Anyone else on their own for Christmas?

I feel so sorry for those folk having to cook their lunch on a BBQ because they have no power and possibly their home is also flooded.

I am on my own but at least I am in a warm house. I will have steak and trimmings this evening.

Hi everyone. Just popped in to say I hope you are ok and you can get some enjoyment from today.

Hi Goose! I'll be around here most of today [my bolt hole]. bah humbug...

I am not on my own today but! to think that if I was.. that I could come onto here and chat away all day to likewise people/virtual friends would bring me great comfort..so to those who are on their own.. get the supplies ready! and party away on here and just because we and others may be with family and friends, don't think that we won't be thinking of you all take care everyone.

So far it feels much the same as any other day, apart from the fact the newspaper hasn't arrived and my landline died overnight Ho! ho! ho!

ps I'd drive over to the office and ask security to let you in to retrieve your lobster!

ps, I'm more likely to forget one of my grandchildren before I would forget about lobster, my favourite food.

I'm sure you're more than capable of throwing something else together for your meal. Bon apetit

Thinking of all the lovely Grans and Grandads whether on their own or wishing they were! So much positivity and strength of character shown by so many. You are all inspiring and I send you festive greetings and admiration.
Cheers! (Not too early is it?)

Let those of us who feel are are on their own party here.

Kate13 I am on my own and hearing what you have had to put up with I know where I would much rather be! I do hope that some appreciation is shown.

ps I do hope that you manage to make the best of the day foodwise.

Thinking of all those alone at Christmas. Ps you will more than likely make some delicious confection and surprise yourself.

My very best wishes to everyone who's christmas day brings sadness, my thoughts are with you this morning

I think a few of us have been there Kate. Obliged to have a jolly day socialising with people, given the choice, we would never dream of socialising with. All the hard work hosting dinner and even though it's not meant, a thank you would have been nice.

Best wishes to those on their own today. There will be lots of us popping in and out here for a chat during the day so I'll look forward to a chat later.

Yes, hugs to everyone who's going to be on their own. Enjoy your freedom to do what you want to do. I'm obliged to spend a Christmas with an estranged DiL and her parents and my DS and DGS. DiL's just had a barney to end all barneys with my DS. I know where I'd rather be.

Loving thoughts to all here - stay strong - you are amazing people, as Kiora says. Withany, thinking of you. xxxx

hi all I dropped in to say I hope you manage to celebrate Christmas in your own way. Stay strong, I admire your fortitude. Your all remarkable women.

I am also on my own so I will be popping in tomorrow to say hello. My meal tomorrow will be steak and trimmings with red wine.

Wandering into this thread will help stave off the increasing pressure to sit and cry.
Like you ps this will be my second 'festive season' on my own. From last years experience, being allowed to cook my own favourite meal (which happens to be egg, chips & beans(!) instead of the previous ritual of various roasts, veggies, puddings, etc etc - all taking blood, sweat and tears to provide and produce, with little or no thanks, just doing what I wanted, when I wanted, made a refreshing change, which I am relishing tomorrow.
I will here tomorrow and hopefully bump into others who are in for a chat..it's not quite so lonely after all

withany Our thoughts are with you at this difficult time for you. If it's any consolation I too am alone from now until 2nd January. I will not see or speak to a soul until then. This is my second Christmas alone and if any comfort to you is not half as daunting as last Christmas was, so there is hope. To top it all I have left my Christmas dinner in the Fridge at work including a lobster and 3 packs of smoked salmon. It will probably stink to high heaven by January. Oh well I will conjour something up if not a traditional dinner for tomorrow, I don't know what but it will do whatever it turns out to be. Keep in touch with your family on Skype, it will probably help. Whatever happens do your best to make the most of it and compliments of the season too you.

Well it's Christmas eve, I am ready for tomorrow, my DGD wants to Skype at about 7a.m. managed to convince her that she could start present opening when she got up and I would see her before I take the dogs out, then again when I get back. My son says e will keep Skype on all day and I can join them as and when I want.
They will be here in person on Friday, looking forward to to that, anyway GNs will pop by for a chat tomorrow, with your help I have got this far.
Thank you everyone enjoy yourselves. Do take care the weather conditions are frightening.

More ((( hugs))) Withany. You are right to take your time to sort yourself out emotionally before rushing into the horror that is contested divorce proceedings. Sunseeker is right. You need to have time to mourn the loss of your marriage, harder perhaps than a death because he CHOSE to leave you. He sounds as if he has lost the plot.

At least your sons sound as if they are being supportive.

Weather forecast for here (Nothern Ireland) very scary!!

Hi, please don't miss understand me, I don't want him back, he won't be coming back here, he will come back to his flat. I can't forgive what he has done, I could never trust him again. It was just his arrogance that got to me, that's why I asked him what value did he put on my life, lets start there.
As far as I'm concerned solicitor will ask for what I am entitled to, she is not emotionally involved and will deal with everything.
My sons both say, don't be pushed into anything if I want time to think about what I want rather than responding to what he wants then take all the time I need, just get solicitor to sort out lock changing protocol and the financial settlement I am due, and take it from there. I don't have to rush into divorce, unfortunately that and the finances have to run together, but will have that explained more fully when I see her. I think if we can agree the per centage split on property and assets before the divorce is applied for, it just goes through the court on a rubber stamp.
Enough of him
Weather here is terrible gale force winds and lashing rain, course the dogs still wanted to go out. One of the paths I was on was like paddling in a river and the mountain road the water was just pouring down it. Pleased I am 1300 feet up, think I shall need an aqualung to take them this afternoon! thank you everyone,

withany I hate to say it but if the b*****d could do it once he could do it again so I would give a lot of thought to taking him back. Been there, done it and got the T shirt!

Enjoy the time with your family, try not to give him much thought and concentrate on the serious matters with your solicitor in January.

You are not alone, there are many of us who have been down that route.

Try to stay strong withany. Congratulations on the weight loss, it will help with your confidence. I know what you mean about thinking everyone has someone but that is not true. Many of us are alone for one reason or another - but it's OK to have a little cry now and again, you are mourning the loss of your marriage.

When he comes back you may find yourself weakening but you must remember that he made the decision to go off at a time when your son needed the support of ALL his family, he left you alone at a family orientated time - Christmas.

However, if you do decide to give him another chance, be sure to set some ground rules.

Enjoy your time with your family and don't forget there are a lot of us who will be alone over Christmas so if you are feeling a bit down - come onto GN for a chat.

Well thank you all for your kind words and to PS. I am taking your advice he is only allowed to take clothes and toiletries no more assets. He has emailed me today to ask if I will again make him an offer of the financial settlement I really want, for him to re consider because he says once that is done everyone(don't know who everyone is) can move on.
I'm afraid without thinking I said I wanted my life back, I didn't want to be pushed into this new life, I wanted to be loved and secure again, I wanted my retirement years to be peaceful and safe. What price would he put on my life, make me an offer, my solicitor email address then followed.
Heard nothing back of course, and I hope I don't I am seeing my solicitor in early Jan. and will talk to her about taking my time, I feel I am being rushed into things divorce and house sale have to go together, and I think I would like a bit of breathing space where I can think things through properly I am just running on empty dealing with things as they arrive.
The latest required an electrician and I asked my DH if he would pay for half. DH responded with he would pay half of the bill for ME but I would have to wait for the money as he was a bit short!! told him electrician didn't do credit I would have to sacrifice some of my jewellery to pay for it, and add the bill to the divorce pot. He was not paying for ME there was no ME it was for the home which he has a share in and in his interest to make sure it is kept safe and secure.
Didn't have a good day anyway, went to town and everyone seemed to have someone it just rubbed I expect so I had a little tear in the car, then the first email I get is DH this can all be left now until he come back to U.K. My lovely DS DIL and DGD are coming to stay on 27th just for a couple of days but I am so looking forward to that, we are going to have Christmas again, and a toast to his continuing good health.
I am trying for an early night tonight nearly midnight again. My wrinkles under my eyes are getting bigger, I am hoping once I get some decent sleep they will get smaller. I have lost 2 stones 3 ibs since fist week of November and lost 2 dress sizes just 2 more dress sizes to go, I'm hoping that will happen by DH's return, the new hairstyle and some really smart clothes, o.k. so I'm waiting for a new knee, but my walking stick is classy. Want DS to see what he has thrown away.

Off to bed now. Once again you have come to my rescue.
and Hugs to you all.