Do you think you're still 'attractive'?

I think whatever really attracted anyone to me (sexually or otherwise) is still there and probably enhanced with years – what I like to think of as my knowledge, wit, character, conversation, etc. Is this thread just about looks? Like most young women, I had my physically good points. Like most old women, I have my physically good points (some of the same). So what - and as if I care?

I agree about mirrors but my hairdressers are the best!

I feel I've grown more confident in myself but, like Falcon, I realise that I was much better looking than I thought when I was younger. DH still finds me attractive so that's good!

And then I see my mother approaching in shop windows and I deflate somewhat!

Oh yes, the glimpse of mum in the mirror - still my mother lived to be 90 and was still attracting unwanted male admirers in the Eldery Person's Home.

I have never been attractive in any way, shape or form. Like some others have said I avoid mirrors like the plaque. Hate visiting the hairdressers as I don't like having to stare at that great big reflection of "me". Likewise I avoid photographs. If I see a camera I run a mile as my face tends to be the one that spoils the entire photo.

I would hate my DC or DGC to grow up feeling like I do about myself. Thankfully they are all gorgeous so no problem. [cheese]

Gillybob - you have put into words exactly how I feel too. Though when I look back at old photos, I probably wasn't as bad as I thought then. A little self confidence is a wonderful thing.

Lucky you though to have some lovely grandchildren, who love you whatever you look like.

Gillybob I feel that way. I am nearly always pulling a face in photographs. I need to pefect a camera smile where I am not pulling my face down. It's horrible to always feel like this isn't it?

Real beauty comes from within,of that there's no doubt.But yes(according to other people) I'm told I am attractive.
Mind you when I look in the mirror mornings,I wonder if there's anything wrong with their eyesight.

My gd1 thinks I'm pretty!!! She loves my hair which is not brilliant, she loves the clothes I wear and my shoes.

My dil who isn't one to pay compliments says I have surprisingly good legs for my age and nice brown eyes like gs1.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

It's nice though to think they think I look OK. although I'm definitely not too sure myself and don't like growing older much, except for some times when I quite like it

Me and hubby

That's my problem too Nelliemoser I don't know how to smile/pose. I always look awkward and shocked. My passport photo is verging on ridiculous I look like someone has oppened the curtains in the little booth and shouted "rahhhhhhh" . I wish it were possible to be to taught to like yourself a teensy bit.

No my photos are always awful too. I just try to ignore me

I'm another one who's sinking, happily, into Nanahood. I'm not out to 'attract' any one these days (but neither do I wish to repel them either).

Quite happy if my friends and family, especially the grandchildren, seek me out and enjoy my company.

I am another who never considered herself attractive, partly because my mother repeatedly told me so. My ex once told me that in the dark I wasn't bad. That is about as good as it gets! I did care when younger, but now I rarely think about it. I enjoy living alone, so have made no effort to attract a new partner.

Seacliffs comment "A little self confidence is a wonderful thing." is a very good point. I really didn't have any for years. Thank you Mother.

DGS aged 5 asked me to wear my contact lenses every day because 'you look cool without your glasses nanny'. That'll do for me

I am another one whose mother knocked my confidence when young. Why did they do that? Were they jealous that their own youth had gone?
We only have to look at the new profile thread to see that we have some very attractive members on this forum.Although I haven't posted one yet.....

Oh you're very attractive Marmark1

I think a lot is to do with self confidence annsixtyand having enough of it not to care what anyone thinks.

On a good day, in a kind mirror or a soft light - definitely !

However last week I cleaned a large mirror... putting it on the bed whilst I did so... and leaning over the mirror ... without make -up... dear God that was nothing short of scary !

Am hugely grateful that as often happens, Nature takes care of things... so whilst I still think I'm a rip snorter... it could just be my eyesight !!

The people I care about still seem to like me so I guess I'm "attractive" enough.

If some random dude on a bus (for example) doesn't think I'm attractive, it's quite likely I would think the same thing about them if I could be bothered. But why would I?

Surface 'attractiveness' is only skin deep.

sue

Quite content with how I am, inside and out.

I don't think I ever have been, and it has never mattered to me, but DH thinks I am, and I do 'scrub up well' when I have to! Some days I look in the mirror and I think 'Mmm!' but mostly it's 'Arghh'!

Yes I think I'm attractive. Now before I am accused of being conceited - I lost all my teeth as a child and in the last few years, all my hair, so I have been through the mill looks wise. So I have false teeth and false hair and sometimes when I think about it I could sit and cry but the outside world would never know. I am 66 and have been 'chatted' up a few times since I had my hair system. I have to smile to myself and think 'if only they knew'.

I once said to a colleague that it was strange how only some people were photogenic.

"Yes, Maggie" he answered, "They are the good-looking people".

I haven't posted a photo of myself yet - sadly I'm just not photogenic.