Shows you have to take advantage of life when you have it.

A dear girl whom I have known for years is currently undergoing chemotherapy AGAIN. She's only thirty and has had bowel cancer twice and breast cancer twice. Yet she is still able to post on Facebook about the poor woman she met who had lost one side of her face and to be grateful that she is so lucky herself!!!

I think it might be a case of don't spoil the life you have by getting het up about trivia, taking offence over little things, fretting about what might have been and worrying about what might happen. Easier said than done.
But no point telling people they should be "thinking positive" when they are still struggling with the above. As most of us are.
Good mate of mine has a blood test 10 days ago. Next day called at work and summoned into the oncology ward as blood count was desperately low. Chemo starts next week.

I agree no battles with cancer, no heros, no brave fights. You suffer it, you curse it, sometimes you just want to give in (if only for a few hours) you then convince yourself that you can survive.
Those around you pray that you do.

I do agree, absent about this battle analogy with cancer; you get it, you have to get on with dealing with it in your own way. Sometimes I cannot do "Carpe diem" but mostly I try, but in my case it is to do with valuing what I have and with my survival thus far.

Gracemum

Don"t think for one nano-second I have not had ups and downs in my life,so I do feel empathy for others as is shown in several of my posts.

I am justing stating ^ MY ^ position at this moment in time .

No it doesn't. People die. They don't have battles with cancer; it's probably the most tedious cliché in the world. We can all choose what we do with our lives because they are our lives.

While not disputing the truth that life is for living as we will only get one bite at this particular cherry, I am mindful of those for whom "grabbing life by the b***s" might seem wishful thinking, those for whom, just putting one foot in front of the other is a daily mountain to climb. These "inspirational" quotes can ring very hollow when life is at its darkest and are not necessarily helpful. Yes I am happy for all those who can remain positive in the face of adversity - or who are lucky enough NOT to be facing it. No, I am not feeling particularly down at present for myself, but thinking of those who may have found waking up to another desperate day almost too much to bear.

Thank you JO 8 ,

Nonu you are lucky. You obviously have no stupid demons which won't go away. I'm glad for you.

I'd to say, Frank, that I've been an Ambassador for CRUk for several years. If I can do nothing else, I can talk! Have projector, will travel!

I had tumours in the bladder but fortunately they were non cancerous.
I was treated in the cancer area as it was easier as they had the correct equipment.
The doctor did say non cancerous tumours in the bladder are rare and they thought the fact I had never smoked helped.
The only thing I have regretted is going in to pubs when smoking was allowed as they did not think passive smoking was dangerous at that time.
Since the treatment I did frequent a non smoking pub for a time and I tend to go into a pub almost every other day now.
Most of the time I have a coffee or some other non alcoholic drink.
I had been visiting 1 pub for a year and a member of staff was very surprised when I ordered an alcoholic drink.
He said he could not remember serving me alcohol before but he certainly knew my name. I am almost certain he was correct.

Frank

Katy x

Well done Nonu !

Sorry , I have taken life by the B___S and am enjoying every God Dammed Minute of it .

JO8 I agree with what you say above. How exactly are we supposed to 'grasp' life and be happy. I've tried and failed. Sorry if I sound like a misery !

JO8 No that's fine. Thank you.

Sorry KatyK. Didn't mean to trivialise your post. Very, very sad for you.

she made me say it!

Right Nonu - this is a whisper. no shit sherlock

My friend died last week at 52. She had brain cancer. Six weeks or so ago she was fine - working, happy, seemingly healthy. I have had some in my close family die younger than this but it still comes as a shock. Not sure why.

ERR , Pardon ?

nonu NSS

I was sad to hear this bit of news. And it was more interesting that Frank had posted it (no dig intended, Frank) but I was curious about the title too. The message is there, loud and clear, and yet it's a rare person who makes dramatic changes. When I had a shocking bereavement all these thoughts came to me and yet I carry on just the same, bemoaning the passage of time! What does make a difference!

LIve every moment , we are not here rehearsing.

Re thread title. How? What are we supposed to do? This thing that will suddenly turn life into such a jolly jape?

#platitudesplatitudesplatitudes