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apricot Tue 19-Nov-13 20:56:35

I look after youngest granddaughter (2 and a bit) one day each week. Last time I ran out of nappies and she pooed half an hour before her father was due to pick her up. He was late so she had been in a dirty nappy for an hour. Both parents were furious with me. I should have taken it off and left her nude but I didn't think of that. I can't believe it's never happened to them that they could not change a nappy straight away. Of course I'd have changed it if I could.
Is this really the outrage her parents accuse me of?

Deedaa Tue 19-Nov-13 21:19:46

I think this is a situation where the only possible comment is "S**t happens" We've surely all been in this situation at some time and it might be unfortunate, but it's certainly not an outrage. No doubt veiled (or not so veiled) remarks will be made every time you look after her - I've got several things I'm constantly reminded of but it doesn't stop them being glad that I can help out.

tanith Tue 19-Nov-13 21:21:05

Well not exactly an outrage and they seem to of gone OTT to make you feel so bad but having said that I wouldn't of left her for so long in a dirty nappy even if I'd pinned a clean tea towel or hand towel on her I would of cleaned her up and made her comfortable .
I'm sure they'll calm down and realise its not such a total disaster..

positivepam Tue 19-Nov-13 21:24:20

I personally do not think this is an outrage at all apricot, have they never missed when she has pooed ever? It isn't always obvious straight away and I just wonder what they think was going to happen to her because she was in a soiled nappy for an hour? A slight over the top reaction I think, so please don't let it get to you and let her run around nude? I would say no to that unless you do not mind having poo deposited around your floor possibly? flowers

Notso Tue 19-Nov-13 21:27:56

Maybe this will be the prompt they need to make sure you are supplied with enough nappies when you look after her. Every cloud.......smile

grannyactivist Tue 19-Nov-13 21:27:59

Because I so well remember my poor siblings having sore bottoms from not being changed quickly enough it's always been one of my bugbears that a dirty nappy needs to be changed immediately - and yes, I too have used a tea towel in extremis. If I'm being honest I would have been upset if it had happened to one of mine, but also would have owned up to a certain amount of responsibility for it happening on account of dad's lateness in collecting her and for not providing enough nappies in the first place. I wouldn't have borne a grudge though.

glammanana Tue 19-Nov-13 21:44:20

I do think it unfair the response being that dad was so late, but I have to side with ga on this and would have used a hand towel or such for a short period as the skin tends to burn and redden very quickly if left and it is not pleasent,also at 2yrs + my DGC have always told my DD when they wanted to go to the loo for this but all little ones are so different.I certainly would not expect to fall out over this and would expect an apology for being furious with me.

positivepam Tue 19-Nov-13 21:59:45

Yes but surely if this child was upset or uncomfortable, it would have been obvious and apricot might have used another method, if she thought it was required. I really do not think there will be any permanent damage being in one for an hour and to be furious with someone who is helping them is just a little too much I think. Nappies nowadays are greatly improved and not like the old terry towel ones that might cause redness or soreness. One hour will not usually cause major skin problems.

joannapiano Tue 19-Nov-13 22:05:36

Perhaps it will encourage them to start potty training.

gracesmum Tue 19-Nov-13 22:19:41

I certainly would have been aware of it as would anybody in a 500yard radius!! If I ask DGS if he needs a new nappy he smiles beatifically and says No! but my nose tells me otherwise! Just don't get why no spare nappies provided?

LizG Tue 19-Nov-13 22:21:38

Beat them to it next time and when they bring your DGD to you next time count the nappies very obviously and say: 'I am just making sure you have brought enough nappies this time!'. It's not worth falling out over but I do think they have a cheek being cross with you

gracesmum Tue 19-Nov-13 22:22:59

Sorry I meant to preface that with " If that had been DGS2 ...."

harrigran Tue 19-Nov-13 23:36:17

Yes I would have cleaned up baby and used a towel as a makeshift nappy, baby poo can make little bottoms very sore.

annodomini Tue 19-Nov-13 23:53:27

I think if I were you I would have a secret stash of nappies just in case.

Flowerofthewest Wed 20-Nov-13 00:05:30

Maybe they should supply the stash of nappies! My little DGS will often always say 'No poopoo' even if he has done a poo in his nappy. If my nose does not detect it then he may stay in it for a little while. He is three and has been using potty but since he has been so unwell and little sister has been unwell it has slipped a bit. The other day he was running around his home naked (potty training) and my DD could smell the aroma. She said where is that smell .... he replied 'Down there mummy I pooed' (on the carpet)

I think that LizG's reply is so appropriate and may hit home. #ramblingasusual

annodomini Wed 20-Nov-13 00:08:50

That's nothing, Flower, my GD very neatly did a poo on top of a stereo speaker in the corner of her parents' bedroom.

whenim64 Wed 20-Nov-13 00:39:17

My nephew, aged two, opened the bottom drawer in his nursery, left a little present in there, then whipped his Noddy poster off the wall to wipe his bum! grin

gracesmum Wed 20-Nov-13 08:23:58

Is that his opinion of Enid Blyton then? grin

Flowerofthewest Wed 20-Nov-13 10:44:51

Don't you just love them?

harrigran Wed 20-Nov-13 12:17:04

Broughton House, Kirkcudbright. GD was two and she got bored inside the house so DH took her into the garden where she promptly ran away from him. When he caught up with her she had her bum suspended over a tiny bush and was very proud of her achievement, sorry Scottish Grans blush

Iam64 Wed 20-Nov-13 13:31:16

When, that is fabulous. Apricot - sympathy as I no doubt you thought he'd be arriving any minute.

Nelliemoser Thu 21-Nov-13 14:05:59

DD found DGS then about 10 mnths, nappyless before a bath standing holding onto the walls for support and peeing into the corner
DD described him as looking like a very drunk old man taking a pee in a shop doorway.

apricot Thu 21-Nov-13 18:30:49

Thanks for making me feel better! Apparently I'm forgiven (or indispensable) as, since then, I've been asked to babysit last night and can I produce a ton of fircones for the PTA?

annodomini Thu 21-Nov-13 19:25:01

GD had potty trained herself (true!) when she was 2. The family were going round a children's shop when they found she was missing. On investigation, they found that she had discovered a display of potties and was calmly making use of one of them.

petra Thu 21-Nov-13 20:01:15

This might upset you but I don't care as the thought of a toddler being in a dirty nappy makes me very angry. Can't believe you admit to it and see nothing wrong.