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My very surreal evening

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janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 12:30:06

I was due to help DBH's school with their production of Bugsy. I was asked to go in for 6.30pm, DBH met me and said that I wasn't needed after all, just to relax and have a glass of wine with a few friends, members of staff, who all seemed very pleased to see me and extremely solicitous. I got a bit of a surprise when I discovered that the play was Joseph, not Bugsy at all and thought I must have misheard. We finished our pre-play drinks and one of the teachers stepped forward and announced that if all the governors and Mrs. Janerowena would like to step forward, she would escort us to our reserved seats. I was rather wondering why I had a reserved seat, but not too much as I often sit at the front so that I could see DBH playing in the orchestra, if he is doing the sound desk I usually sit in there with him and help. But I couldn't see him in the orchestra, and when I thought about it I couldn't remember exactly what it was that he had said he would be doing. I realised I didn't have a programme, Teacher-friend hadn't given me one as she escorted me to my seat and I couldn't find one on my chair, I stood up and looked down the back to see if it had slipped down (they are like cinema seats in that theatre). No programme, but as I didn't know many of the children it didn't bother me. Although they all seemed very smiley children, several of them looked at me and smiled. A surprising amount of them, in fact. I started to wonder if I looked funny!

I was pleased to find that I was seated next to DS's best friend's parents, they have a younger son who was in the production. They seemed a bit quiet and reserved, but I put it down to jetlag. They have a weird life, he is English, she is American, she works in Singapore and he works in the USA, they lived over here for a few years to educate the children but have just moved out and appear to have houses in Malaysia, USA and Singapore. So I just thought they were exhausted. More staff friends appeared and said they would meet me for drinks in the interval but DBH was busy sorting lighting so wouldn't see me in the interval.

The play was brilliant, the first half ended and I tried to go over to DS's old clarinet teacher, but she melted away. Teacher friends appeared and escorted me to the old hall and a glass of wine, entertained me beautifully and I was just starting to think, this is all a bit odd... They escorted me back again to my seat.

The second half started, Joseph was starting to be known for all his dream-deciphering and the Pharoah wanted to meet him. There was a brilliant piece of kit on the stage, a pyramid with a large Pharoah lit up on the front, an arm would emerge through a slit in the painting and send servants scurrying from time to time, very funny. Then came the moment (have any of you seen Joseph?) when the Pharoah/Elvis emerges from the pyramid to ask Joseph to decipher his dream for him, and lo and behold, I knew that voice... :D I shrieked. Everyone, but everyone was in on it. Staff, kids, parents, governors. They all bloody knew except me! He was brilliant. DBH is funny but quite strait-laced. And there he was, in tight white jewel-encrusted trousers and vest, with a great big headdress and masses of Egyptian eye makeup, strutting his stuff a la Elvis. It was quite sexy really... :D Afterwards everyone said none of them had been watching him at first, they were all watching me to see my reaction! :D I wish I hadn't made the teachers raspberry muffins the other day now...

Anyway, no I didn't have a clue. Everyone kept saying, surely you guessed, he has been practising the song and the dance for weeks. The only thing that stuck in my memory was the other day, when I said I didn't like Elvis! :D He looked a bit concerned.

The headmaster in the final speech at the end asked what I thought of his performance. I just said 'Does he get to keep the costume?' All the mothers laughed, DBH said he got some very knowing looks and smirks yesterday.

So, we went to the pub afterwards. Sadly he changed first! So many people either avoided me in case they let it slip, or were a little too solicitous in case I decided to go to find him, and I still didn't twig! I really thought the teachers were all being so nice to me (stopping me from going looking for DBH) only because I made them raspberry muffins because they were all suffering from end of year stress!

It's not the first time he has done something like that, and when people get suspicious and say, surely you must have known he was up to something, I can only think they are obviously married to someone a lot more transparent than DBH!

I laughed so much that I cried and my nose ran. I lost all my makeup.

janerowena Sun 29-Jun-14 12:35:23

When DBH was Head of Music at another school, he produced it there and my daughter was the baker. She has an amazing singing voice but he had to be very careful not to keep giving her major parts! I remember that production very fondly just because she was in it.

harrigran Sun 29-Jun-14 10:46:33

Something very special Jane.
I remember DD's school performing Joseph, the children loved it. DD not only sang in the house but played the tunes on the piano too, we were all word perfect too smile

seasider Sun 29-Jun-14 09:59:12

I think it is great. What a lovely surprise! I love Joseph and was thrilled when my DS had the part of Joseph in the school production. I was so proud and I cried when he sang Close Every Door to Me. I was word perfect myself after weeks of rehearsing! You reminded me of a school performance where three of our most serious old teachers appeared on stage, with dresses modelled from sheets, as the Supremes. They certainly went up in the pupil's estimation.

PRINTMISS Sun 29-Jun-14 09:24:35

I have really enjoyed reading all this, and I think it is great jane. I like people who do things quite out of character, and I agree with Granny children (oh! I hate the word kids) do love it when grown ups join in the fun.

ninathenana Sat 28-Jun-14 23:05:27

I want to see the video sad
I'd have been thrilled to jane but it wouldn't happen in a million years with my DH.

janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 21:23:25

I shall stick a photo of him on my profile, just to show he isn't Dearest Bald Husband!

grannyactivist Sat 28-Jun-14 19:28:21

Aw - what a lovely surprise for you janerowena. It will give you both something to smile about for a long time to come I expect. smile

glammanana Sat 28-Jun-14 19:09:32

What a special surprise for you JR my chap could never keep a secret like that grin well done to your DBH,I have one of those too but he is my Dearest Bald Husband.hmm

harrigran Sat 28-Jun-14 18:53:02

I am guessing dear better half grin

Galen Sat 28-Jun-14 18:47:12

Ah! Thanks.

janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 18:41:53

Dearly Beloved Husband, Galen. Because he is. Even though he can be a pain in the neck at times.

Galen Sat 28-Jun-14 18:27:28

What does DBH stand for please?

janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 18:22:39

I was thrilled! That was exactly the right word for it. It cheered me right up.

janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 18:21:39

No. I am well 'ard. And where would we be if we didn't have a few hardened cynics like jingls to make us question the Whys and Wherefores?

I do know what you meant petra and am grateful for all moral support. But I quite like a little lively debate now and then, as long as it doesn't get too personal. I too have sucked in between my teeth at the realisation that a young head of music was in danger of making it his show at a school concert, so I know what jingls meant. DBH isn't like that, which is why it all came as such a shock. I was more shocked by his duplicity than by his talents!

Grannyknot Sat 28-Jun-14 18:19:55

Kids love nothing better than when the "grownups" join them in having fun, Jane I am not at all surprised that he is now seen as being cool.

I enjoyed reading your post (didn't know what to expect from the title) you were so clearly thrilled, it was contagious! smile

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 28-Jun-14 18:15:15

That was to Petra.

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 28-Jun-14 18:13:59

Yes. Perhaps it was a bit mean to rain on js parade. But we're all big strong girls are n't we? No tender little flowers at our age. smile

janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 17:14:25

I just went to the last couple of hours of Sports Day, the kids are all very proud of him! It appears that he is now officially 'cool'. grin Head is quite jealous I think.

petra Sat 28-Jun-14 17:12:02

In case the the original poster thought I was referring to their post, I wasn't.
I'm sure there are some who know what I meant.

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 28-Jun-14 16:28:31

Oh right. That puts a different complexion on the whole thing.

I can think like that quite easily Grannyknot and still would be doing so without the subsequent info.

petra Sat 28-Jun-14 16:23:27

Wonderful.
I don't know why, but the song Don't Rain On My Parade came to mind reading this thread.

whenim64 Sat 28-Jun-14 14:26:10

Much respect to your DBH, jane flowers

Grannyknot Sat 28-Jun-14 14:24:38

jingle how can you possibly think like that?! I bet the kids were delighted to be part of something like this. Far from stealing the limelight, it would have made their day, as it clearly did for others. I'd put money on that.

Jane what a fabulous, wonderful night. Swot up on Elvis - quickly! smile

janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 14:17:08

Yes, he was a parent - but our son moved on from that school 6 years ago.

janerowena Sat 28-Jun-14 14:15:51

Not a parent jingl - he is Head of maths! But is also a musician and used to be a Head of music. The children in that production were all 12 and 13 years old, none of them could cope with the part/wanted to audition for it so he was volunteered stepped in. He is a very popular teacher (despite teaching maths!).

There's lot of history behind it, jingls, the year before last, the much-loved Head of music died suddenly of cancer so DBH had to take his place for the performance. Understandably, there was a lot of debate as to whether to cancel it.

Then almost exactly a year later, last year the Head of drama collapsed on stage at a rehearsal and died, in front of the last few children to straggle home. Her family asked that the show continue, but this year some of the children were a little reluctant to audition, as a 'jinx' scare had gone around. So DBH stepped forward, citing the lessons he had done on chance and probability. As he is very much alive and kicking, I think they believe him now. grin

The kids were fabulous, but so was DBH. And he didn't take a final bow with them, either. He isn't a limelight hogger by nature - except when it comes to singing as guest tenor in big choirs, and he is paid to do that!