Socialising

My OH usually does the organising, if it were left to me we would go nowhere. My working life was spent organising, I am now retired. Mind you I sometimes wish I got a look in for holidays as we have very different views.

I could have written almost all these posts myself

DH and I are the last people in our group of friends to still be working, albeit p/t.

Our friends often research & organise events: theatre/ meals/cinema/concerts etc and phone or email and say @are you free to come too?' We often say yes but then turn up at theatres etc wondering what it is we are going to see!!

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I don't mind organising the presents, cards, insurances, ordering and collecting prescriptions and everything else that keeps the household ticking over - but I do object to him saying "Have WE taxed the car?" or "What did WE get my mother for Christmas?"

If anyone rings us to make social arrangements DH immediately says 'I will hand you over to the Social Secretary'

So pleased I'm not alone.

nearly always I should have said

DH wouldn't organise anything though he might nearly (italics) organise a few holidays.

He is always happy to fit in with anything I arrange though.

OH! it's a man thing!

Well Nina you just never know! Give him a chance some time!
I thought the same about my DH, but he and my DD2 between them organised a surprise party for me for my 60th.
I was told I was going out for dinner after work, and to be fairly dressed up.
I was a bit surprised that we returned home about 8.15 but as we turned into our road I could see balloons hanging from the tree in our front garden.
It was quiet when I went into the house, but I opened the sitting room door to see it full of friends and family, including my DS who unbeknown to me, had flown all the way from Washington DC
It was the very best birthday present ever, but perhaps unsurprisingly DH has since reverted to type

My DH liked to do things on the spur of the moment. We might be in a pub on a Sunday lunchtime when he would suddenly invite everyone back to ours for a BBQ! The most outrageous thing he did was announce one Christmas morning that he had invited 3 people to have Christmas lunch with us! (they would have spent Christmas alone otherwise).

He was a very sociable person and could (and would) talk to anyone and despite the headaches his last minute invites caused me, they were always good fun and are still talked about today.

DH does all our theatre bookings and I organise holidays and things with friends. We sync our diaries every few days. It works for us.

I've even had to organise our trip to celebrate my 60th in January '14

I'd have loved a surprise, but if I waited for him to sort it, I'd be going no where !!
My mum always complained that dad was just the same.

We led quite a busy sort of public life before we moved, and had to keep track of what was on where. It's a bit quieter now, but still lots of things happening apart from family - fundraising etc. Can't let people down!

I still use an academic diary, and, as each DC's family has at least one teacher in it, and children at school, it works well.

Theseus, of course, keeps his online so that it syncs with all the other devices..apart from mine, from time to time!

Yes - I organise all that sort of thing - holidays, meet-ups, celebrations etc. If I didn't we would porbably speak to no-one from one year's end to the next!!

I don't think DH would know what to do with a diary. There sure as hell wouldn't be anything written it it.

Theseus is very organised, and we keep two dairies running and co ordinate them from time to time. We do have lots of things happening, so have to keep up to date! Mond you, if I just tell him, he forgets!

Men are just lazy when it comes to organising anything to do with friends or family. DH will happily suggest a barbecue or Sunday lunch and then leave me to do everything. He'll often ask me how friends are getting on and is quite surprised when I say, 'Why don't you phone them and ask?' He expects me to KNOW these things.

We're going to the Isle of Wight next month to catch up with old friends and quess who has organised it all???

On the other hand, you know what's going on if you're the one making the arrangements. My DD's OH is a lovely man, who has a habit of announcing about 4 on a Sunday afternoon, when she was planning a relaxing evening, that he has invited people for dinner that night and forgot to tell her. Just as well he is also a good cook.

Yes Petra my DH is just the same. Always happy do go anywhere or have friends and family over, but rarely thinks to organise anything himself. The only exception is golf but of course he knows that I would never arrange that for him although I have no problem with him playing.

That certainly applied in my marriage - I wonder if his mother ever had another Mother's Day or birthday card after our divorce.