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Atqui Sat 09-Nov-13 20:14:19

Why do men use the word for female genitalia as the ultimate insult for ( in the case of Marine A , literally) their worst enemies?Am I being over sensitive to find the c word so abhorrent when used in this way?

Deedaa Sun 10-Nov-13 21:55:20

Some years ago I was part of a theatre company in Cornwall and we were putting on Michael Frayn's Noises Off (The funniest play in the universe ever!) In one scene a character comes out of the audience and says "What the f**k is going on?" We had a lot of debate about whether we could use the word as it was not the sort of language our audience was accustomed to, but we kept it in and it brought the house down. The shock factor of using that one word, when the rest of the play never gets much stronger than "Oh bother" was amazing. It underlined how meaningless bad language becomes when every other word is a swear word.

Penstemmon Sun 10-Nov-13 18:31:02

anno yes it is..funny how the sound of a word can be harsh or pleasing! Difficult to know how much the association impacts on the sound!
Maybe we need to think of a new and positive euphemism. I also think that male anatomy is clearer and obvious whereas female is less obvious and is more an area than an item so 'naming' is is less accurate!

Sel Sun 10-Nov-13 17:50:20

We will become desensitised surely? The more one hears a word, the less it's impact. I remember men apologising in the 60/70s if they said f..k in front of me. And I was actually quick shocked to hear it. No man would apologise now for saying f..k - Kenneth Tynan (?) opened the door to the word's acceptability. The dilution happens, I find c..t an intake of breath, offensive word, I can't imagine anyone I know using it but then again, I'd have said the same of f..k in the 60s/70s.

Nonu Sun 10-Nov-13 17:26:52

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annodomini Sun 10-Nov-13 17:20:30

Don't you think, Penstemmon that the 'c' word is a rather ugly word in itself whereas vagina sounds quite attractive?

Penstemmon Sun 10-Nov-13 16:31:32

I do think the fact that people's view of the most abhorrent swear word is a slang term for the female pudenda, pudenda also meaning 'something to be ashamed of' reflects the second class status of women that some people still hang on to.

If a woman is a second class citizen then that part of her that is perceived as shameful must be the worst thing you can call someone when you want to insult them! That is why I dislike the use of c*nt as an insult.

In a way it is a word that needs reclaiming by women. I think there was a drive to do this once before but it was not very successful.

annodomini Sun 10-Nov-13 14:44:58

She didn't get very good reviews. Her detective novel under the pseudonym Robert Galbraith was much better.

FlicketyB Sun 10-Nov-13 14:09:09

I seem to remember that J K Rowlings novel for adults sank like a lead balloon and was being remaindered with in about a month of its publication date. Possible its expletives undeleted style put people off.

Atqui Sun 10-Nov-13 10:53:51

Good for you glam.

glammanana Sun 10-Nov-13 10:05:31

LizG you missed nothing ! in fact the copy I bought is at the bottom of the bookcase I never got past the 4th chapter total waste of money even though I got it at a reduced price.
I've always thought the "C" word very repulsive and there is no way I am a prude having worked on building site most of my working life but even those rough & ready builders would never use a word like that,how would the parents of these people react if they heard their offsprings spouting such expletives specially their mums,I know my DSs would be walking around with a ringing in their ears from where they had received a rather sharp slap from me,I'm affraid I am not politically correct when it comes to manners.

Stansgran Sun 10-Nov-13 10:01:23

The Spanish use the c word fairly indiscriminately. I must admit I cringe when I see it on Mumsnet. But I quite like the odd dip into Mumsnet to see what their lives are like.

LizG Sun 10-Nov-13 09:50:59

Glad I didn't read it then Anno thanks for the warning.

annodomini Sun 10-Nov-13 09:47:06

J K Rowling's first adult novel, The Casual Vacancy, was full of such expletives which, if used more sparingly, would have had more impact. What was she trying to prove? That she could write for grown-ups?

Iam64 Sun 10-Nov-13 09:29:49

I loathe the c word - it's always used aggressively and is in no way humorous. I have been known to use other 4 letter words, when I stub my painful toe for example. I detest the use of offensive language when it's directed at individuals in anger. I've challenged parents I've heard swearing at their children, loathsome behaviour.

Atqui Sun 10-Nov-13 09:17:15

Not that I ever thought it had much to do with love myself(cynical old bat)

feetlebaum Sun 10-Nov-13 09:17:01

Yeah - that Agatha Christie, with her effin' and blindin'!

Atqui Sun 10-Nov-13 09:16:02

It's almost as though some authors think its necessary now to use the word. I've noticed it in plays as well.
I agree that men seem to use the word prick instead of 'idiot' rather than as a venomous insult.Who knows what goes on when there are no women around?!and as for Mumsnet, I'd better steer clear then.perhaps the use of the word has changed alongside people's views on sex. When sex was viewed as something sacred and loving ,rather than just another gratuitous pleasure
I suppose women in particular may not have used the word as the young ones do now.

Charleygirl Sun 10-Nov-13 08:52:28

I bought a detective novel a while ago from a charity shop. It was a well scripted plot, with one major problem which I hated, the c word was on every second page at least 3 times. Totally unnecessary.

Marelli Sun 10-Nov-13 08:29:00

Oh, Granny23 - I like Iggle Piggle...sadgrin. Won't feel the same about him now! But I do think you may be right. I hate to see written, or to hear the 'c' word. It's quite foul.

LizG Sun 10-Nov-13 08:21:04

Granny23 that made me laugh out loud . . . Prime Minister Iggle Piggle . . . Perfect. Does he carry a red handkerchief?

Don't like any swearing (although such words have been known to leave my lips) particularly in writing and tend to ignore FB posts where disgusting words are used. 'Skurvy Nave' is one I hope to remember, preceeding it with Thou obviously grin.

petallus Sun 10-Nov-13 08:08:28

What a thread to wake up to!

grumppa I am amused that you write bastard bugger and cock in full but not prick grin

Granny23 Sun 10-Nov-13 02:03:30

Sorry, the 'we' should be 'he'.

Granny23 Sun 10-Nov-13 02:02:30

I was over on Mumsnet today and the C word was being applied to David Cameron and other members of the cabinet by the young MUMS posting there. I much preferred the comment where we was said to resemble Iggle Piggle. At least it was original and actually he does to a degree. grin

harrigran Sun 10-Nov-13 01:25:48

I had somebody post on my facebook page using this word with reference to the prime minister, it was a middle aged male, and I found it grossly offensive angry

grumppa Sun 10-Nov-13 00:18:24

Whoreson is a fine word indeed. I remember an edition of Henry IV I and II at school that replaced it with plaguey throughout.