What to do with the ashes?

Mishap Did your Dad have a favourite place? Maybe you could quietly scatter them there. I say quietly as I'm not sure it is really allowed. Other Gransneters might know. My Dads were scattered over the fields and by the river where he used to walk the dog.

My parents ashes were scattered together in a little wooded quarry near where they lived. No one is likely to build over it.

They had made it clear they wanted to be cremated but not what they wanted done with their ashes. They died two months apart but I did not collect the ashes until seven months later when my sister was coming up to help scatter them.

I collected the two urns from the funeral directors and didn't know what to do with them for the next couple of days. As they had both gone into different hospitals and never returned home I decided to leave them in their empty bungalow which was waiting to be sold. I left the urns on the dressing table in their bedroom.

Next day I realised that as the estate agents were taking responsibility for showing people around the house seeing two funeral urns sitting in the bedroom was not a good idea! I rather think my Dad would have been amused at that idea but I rushed round and put them in the cupboard.

My mum and dads' ashes are mixed together and all over the place in gardens and pots.

They were just ashes, not really my mum and dad, so I wasn't really worried about where to put them.

J's ashes are : under the magnolia tree I gave him for his last birthday; under a rose bush called Joie de Vivre which is in a pot outside my kitchen (I will take it with me if and when I move); scattered on the beach near the house; in the burn which flows into the harbour where he sailed; in Sydney Harbour which he loved and the rest are in a Laurent Perrier box in the study with my pc's monitor balancing on top of it - so he has been well scattered

We had mum's ashes scattered in the crematorium garden.
Mum had dad's buried and a rose bush planted in the gardens. We would have asked for mum's ashes to be buried with dad but it was a different crematorium.