I had an uncle, a life long depressive, who would often describe his first day at work and the crushing remarks made to him by his manager. The first time he told me the story I was stunned into silence. In his place I would have taken both the remarks he described as encouragement, certainly not as put downs. The first remark was when he was introduced to the man who was going to teach him his work. His manager said 'If you do half as well as Fred here, I will be happy'. At the end of the day his manager stopped him on the way out and said 'you'll do, boy, you'll do'.
I think annsixty is re-acting like my uncle. I would be over the moon if someone described me as always neat and tidy. I generally feel a dishevelled mess, whether that is an accurate description of me or not, I do not know, but it is how I feel.