The Age UK service sounds promising, jg. My lovely MIL had carers come in 4 times a day from the local authority (or rather, a private company employed by them), and though they were without exception lovely, lively, caring people, she kept having to get used to new faces all the time. Plus, even though she paid for the minimum 30 minutes each time, she rarely got more than 10 minutes because they were on such a stupidly tight schedule. Totally wrong, of course, but in her case she enjoyed meeting them all and they expanded her experiences no end - I couldn't stop laughing the first time I heard her casually say bugger, as she was always so clean-living and upstanding
Then when they got her on to watching Jeremy Kyle, and she loved it, especially when they all got up and fought, well.......
The Attendance Allowance was very generous at that time and very welcome - she had purely physical challenges though, so I don't know what the criteria are (and no doubt it's been "reviewed" since then
). The emergency alarm system was a Godsend for our peace of mind, so long as she kept the blooming thing round her neck at night, instead of wandering off and leaving it on her pillow
Good luck with your research and with getting your DM the help she (and you) deserve.
Quick update on my steps - about 200 yesterday (I took the pedometer off and watched back to back recorded Christmas telly from the sofa - bliss). And I've just about hit my target today with a bit of shopping in town, which ended in a senior screening of A Walk in the Woods (£6.40 for two of us, with free coffee and cookies - what can I say?!). Because my eyes weren't already square enough after yesterday
Off to our quiz now - wish us luck! 