Anyone else on their own for Christmas?

withany Welcome if you are a new member. Geographically, where are you?

Hi withany and welcome. Seems to be the night for mustering together for support. Look forward to chatting to you.

Withany what can I say my heart goes out to you did you have any warning what was going on does he say any thing about the future or is there no future for your relationship either way you must be devastated as Phoenix asked where are you can any of us help

withany welcome. You'll find lots of love and support here so looking forward to chatting to you. You say you can be cut off during the winter snows.Where are you? Can we help? Hugs

Hi withany, the opening line of your post made me chuckle wryly. You clearly have a lot to give.

I signed up to the Winter Friend campaign yesterday, which is a pledge to look out for over 75s this winter. It sounds quite interesting too in that you receive weather updates etc. So it might be something you could get ok involved in.
www.england.nhs.uk/2013/11/27/samaritans-for-winter/

Once we know where you are, someone from the GN army will hook up with you, I'm sure of that.

Stray ok in there thanks to Kindle finger tapping error!

I will be alone on Christmas Day so will come onto GN for a chat - like you I can also be trapped if we get heavy snow (last winter I couldn't get out of 8 days - was going stir crazy by the end!). Let us know roughly where you are as there may be other GNs close by

How awful for you withany did you have no idea this was going on ? you never know he may be home quicker than you think with his tail between his legs as the grass is not always greener etc.
Make a list of all the friends you can contact if you are kept in the house by bad weather and promise yourself you will keep in touch with them and enjoy your skyping with your DGCs and best of all take care of yourself.

withany, how awful for you. Do keep in touch with GN - we are quite good at 'being there'.

I'll probably be on my own as well. DD hasn't decided what they're doing yet, but I suspect it won't involve me.

You are being incredibly brave. I admire you and your ability to be positive and not bitter. I hope the weather is kind to you so that you can get out and about. These grannetters art incredibly supportive, you'll be in safe hands here. They will pool their knowledge and give you great support. My best wishes

I won't be alone, but I will be at home and probably not doing much, unless it's a glorious day, in which case some of it will be spent tackling the garden. I'll look in to chat too, withany.

Withany welcome from me also. What a shocking thing to happen.

So far I am lucky with fanatic husband and so nut have lost. Y daughter and 3 Gra daughter due to estrangement.

Have found very supportive friends on here.

Keep posting we will all try help x

What more can I say, withany? Only that you have friends here and are welcome to drop in on any thread for companionship, a or some . I recommend soop's kitchen.

Welcome withany, I really feel for you. There is always someone online to talk to, some of us Grans are night owls too

I will be on my own too, same as last year and several previous years.
It's just 24 hours like any other for me. Actually, I quite like it!

Withany, maybe he's done you a favour, he sounds like a selfish b***ard to me (and I should know).

Lona . A warm welcome withany. You'll find lots of support, lots of blethering and also some very good humour amongst us.

I shall be on my Tod, thank goodness... It means I can ignore the whole business (while not in the least interfering with those who do want to whoop it up.) I had many wonderful Christmas days in the past, but no longer care to be bothered!

Enjoy! In my own way, so shall I.

Hi everyone, Thank you so much one and all, just reading the comments from so many of you has given me a much need lift. I live in South Wales between Ebbe Vale and Merthyr about 1300 feet up, get cut off by the sheer volume of snow that seems to fall and where I am there is no through traffic, no buses, nothing in fact.
In answer to so many of you No I didn't know it was coming and he walked out 6 weeks ago on Thursday, got himself sheltered accommodation by saying he was homeless and vulnerable, but has the money to visit the USA for 90 days. Anyway only a couple of days now before he is gone rushing off to relive his youth.
I have a really nasty chest virus, Doctor thought it was a chest infection but antibiotics not worked so I just have to sit it out, that frightened me more I think feeling so poorly and being isolated as well. I do have the company of my little King Charles spaniel Jac 11 months old and my husbands 10 year old unwell collie cross. I have managed to get them walked the last day by a man that lives at the bottom of the fields from me, he kindly gave them a run today, my legs are too wobbly and I am still doing the hot and cold sweat thing although temperature is normal.
Anyway, enough of my moans and groans my granddaughter is having her 5th birthday party at the week end, and although I can't be there she is going to Skype when she cuts her cake, hope the voice improves by Sunday or I will sound like a baritone when I join in the Happy Birthday song. Once again thank you so much for your kind responses, will keep on chatting.

Withany stay on here and you will find plenty of friends to talk to at all hours as far as I can see.

With your positive attitude I am sure you will cope but when it is tough GN will be there to chat.

It is very tempting to hope your husband comes a cropper when he gets to the USA. Sorry I know that is not nice but he is asking for it. I know an older guy who did pretty much the same thing with a Russian who came here and married him and then left him! Dill s.d deserved all he got!

Just get on with your life without him but don't make any drastic changes yet as you will need to know what life feels like on your own first.

Having a chest infection is certainly not helping. What a pity that you are so isolated. I am assuming that you can drive and he has not "borrowed" the family car.

Please make sure that this nice man cannot help himself to anything else, including selling your house, behind your back.

There will be a few of us on Christmas day having a chat here so please feel free to pop in as you fancy. You will never be and should not feel alone. Wales is a tad far from London for a coffee!!

withany please keep chatting and please look after yourself. The GN group is really good and was there for me when I really needed support. I would really have a good think about what YOU want before your fella returns and maybe get some advice from the CAB or a solicitor.Free advice from the CAB and free first 20 mins with selected solicitors nationwide. At least you'll be ready for him and know where you stand legally.
Personally I'd change all the locks and my telephone number .

Hey Withany wishing you good health and hope you get rid of that infection soon. Kate13's advice is good - get your ducks in a row while the bxxxxxd is away.

You don't say where your family (and granddaughter) lives?

Have no time for philandering husbands myself. After 30 years mine went off with another man and, no, I hadn't a clue either.

This year will be the first family Xmas for 6 years tho - two DD's, one sil and one gorgeous gs - so I'm going to make the most of it especially as I;m not the one doing the cooking.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing and if you want to let off steam this is the best place for it x