"Do not go" etc

Phoenix please let me send you a virtual ((hug)) and hope you had some rest last night,you are certainly going down the best route with Step Change as they helped DD when she was left penniless by xOH,the relief from the creditors was instant so please do let them take the strain and let them deal with finances for you.

I did - much good it did me!

I was just about to annsixty!

Me! And I'd love to say I understood the answer!

Phoenix I can't believe it! I literally found my hackles rising on your behalf!
How dare they! Keep angry gal - it beats the alternatives! (((Hugs)))

Hands up everyone else who had to google villanelle.

It has taken me all these years to realise that 'Do Not Go Gentle' is a villanelle...

Phoenix - another hug, bunch of flowers and cup of tea (it's too early for wine) on it's way to you. Rage all you need to, and be tender with yourself.

phoenix You named yourself, and you will ^rise from the ashes*.
You are strong and you are loved

Phoenix, I hope the morning has made you feel a little better. Sooner or late something will come your way. In the meantime you have a heap of friends on here - and all those pussies to give you some solace xxx

Love and hugs phoenix.Please rant and rave as much as you like. We're here for you and maybe today will be the day.

Good morning, Phoenix.
I hope you're able to gather the rage of last night and use it for some positive force today. It can be very effective!
All the best for today and here's some , & hope that helps just a bit.

I've just seen this phoenix and am so, so sorry that you feel so awful. Hopefully, seeing how much you are loved will have made you feel a little better.

Don't apologise, ever, for opening your heart to us.

And, as someone else said, write about it - we all enjoy your writing and so will a wider public!

I can offer no practical advice only love and (((hugs))) to you and mrp

No apologies necessary Phoenix. I'm sorry you are having such a tough time.

I agree with others who have mentioned your writing skills, the village newsletter may be just the place to start.

My best wishes to you & Mr P

Please, someone, tomorrow guide me back to this thread (yes, I know that seems a bit feeble, but I have to get my arse in gear to use the templates that Step Change have sent for me to contact the creditors to let them know of the current circumstances, and yes, it is now that bad)

As I've now started typing, I can't go back to look at the post that referred to my verse/poems type thing! May not be exactly anything to set the literary world on fire, but the village newsletter is asking for stuff, so why not give it a go?

Have a few other ideas in what is left of my brain, have polished the table thing, may post it.

Love to all, and sorry.

xxx

So sorry to hear that Phoenix. DP has been in the same position as you for two years so I can fully understand what you are going through. At present he has some min wage agency work through Adecco but it could end anytime. It has been very hard financially and I know he found it very hard when his son got married this year and we were unable to contribute much. Hope you find something soon

Oh my, what can I say, the messages that have been posted have made me cry all over again! But I would like to thank all of you, sorry to use a "collective" it might be seen as bad manners but hopefully you will all realise how much you are appreciated.

I really don't know what else to say to you all, and much love and thanks.

R xxxx

phoenix We are all wishing you some decent luck ((hugs))

You are a highly intelligent woman who deserves better than this and if there were anything in my power I would do it for you. Of all the months this must be the blackest and the bleakest but you and mr p have to stick it out both for each other and for yourselves. I can offer no healing mantra no comforting platitudes just my sincerest good wishes for a way forward for you both.

You are a highly intelligent woman who deserves better than this and if there were anything in my power I would do it for you. Of all the months this must be the blackest and the bleakest but you and mr p have to stick it out both for each other and for yourselves. I can offer no platitudes just my sincerest good wishes for a way forward for you both.

Well said!

phoenix I don't know your financial situation but from what you've posted it seems that there are some difficulties. I also don't know if you've sought any advice but I searched on the internet and it looks like The Money Advice Service is an organisation, which is free, that might be worth you having a look at. Also CABs are able to assist with contacting organisations to arrange reductions in payments until people are in a more stable financial situation.

Possibly other Gransnetters have more knowledge of what is available.

I hope you don't think I'm being presumptuous or interfering, but I know how stressful money worries can be and I was trying to think of something that might be of help.

I hope it's some comfort that everyone here is hoping that things soon get better for you.

(((hugs))) Phoenix Knowing that you have great writing talent, may I suggest that you get your feelings of rage and despair on to paper NOW, while they are real, raw and immediate. I suppose there is a chance that the exercise might be therapeutic but I am certain it would be a powerful piece of writing which might be useful/marketable at a later date.

I'd also advise an appointment with a debt advisor at the earliest possible date. They may know of avenues which you have not yet considered. Martin's Money Tips is also a mine of information. Collectively, Gransnetters could probably come up with solutions but only if you explained the position in detail, which would be most unwise on a public forum.

Rage away Phoenix - the employment situation at present is putting so many experienced and trustworthy people out of work - you are not alone in fighting this battle. I do admire your determination to find the right job and not to rely on benefits.

How broadly are you able to look in terms of type of job? It does sound as though the sort of job you are seeking is very high pressure with difficult-to-achieve targets. Can I just ask whether you really want this at this time? Could you think about looking for perhaps a lesser paid job that might be more relaxed? The strain of all of this seems to be taking its toll.

There are so many new graduates who are currently working in jobs that do not use their paper skills - that is a situation that is part of the employment market as it stands and is very unfortunate.

I admire your determination to aim high, but have a little niggle at the back of my mind as to what this might be doing to you.

I do not know your personal circumstances and there may be sound financial reasons as to why you cannot compromise about your aims.

I speak as one who has always been a bit of a risk-taker in some areas of my life. We have taken decisions that caused our income to plummet (even when the children were at home) because we judged that quality of life was more important. Some people thought we were mad, but now that my OH has PD almost as soon as he retired, I am glad that about the choices we made.

I hope that you do not take these comments amiss - they are born out of concern for your obvious distress.

I do hope that you can have your entirely justifiable rant and rave and then find some peace. I am sure that is what we all wish for you.

I cannot imagine what you have been through in relation to your son, and can only send kind thoughts to you.

Phoenix Big ((((hugs))))

We are all with you!
Ill pm you my phone number if you want somebody to rage at!