I'm feeling 'burnt out' at the moment and starting together ratty!

That is the one bright spot. But I'm going on Saturday, Iceland the week after. It's the white nights so I doubt I'll see them.
I'm on aurora watch as well.

Many thanks to all for kind words. Subject is still under discussion. I am not sure what to do for the best. I do appreciate the support that is always forthcoming from all you wonderful GNetters.

When is the Iceland trip Galen? - it did occur to me that I am on Aurora Watch and they send through when possible sightings might be in UK and they sent one recently - maybe you will see the Northern Lights - how truly winderful that would be!

Mishap there is little more to add, but sending you (((hugs))) as you make your decision.

What a dilemma you have, Mishap. I hope it works out for you and you get chance to relax.

Oh Mishap what a dreadful situation to be in, I totally sympathise with the feeling of not looking forward to a holiday albeit for very different reasons to yourself.

I have lost count of how many holidays we have booked, paid for and not taken over the years, due to ill health (my own, my husbands or another member of my family who were not coming with us) and on a couple of occasions last minute business problems that we were unable to leave behind us.

The stress of actually going on holiday usually far outweighs the benefits of the holiday for me and it is often better to simply stay at home.

For you the "holiday" does not seem to be the relaxing get away that a holiday should be, but exactly the same stress as you have at home but without the support system that home allows. I do hope that you come to the right decision for you and your husband whether it is to go or not go and I wish you well.

We used to try and get home from Champagne region in one trip but it is at least 5 hours travelling in UK after crossing the channel. Since retiring we usually opt for a tea time crossing and stay in Kent overnight and start the long drive refreshed the next day.

I don't think I'd enjoy a holiday when I had the thought of a long drive home at the end of it. I realised long ago that a long, tiring journey home at the end of a holiday undoes all the good that the break has achieved, but then I'm not a very good traveller. And I always lose the first day or so of any holiday by being tired when I arrive.

Like you Mishap oI am always a wreck before a holiday with a churning tummy and a really negative outlook. I often think it's because my DH knows exactly what he wants and I have a struggle getting the luxury bit appended to our hols. My rule is a holiday has to be better than home. I don't enjoy driving our car on the wrong side of the road as it Generally takes two to drive. But the roads really are empty in France unless its August and if you look up the weather for your week and it's fine what's wrong with a pile of books and some good food? And Galen I've been told that it's 22degrees in Murmansk which I think is further north than you are going. Sit on deck with a wool rug tucked round you and they should bring you a warming cup of beef tea as you watch the Northern lights . It's on my bucket list.

mishap I think it has all been said. I do hope that whatever you decide to do you will have a good time and get some relaxation. Perhaps there just isn't a right decision? Sometimes when you are sitting on the fence it doesn't actually matter which side you jump off. Just jump and then go with the flow.

Galen DS had a great time in Iceland but I shivered at the thought of it. Hope you have packed your thermals! Presumably there will be plenty of brandy on board to warm you up.

Mishap - like everyone says, think about what you really want. You have a lot on your plate, and it may be that something less demanding, and for a shorter time, might be better for you. Losing the money, I can see, is an issue, but perhaps it would be a price worth paying for release of stress?

Whatever you decide, take a little time for yourself! ((hug))

How is it this morning Mishap? Are you feeling any bigger and braver now you are up and about? Worries do loom larger when we are tired in the late evening. I think that is why my first reaction to your post was "don't do it".

I wonder if you can manage to weather it. It isn't long until Thursday. The anxiety will be over once you start moving. There is every possibility that the weather will allow you to do the walks you have planned. And there is always the croissants and crepes to cheer things up.

Once it is done and you are home again, you will be able to enjoy the summer with satisfaction.

Good luck whatever you decide. x

Mishap I know how you feel about the stress of travelling with someone is gets in state when away. My DH is like this.
The last two times we have been away have been more stressful than being at home. I have got away with it this year by a stroke of luck and managed a singing week with HF Holidays by myself as he has booked other things for himself. I can now relax for a week.

I can't really recommend what you do about this. I suppose cost of cancelling and insurance is an issue. Particularly if you knew about your foot injury before you booked.
My main advice is really think about what you want.

hugs

I am so sorry to hear how you are feeling, Mishap and if you decide to go I hope it works out better than you fear. As has been said, sometimes things work out well simply because we are not expecting too much.

Galen - I will be thinking of you in Iceland when I arrive in Egypt tomorrow - 45C there.

I'm off on Saturday!

Mishap can you remember why you booked in the first place and recapture that feeling? I do understand though as I too am happy staying in the lovely home I've created, with my garden, my animals and those I love close by.

printmiss perhaps your son is happier in his own known world too?

Mishap, I think in your position I would cancel. I get anxious and I can understand your feelings.
The spa idea sounds much better, or something nearer to home, so that if anything goes wrong you can return to your comfort zone quite easily.
I'm with nanaej all the way, talk to your GP, and do what makes you feel happier.

Thought you might like to hear this story about our son. (He doesn't talk - see my blog). The people who care for him and six others in the two bungalows they live in, thought it might be nice to take one or two of them to Butlins - which is only a couple of miles from where they live - for a four night break, because Butlins has all the facilities they like, including the evening dancing. We visited our son last Sunday (2nd) and his bag was all packed and ready to go. We met up with one of his carers, (who was the one on duty on the Sunday) last Friday, and said what a lovely week Robert had had weather wise, and she said 'Oh! he didn't go' Evidently between the time she went off duty, and the new carer took over, he had un-packed his bag and put everything away in his room! This is not the first time this has happened, but it would be nice to know why, wouldn't it, because he always seems quite keen. On the other hand, we sometimes think that everyone seems so keen that he should 'enjoy' himself, that he thinks 'Oh, to hell with it lets say yes, and get them out of my hair, then I can pull out at the last minute' Not sure what goes on in his head of course.

I am off to France too but the weather has been poor and I think the pool will not have warmed up. I moan every year but usually enjoy myself when I get there.

When I started to read about your holiday Mishap I thought oh that is strange because we are off to France shortly and I don't want to go either because I had a nasty fall last year and am scared I will repeat the crisis again this. Compared to how you feel I am just making a fuss over nothing and really should pull myself together. You though deserve a break and to be well and truly cossetted (not sure I have the word right or the spelling but I expect you know what I mean). I think nanaej's idea would be perfect for you. If I had a magic wand I would make you win a fortune on the lottery so that you could take the ideal break. Whatever you choose to do I hope you have an enjoyable and relaxing time despite your feelings right now.

A friend of mine visited Iceland Galen, she loved it. You struck me as an adventuresome sort and I bet you will enjoy the challenge too, crutches and all.

DS and family were in Iceland in August last year and all the photos show them in fleeces and anoraks. The highlight of the holiday was when the temperature reached 12 degrees one day and everybody dashed out to have a BBQ.

Mishap, you know how sometimes when you're desperately looking forward to something, it turns out to be big disappointment? I find it often works in reverse too, and because of low expectations, you end up really enjoying yourself. You can only see the negatives just now because you're a bit low, but think of the sunshine, the wine, the change of scenery! Go for it, and have a brilliant time!

Galen, if it turns out to be too cold outside, you can just hunker down in the library, or some such! You'll have a wonderful time

When are you off to Iceland Galen? I will think of you shivering! I am told that it is very beautiful - but cold and pain are a difficult combination I know.

Gracesmum - I have an automatic car, and my injured left foot has nothing to do. We bought it when we realised that teh foot problem was not going to go away quickly.

You replies have heartened me and I thank you for them - I thought I would be told what an idiot I am being. It helps me to know that others have "chickened out". I will see how I feel in the morning.