Update

Jendurham and Grandmanorm You are such lovely people. Thank you for sharing your stories .

Grandmanorm

Grandmanorm stay strong and all best wishes to you and your DH and if you need it

Grandmanorm love and (((hugs))) to you.

My admiration for you both has no limits.I hope I will be able to cope in the same way if I ever have to.

Jendurham and Grandmanorm - brave and strong!!

You are right, Grandmanorm, you just do it.
For the last 3 months of his life I had to give Ken his insulin injections, test his bloodsugar, feed him, change his pants, put him in the shower, physically manhandling him onto the shower seat, put him on the commode, wipe his bum, etc.
The last 3 weeks, he was bedridden and we had hospice at home coming to wash him and change him, after it had taken me an hour to change a pad and wash him on New Year's Day and then he messed himself straight away.
Eventually you say, I can't do this on my own any more, when you cannot manage to roll him over and back. The strange thing is that the hospice carers had to work in pairs, but we are allowed to do it on our own.

grandmanorm,

Oh grandmanorm, I do hope things start getting easier for you soon.
So good that your family are supporting you both
Best wishes and (((hugs)))

Please ask for help. An extra visit might make all the difference to you from another pair of hands

Good morning, I am just wondering how folk who are squeamish or just can't look at open wounds, manage. (Like my DD)
DH's wound is still leaking copiously and I am changing the dressings twice a day. The district nurse comes every morning, week-ends included, and I do the late afternoon and late evening ones. My head knows I can do this fine. My heart just cries. I am thankful for the superb training I received from Edinburgh Royal Infirmary school of nursing all those 50+ years ago.
We are so lucky in that we have an excellent GP who visits twice a week.
Son has gone back to LA and Sydney daughter is now here helping. I feel very blessed that I have such a loving and caring family.
The Boston son is coming next month.
I am just tired. Ofcourse I am happy to do this and just glad I can, but it is so very hard.
Thank you again, for all the support you have given me. Gransnet is such a superb site for all sorts of reasons, I am happy to be a member.

We found the District Nurses were warm and caring and very reassuring. Take care of yourself Grandmanorm I hope your DH makes a speedy recovery.

All the best Grandmanorm and hubby!

ok !!

{flowers] from me. Take care.

Take care of yourself Grandmanorm and as already said, take advantage of any help which is available to you. Thinking of you and wishing your DH a speedy recovery

Been thinking about you a lot, Grandmanorm, and hoping that things have been going ok. What a really tough time it's been for you both. The emotions will be all over the place and although it's so good that you're able to attend to DH's dressings, it's bound to be hard going, with the wound that he has, and also because of your own closeness to each other. Look after yourself. Come on here when you have a minute and you'll always get a listening ear. xxx

Look after yourself as well.

Take care of yourself too (((hugs)))

Good luck to you both - do let us know how he progresses.

- you deserve a huge big bunch of them! I do hope you can use any help available though- this is exhausting and you can't afford to knock yourself out too.

Grandmanorm glad he's home, and clearly getting the best possible care. Look after yourself too - you are dealing with a lot here! for you.

Best wishes to you both. Hope it heals well in the end.

I hope that you get time some "me" time. You also need to put your feet up or you cannot function. Glad to hear that he is at home now.