"Do not go" etc

Oh Phoenix, my heart goes out to you, losing a child is the worse pain you can ever go through. My son was murdered, some years ago and although you learn to deal with it, I know there will never be a day, when you do not think about him and think "what if".
If ever you want to PM me please do because I will totally understand and will always be ready to listen.
It will get easier I promise, but, it will take time.
I know there is nothing that I can say, so love and prayers.

"Rage, rage against the dying of the light"...

Do as much raging as you like, phoenix. You can do it safely here. ((((hugs)))).

Phoenix just wish I was there with you to give you a big hug and take you out for a drink.

Oh phoenix so sorry again (((hugs)))

Life is very shitty sometimes. You deserve a good rant and rave!! When I hear bloody government ministers going on about scroungers I think about you phoenix and how hard you try. Nothing I say can help but here are some and more importantly some . Thinking about you and hoping you can get through December. Be kind to yourself.

Phoenix, Shout and rage as much as you like on here.

I don't know what your line of work is but is there any agency work you can do? As Ana says, you may be over qualified but it sounds as though you could do with a confidence boost.

Have you looked at part-time work? My daughter has two jobs because with two boys to bring up she cannot afford to be out of work. Although she's a health and safety consultant they cut her hours last year. Her other job is general dogsbody at a health spa at not much more than the minimum wage but she loves it.

I can understand that this is not a good month for you for many reasons. As somebody suggested, what about a temporary job very locally?

Why not take Ariadne up on her offer? A coffee and a natter works wonders for me.

There's a big gang of us here for you, phoenix

Oh phoenix there is someone to talk to - lots of someones and we are all here with you. It is truly awful for you, I know, and you will find your own way through this. AND I am just down the road...

Ahh sorry to hear that news phoenix.

Thank you all, I'm lucky that I have Mr P. It used to be that at times only one of us would be in a dark place, not like that currently, unfortunately, but we will get through.

Grandmanorm , no matter how bad things might get, I don't think I could take my own life. My darling youngest son Jack hanged himself on December 12th 2008, and I could not put anyone else through that.

Off for a while, may get back later, if not tomorrow.

Much love to all.

Can't offer anything useful but want to send massive great, hugest ever love and (((hugs))) phoenix. Hang in there xxx

Phoenix, be kind to yourself! You've done everything to try to get work, and anyone would feel disheartened in your situation! Good advice from wise gransnetters above, and hugs from me xxx

Phoenix it is 'Do not go gentle into that dark night' and it is a lovely poem.

Rage away. Big hug.

phoenix hang on there, if you are in such pain do phone Samaritans, there is always someone there to talk to and listen to your pain. Please do this.

There is always someone here to talk to. I wish I could make you feel better. I can certainly listen and [hugs]

phoenix, I am truly dreadfully sorry that you feel so awful - what a disappointing, horrible day it must have been for you.

Are there any seasonal jobs you could apply for? Or supermarket vacancies? I know you'd be vastly over-qualified, but anything's better than nothing if you really need a job.

Good luck, and don't despair - something will turn up.