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petra Sun 26-Jan-14 12:06:44

We stayed with friends on Friday night and once again, my OH just threw his clothes on the floor. He does this all the time and it's really getting to me now. I told him I am not going to iron anymore of your clothes. It probably wouldn't worry him in the slightest, but it would reflect on me.
I wish I could.

nightowl Sun 26-Jan-14 12:14:39

I don't understand why it would reflect on you petra. My OH throws his dirty clothes on the floor. I think it's a horrible habit but he refuses to change so I end up picking them up and putting them in the laundry basket, just because I can't live like that.

I don't do any if his washing or ironing. I haven't done it for years and I'm not about to start now, especially since he's retired and I'm still working.

Mishap Sun 26-Jan-14 12:18:09

Oh gosh! - sometimes I throw my clothes in the floor at night!!

janeainsworth Sun 26-Jan-14 12:23:53

Yes, me too Mishap, but then I do pick them up in the morning and put them in the laundry basket myself wink
And I do Mr A's washing and ironing. blush

Grannyknot Sun 26-Jan-14 12:27:00

My son refers to his 'floordrobe' smile

I wouldn't pick up any other adult's clothes from the floor, but I do kick nudge them into a heap next to the laundry basket smile (and out of sight).

Nonu Sun 26-Jan-14 12:27:39

I fold ALL my clothes VERY neatly when I take them off at night !
laugh .

nightowl Sun 26-Jan-14 12:28:43

No I don't mean my OH throws them on the floor at night! I mean he throws them on the floor and leaves them there, growing in numbers, breeding and spreading for days and weeks until he decides to wash them. Believe me, I've put it to the test!

And we came to an amicable agreement years ago that we will do our own washing and ironing.

tanith Sun 26-Jan-14 12:43:44

I must admit to laying my clothes over the back of a chair and OH now does the same and throws his dirty underwear shirt and socks into the laundry basket. I do all the washing and ironing though as he works and I don't. Don't really understand why anyone throws clothes on the floor unless I suppose there is nowhere else to put them.

posie Sun 26-Jan-14 13:01:10

When my daughter & her partner moved in together he just threw his dirty clothes on the floor at night. She gave him a couple of warnings to the effect that if clothes weren't put into the nearby laundry basket then they wouldn't get washed.
He continued throwing them on the floor & seemed very surprised when he ran out of clean clothes! He had to scrabble about amongst the clothes on the floor sniffing them shock & looking for the least dirty!

Lesson learnt though.

LizG Sun 26-Jan-14 13:29:40

My OH is very good at putting clothes in the laundry basket but as to ironing, I've said it before, what's that?

Agus Sun 26-Jan-14 13:37:17

That's the way to do it posie. Start off as you mean to continue grin

janerowena Sun 26-Jan-14 13:40:36

My daughter used to do that. I just picked them up and shoved them in a black plastic binliner in a corner. She hated it but it made me feel so much better. Oh does it, but picks it up and sorts it at weekends. I can cope with that.

Galen Sun 26-Jan-14 13:44:32

My husband always put his either on or by the laundry basket. Never inhmm why?

thatbags Sun 26-Jan-14 13:51:24

washing and ironing is work, tanith.

thatbags Sun 26-Jan-14 13:53:26

Some people even get paid for doing that kind of work.

Galen Sun 26-Jan-14 14:01:18

Yes! I pay my cleaner to do it. She and Gary have been in Tenerife for the last week and I'm running out of tops.
Oh! A beautiful rainbow has just appeared. A sign of God's covenant with mankind that he won't flood the world again!hmm
Tell that to the people down the road from me on the Somerset levels.

Nelliemoser Sun 26-Jan-14 14:07:30

petra You need to decide that it does not have to reflect on you unless you let it! Stop believing it is your job.

Do as others suggest if you don't like the dirty clothes on a shared floor dump them in the bottom of his his wardrobe or in a bag in the other room. It might just be fair to warn him of the starting date for your new routine.

I am not a good hanger up of part worn clothes. I do not like to put them back in the wardrobe without a good airing. I have too many memories of my mum putting clothes back into the wardrobe when they should have been washed. She always lost track of what needed a wash and what did not.

With my "only fit for the house" trousers I wear the same pair until they look bad and then put them in the laundry basket.

glammanana Sun 26-Jan-14 14:18:41

I have to admit to not being very fond of ironing and that mr glamma is
very good at taking care of it,we have to make sure the clothes/socks etc are put into the washing basket as our bedroom would look such a mess if we didn't and I can't cope with that,I do fold used clothes as opposed to rehanging them but they are folded onto the shleves next to the hanging space and worn for a few days ie: jeans/jumpers/joggers stuff that really doesn't need re-ironing but not bad enough to go into the washing basket.

Iam64 Sun 26-Jan-14 14:20:48

Petra - it can't reflect on you, if you don't let it. Whoever puts washing on in our home, washes whatever is in the washing basket, that will mix ok (i.e. no blacks and whites together). I do my ironing, mr iam does his, and he also did the children's ironing, whilst I took them off to riding/dancing etc at the weekend.

Gally Sun 26-Jan-14 14:22:47

I don't have a laundry basket apart from the one in which I transport the clean washing to the washing line. I and the late Mr.G put chucked our used clothes on the floor beside the chair upon which the to-be-used-again clothes were draped, and then in the morning, scooped them up, descended to the lower level and lobbed them into the laundry room ready for washing. grin. I have to add that it was always I who then transferred the dirty washing to the machine, dried it, ironed it and put it away..... I continue this practice now I am solo - a leopard never changes her spots!

rosesarered Sun 26-Jan-14 14:22:50

Seems that men aren't quite as neat or clean as us women. My DH leaves clothes next to [but on the floor] the laundry basket [his own basket] and then pops them in there come morning.He just won't do it at night time for some unknown [even to him] reason.

TriciaF Sun 26-Jan-14 14:24:26

Not husband but daughters - our 2 boys were always very organised, but the girls (shock] . So I warned them first and the next time just threw all the clothes lying on the floor out of the bedroom window.
After that they improved, I did the washing and they had to do their own ironing. I was working fulltime at the time so quite short-tempered.

Gally Sun 26-Jan-14 14:24:30

.....the trouble is, men had mothers wink

Ana Sun 26-Jan-14 14:25:35

petra probably means that if she didn't iron his clothes he'd just wear them creased, and people would think she wasn't looking after him. It's all very well saying she shouldn't feel that way, but I can understand it.

nightowl Sun 26-Jan-14 14:50:59

I would hate to think anyone thought I was looking after my husband. FGS he's a grown man! If either of us is ill, we look after each other, and we might choose to do kind things for each other at times, but I don't accept the concept of 'looking after' another adult.