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Awareness of death

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Mishap Wed 01-Jan-14 19:36:50

My dear little GS (5) at lunch today asked me where my Dad is and I told him he had died - and he asked my OH and got the same response. He then said:"So neither of you have a Daddy" - it was clear from his body language that he had suddenly been struck by the awareness of mortality. A profound moment, which I hope we managed to handle sensitively. I cannot remember this moment of realisation being so obvious with my own children - but they had had hamsters and cats etc who had died.

FlicketyB Sun 05-Jan-14 16:57:59

DGS, three and a half, is obsessed with killing people. He is not that interested in guns but loves knights and dragons. He went through a phase where he was always holding a plastic knight's sword or Viking axe at somebodies neck (often mine) while telling them that he was killing them. This has passed, but as I have mentioned on other posts. when we walked up Dragon's Hill at Christmas he told me he had seen a dragon on the hill and that it ate mummies and daddies. When half joking, I said what will you do if the Dragon eats your Mummy and Daddy he said quite cheerfully that DH and I could be his new Mummy and Daddy!

It was a bit disconcerting. He comes from a happy home with gentle parents who are devoted to him and his sister and both his father and grandfather are gentle non-violent men. Mind you he also likes playing football, which also worries his father and grandfather, neither of whom have ever willingly kicked a ball or shown anything but revulsion at the thought of having to watch a game!