Anyone else on their own for Christmas?

Hi everyone, not a good day for me found myself in tears, as realisation dawned, DH had been emailing me from hotel, but his new lady was at the hotel too. Looks like she paid the bill as well, I think that makes him a Gigolo... and a lot more besides. Anyway he passed the test and she has taken him to her home in Virginia. He says he will be back end of February, however, HE has made a hospital appointment for 21st January, this replaces the one he had waited 18 months for on the 10th Dec. I expect the next story will be he had to come back early to sort divorce, after 45 years I never had him down for a liar, but he's very good at it. All our friends and family think he may be having a nervous breakdown, well if he is he's been having it for at least 8 months. Perhaps that is the card he plays if he feels he wants to come back to me, sorry not happening, my heart would take him back but my head says get a grip you are better off without him.
I think the tears today were also a bit of self pity, like what am I going to do, where do I want to live, and so on, I have been with him since I was 16, and have never been on my own before for so long. Anyway on a brighter note, I have applied on line for deeds to home, thought they might be useful, also started to print out the emails we have exchanged, just in case it gets really bloody.
But this is a nice bit that has happened this week.
My granddaughter, was in the school play, she said she was an angel but she had been promoted to the star that guided everyone to Jesus. She said she had to do 2 performances I in the afternoon, I in the evening and she was so tired the day after when the class went to see a pantomime quite a lot of them had a nap on the coach, I was really wasted she said she is just 5. We skyped whilst she cut her birthday cake and I spoke to her yesterday, looking at her makes the last 45 years worthwhile.
Thank you all for your comments and support to all of you great GNs

I know what you mean . there was a big American airbase round here and many of the local girls married American servicemen.

No, not at all insensitive, I was only joking. I can't really complain as we are happy for them and very grateful for Skype. It's when things go wrong that it is hardest to be three flights away! They both married American servicemen which is why they are there. They have lived in a few different states so it has been an education for us really.

I can imagine , that was a little insensitive on my part.
How come they are in The U.S. if I may ask ?
x

Nonu - not really lovely as I miss them so much!. The eldest lives in NW Florida and the younger ( mother of our precious GDG) is in SW Georgia but her DH is in the US navy so they will be moving next year. Am hoping he gets posted to Italy as that is really handy for us ( we are in Malta). Trying not to get my hopes up too much! We will be visiting the girls in the US in Feb. and I am counting the days

Bella , how lovely , where do they live ?

rowantree .
that is good do hope you enjoy your time here !

Nonu, yes, kind of - only recently started posting - I became a grandparent in August so I'm fairly new to it!

My husband has a ten year visa as he has a Maltese passport and Malta only became part of the visa waiver program recently. We don't go on business but it is useful to have if you need to stay over the 90 days, even by a day or two, as they are so strict. We have two daughters living there so you never know.

Yes true , but how many people get a visa unless they go on business ?
90 days is usually considered sufficient for a holiday.

On the visa waiver programme you can stay 90 days. If you have a visa you can stay 6 months.

Hello Rowantree , are you a Newbie ?

(((hugs))) Sweet Cheeks .

Oh Nonu your right! I should of looked it up before giving my two cents worth!

English people can stay in the US of A for normally 3 months .
Any longer and they would be denied entry if they wanted to return .

Stiil hope that Withany maybe sorts things out so that he could not .
(((hug)))

Ohhhhh, goodness, I've just read your story, WIthany, having just posted mine - and I feel very humble and ashamed for feeling as low as I do when you are showing such courage and strength in what is a terrible, painful situation. I hope your chest infection clears soon and that your positive attitude and strength continue.
How was your granddaughter's birthday and did she Skype you? Do they live too far for you to go and stay for a while? I hope your family are giving you the love and support you need and deserve and I hope your OH slips up badly in the US and he learns his lesson somehow (but totally agree with the poster who suggested not making any drastic changes just yet). Thinking of you and wishing you well. X

I think I read someone can stay for six months.TBH the U.S. is so big do you really think they would bother to look for a OAP? I don't think so! We wouldn't have so many illegal Mexicans walking around.You can't go up to someone and ask someone if they have a right to be here.As long as he doesn't break the law no one will care he is here.

withany did that b*****d go to the USA for 90 days? How long is he allowed to stay there legally and what will happen when his time is up? He will be thrown out I would have thought.

If possible you do not want to spend much money on solicitors fees, I agree with *JessM" but could you to sort something out with him to try to keep costs down or is he becoming too nasty?

You must spend some time thinking about what you want, financially, materially and most importantly, emotionally.

Withany breaking up, is, definitely, hard to do. I would never want to relive the months after I left my ex but you will come through it. I know of a really good counsellor (if she is still in practice) in Cardiff and someone like that can help you move along faster.
And talking of Cardiff, once you have shaken off your bad chest why not treat yourself to a day out there, doing things you like.
In reality the solicitors will have to sort it out but it will be cheaper if he agrees to something sooner rather than later.

Are you near any of us? If you look at the ones of us that are blue, you can get an idea of where we are,

Hi everyone, as you DH is currently with his new lady,he is now throwing his toys out of his pram, because he doesn't like the financial split the law says I can have. He is now threatening to let solicitors sort it out, and with luck there won't be much left. This is because he thinks I should agree with a 50/50 split!!!
Until he emailed and got stroppy I was doing o.k. I had decided I was going to put up a few decorations, made an appointment to have new hair do next week, and since I have lost nearly 2 stone a couple of new outfits. I decided I would make an effort otherwise he had taken Christmas as well.
He is being really nasty now, you know what it's like, on my own, still struggling with this chest infection and everything seems worse.
I am using my kindle to post this and it has predictive text, I type one thing and something else appears, driving me mad. Anyway gripe over, it is such a relief to tell someone.
I just wish I could hate him, but I don't feel anything, am I still in shock? No empty feeling in the tummy no feeling of loss, perhaps it's a case of no sense no feeling.
Thank you all for your support it has made such a difference.
Hug to all of you.

Yes, a bit of poaching

Probably do the party in the new year. Too complicated for next two weeks, but on the other hand don't think I can be bothered at all.

newist Did you catch it yourself ?

Galen glad you are feeling brighter - its not in your nature to be down for too long. Enjoy the visit from your family, no matter how short. You will get to see them open their presents Christmas morning. If you can still see straight after all that champagne come onto GN and chat to those of us who will also be alone.

I had been looking forward to getting up late but my brother has suggested that we "Skype" each other so I can talk to Mum. She spends most of the day with the family but usually goes back to the nursing home around 6.00 pm their time, that makes it around 8.00 am here. No way am I going to be sitting here beaming a picture across the world of me still in my dressing gown with no make up!