As some of you asked for an update on what our decision was, well we have not yet decided what to do. However, we had a chat with our daughter as to what her intentions were as the lease on the house they are renting is up in July. We explained that we felt we had been in limbo for nearly 4 years and that we need to settle down. She told us she did not want us to buy a house in Western Australia, as they probably wouldn't buy one either as they intended to settle somewhere on the East Coast of Australia, either NSW or maybe Queensland. We are a bit shocked as, although this is what we would like, what do we now do?
When they will move and where to exactly is anybody's guess and obviously depends on job prospects for s-I-l. Do we carry on renting here until they decide to move - could be a year, 5 years, t's anybody's guess. We can't afford to buy here and then sell as you lose so much money in Australia when you do move and anyway we don't really want to get stuck here where we don't really like it.
We have planned a long holiday to the UK and also followed by a holiday in Queensland. And then we need to make a decision. DH prefers Queensland, but I am very homesick for the UK. Also I feel guilty. Are we being selfish putting ourselves first when I know daughter needs us to help and support her with 2 young children under 5 as her husband works away during the week? Also my heart is breaking at the thought of leaving my grandchildren. Queensland may be in the same country but it is 5 hours flight away and fights are expensive. I feel as if our whole future, which we planned and which has already cost us a lot of money, has now been taken away from us. Our vision of spending our latter years with the family and particularly grandchildren is just not going to happen. I have done nothing but cry in private about this since the realisation. DH does not seem as concerned about leaving family and says we must do what it best for ourselves. But what is best for me is to have family in my life. But we can't go on being not settled for much longer. Also I don't know what life would be like just living with my husband and not having any family around. He drives me mad just wanting to watch sport all the time. We don't really seem to have that much in common any more. We were both working right up until we came to Australia and so have never really just spent time together the two of us alone.
I am not sleeping with the stress of it all. Looking back, if we had known the way things were going to turn out and that our son was not going to make the move as he had planned, I don't think I would have come.