Anyone else on their own for Christmas?

Goose love the idea of odd colours of boots thought that I was being brave wearing odd socks!! lol I have perhaps I may throw caution to the wind and one day buy myself a lovely comfy pair !

You are wise one, Elegran.

Goose, Do you ring her?

Two of my children lived fairly near, and contact me about once every week or two (not religiously) to keep updated. My older daughter lives at the other end of the country, and hardly ever phones me, so I phone her every 3 or 4 weeks at a time when I think she wil not be up to the eyes in children, work, sport, and socialising with friends. We sometimes talk for an hour, on every subject under the sun, and at the end of it we ring off with her saying she will phone me next time, yes really. I reply that I will believe it when I hear it, we both laugh and that is that. We enjoy the contact, and I never ever criticise her - I know that they have many friends, the children have busy lives and have to be delivered here and there, she has a house to run, a job to go to and a life to lead.

I came home late yesterday evening from a Christmas meal with the other two parts of the family. As I sat on my own, she rang me and we talked for ages. She had spent an enjoyable but hectic day with inlaws but found pleasure in ringing me too.

If I had been critical in the past, and piled on the guilt for not phoning, she would see it as a duty and a penance, and interrupted her own fun saying "I must go and phone Mum or she will be miserable".

Whenever my parents used to visit my grandmother, she would comment on how long it had been since we had last been there, "Haven't seen you for a fortnight/week/whatever!", which did not make it a pleasant experience. I swore then that I would make my children want to contact me, not fear my comments if they did not.

dollie & Kate - thank you, you are too kind.
Goose I am so sorry, you must feel dejected and neglected. Let's hope your daughters are never in the same position or subjected to the hurt you must be feeling. Sadly younger ones tend to get wrapped up in their own whirlwind lives and forget the really important people in their lives. I would suggest you must somehow let them know how you feel as they just may be forthcoming with a reason why they act as they do and do not feel they need to make contact. Just a thought. In any event do come here for any contact you feel you need, as Liz has suggested it may just be thoughtlessness.

Goose I think I would phone them today and during the conversation mention that you had hoped to get a text or some contact. These things usually stem from thoughtlessness. Hope you have a better day today. Best wishes for 2014 ps and well done for getting through a difficult day.

ps hugs

your not a fool ps just a victim of circumstance...i know what its like not seeing anyone for days it can be really suffocating but we have to pull ourselves out of it and get on with our life the best we can....thinking of you... xx

Goose were you not tempted to text/email your daughters?

Many years' ago I was estranged from my sister for about six months, due to my now ex-husband's unreasonable behaviour. One day I just had to pick up the phone and make the first move.

know how you feel goose and how much it hurts...one day they will be in the same position as us and know how much it hurts...sending you hugs xxxx

Yesterday spent on own with mobile to hand, without a text or email from daughter(s) - still hurting today, I just want to (metaphorically) lash out at them for their total selfishness - Yes, I know it's 'not the answer' but I can't help how I feel and I'm just being honest

Ps when Ex-DH left me and I had to share the kids on Christmas day I used to upset myself imaging them playing happy families with my children! In recent years I have seen more of them and realised he is just as obnoxious with her as he was with me. Thinking of you and everybody who is alone

Well the day is nearly over, can't help thoughts of ex & her boyfriend playing happy families, laughing, joking and generally having a good time as we used to do then home to bed. Son & daughter say it may not be like that at all but I know her and she will make sure it is. Oh well, they say there is no fool like an old fool and I guess they are right. Hopefully the new year will bring new opportunity and state of mind. I am amazed at the apparent number of people alone on Christmas day, it should not be in this day and age and although I never see or speak to anyone from one day to the next I consider myself fortunate to have received a phone call from son, email from daughter, an email from daughters ex husband and a PM from a member on GN. Other than that total isolation and locked away in the house.
Watching an episone of Vicar of Dibley, again, on BBC1 before bed so here's wishing all a very peaceful night and better day tomorrow. Goodnight.

Thank you. My day was not too lonely- neighbours and friends rang me- it was the lack of family contact by email.

And from me

Charleygirl and Goose and all those who've had a lonely day

I agree Goose, it has been a very long day.

I have no family here, all of my cousins etc. are in Ireland, not so much as an email from anybody.

Goose I love your idea of wearing different coloured Doc Martins! That is style and attitude.

yes love, indeed, to all those who are on their own, or not with the people they love best. Spoke briefly to my DS's Gkds etc in Australia this morning. Hoping for a longer Skype tomorrow to hear all about it.

I have spent the day alone, a few tears this morning remembering my DH but that passed. Went for walk across the fields then had my lunch around 4.00. Put on Christmassy DVD's and have got through half a bottle of champagne! , more alcohol than I normally drink in two weeks!! Seeing in-laws tomorrow and going to neighbours for drinks later. This is the second Christmas I have spent alone since DH died - still don't find it easy.

Hi bikergran Yes, they're my original DM's. I have another 3 pairs in various colours and swap them around to whatever colour I fancy wearing on the day - quite often one green boot and one purple boot - I'm a bit of a weirdy gran

really sorry none of your DD have not txt you..

love the "boots" Goose are they Doc Martins...!

Gosh, what a difficult time some of you are having/have had recently.

I've only just got round to scanning this thread now, and what a lot of wonderful support just pours on to these pages from this community of online friends.

Love to all the survivors of Christmas alone, either literally or figuratively.

As Scarlett O'Hara says in Gone With The Wind, "tomorrow is another day".

To Goose and everyone else who is feeling lonely tonight....
to all of you - love, Alie.

that bags It was a good nut roast with roast pots etc etc. I have also been enjoying the Berliner Brot again. I have discovered that "my recipe" which came from one of my sister in laws German language teacher contacts has the mixed peel and the pear and apple spread in it and those do not appear in any of the other recipes I have seen. No wonder it is so fruity in flavour.