I upset DD

My son goes through my cupboards for out-dated things like spices. I don't mind. I don't have to do it for him as he's an ex-chef. I occasionally throw out something from other DS's fridge but not when he or his partner is present. They don't even notice!

Grovel, grovel and grovel again!!

Mothers and daughters hey;) - yes, grovel, have a drink together and a laugh, and say you were just trying to help- because you admire so much how she manages to cope and could never do it yourself, etc. Don't let it fester ... but yes, i tread very carefully around DD1's kitchen and fridge... DD2's is always perfect and immaculate- they are like chalk and cheese those 2:

I think you overstepped the mark, sorry. Your DD, at 46, is hardly a student who needs to be guided in the kitchen department.

I do it to DD2 (40) but wouldn't to DD1(45). DD2 tells everyone I am a mad fanatic about food hygiene and laughs it off. DD1 probably wouldn't need it but I have offered to cull her wardrobe - she would fight me off with cudgels. I still think whatever age they need a Mums advice but depends on the relationship whether you can actually go through their fridge or not! I'm sure this will mend itself with some good humour.

Grovel. Smile, buy flowers/ chocs/ perfume. Maybe your DD thinks your a tad over the top with out of date stuff in the fridge.

Oh dear! Where angels fear to tread Petallus......... I would tender a genuine heartfelt apology asap and resolve not to venture into such a minefield again! Good luck!

Quite right too! In our house it's usually the other way round as I am very relaxed about "best before"dates. DD1 used to raid my fridge and throw away (to my mins) perfectly edible stuff- at least once you scraped the green bits off. DD2 did the same but then used to take the spoils back to her student flat in London.
But DDs' own kitchens now they are grown up? I would tread more warily!!

Not just mothers - my daughters and son do it, and one son-in-law is particularly enthusiastic. I don't look at the dates in their fridges, they are so much fussier than me.