To whom it may concern

Horribly creepy. But was it definitely from a Gnetter? Maybe someone at work who knows you are on here? Maybe you have talked about Gransnet at work?
soon you are far too cagey to give anything away
petra you're right if it actually was a Gnetter
phoenix - hoping all ok at work
UGH

phoenix what a nasty thing to do to you! I think I know which thread you refer to and you only expressed concern for someone you had grown to care about and wanted to protect. Whoever did this is a sad person. I hope they read the responses on here and feel some shame about their actions.

I have often alluded to what I did in the past and quite early on in the life of Gransnet, I was pm'd by someone who recognised me from my political references. I ignored this and heard no more. I then made a minor change in my name but don't think that fooled anyone.

This site is very open.
I wondered at the weekend if someone recognises me from what I post. If you do Mr and Mrs S, I think I would like it if you told me.
From my point of view, Mr and Mrs S know loads about me anyway, so there is no problem really.

phoenix, from what I can remember, you are very open about your place of work, so I did think it was only a matter of time before someone said something there.

When we write things on an open forum, it is like broadcasting it to the world. Slight exageration, but we are saying things loud and clear.
for phoenix.

I would suggest no more posts on this subject. DONT FEED THE MONSTER. They love it that you are talking about THEM.

I am so sorry you have been so hurt , what a sad life the culprit must live to have a need to do this

I understand the thread involved phoenix and I hope very much that there have been no repercussions for you.

How sad some people are. It must be very hurtful.

Blimey! And there was I thinking that this is just a chat forum. My brain never computes further than that. I can't take those sort of people on board so I shall now shut down.

Agreed.But don't let it upset you phoenix just carry on as usual.

Might have been better just to have posted To Whom it may Concern - whatever you hoped to achieve wasn't accomplished - get a life!

You mentioned that the postmark was visible- would you be prepared to share it with us?

If the person simply sent a copy of an internet printout through the post, then of course it's not illegal.

I agree with what Grannyknot says though, that whoever did it won't be shamed by any posts on this thread and is probably enjoying the fallout...

I do hope the person they sent it to took the appropriate action and filed it in the waste bin - or perhaps threw it on the fire. If they know you - and they probably do know and value you by now - they will not believe anything nasty that a twisted mind has implied by sending them this.

Oh Phoenix, what a good thing you're such a nice person. You did nothing other than show concern, if it's the thread I think. I'm not sure that what Mr/s Vindictive did is altogether legal?

I'm sorry this has happened, to you Phoenix and that it involved your work and your boss.

IMHO responding to the person in any way is like trying to blow out a lightbulb - a waste of breath (a slightly mixed metaphor as it is in writing rather than speech). He or she is probably enjoying all this "attention" - right here on this thread.

Quite frankly it's enough to put me right off ever posting anything on GN again.

Some people are plain weird.

Aw Phoenix that's rotten for you and indicates a particular meanness in the heart of the person who sent the missive.

Here are some to cheer you up.

Stansgran - made notes on gn-ers? OMG! That's creepy!

Phoenix - an appropriate response. Excellent.

I also remember somebody moaning ag s ago (!) about the vicissitudes of your job searches phoenix, maybe the same person, but I thought she was long gone. Of course one never knows just because a member is silent.
Main thing, is I hope she/he did not achieve their intended aim.

I think many of us followed Phoenix's travails with job hunting and were delighted with her success. I know I looked at the furniture her company made but I don't remember her saying anything which would make anyone want to hurt her. I remember a gransnetter who has long since left who told me she made notes on what people said and avoided meeting up with her although she pmd me asking to. I think to the pure sadly all is pure. Perhaps we should all be cautious.I hope h.q.can resolve this.

That is just awful Phoenix- and just shows how careful one has to be- including when being critical of family, etc, or giving personal detail about them. Rise, rise, and (((hugs))) - so hope there won't be any repercussions. I have no idea what the thread was about.

Take care, stay safe all.

I think that this might be a good response:

"I feel sorry for you.

What an empty life you must live to have made you such a bitter, twisted malicious person.

What was the intention behind what you did (apart from the obvious one, of course)?
Did it give you a thrill when you put it in the letter box? 2 first class stamps as well, no expense spared, was there!

But what made you even think of doing such a thing to someone you have never met, and who has never (knowingly) done anything to you? Perhaps it's a hobby, if it is then I'm sure there are better ones you could find. Have you considered pulling the wings off flies?

Anyway, I must go now, there are nice people out there who I would much rather spend my time on.

Lots of love, (because you need it)
Phoenix

I'm sorry Phoenix. What drives people to be so bitter and spiteful? I can't understand it myself. How did your employer respond?

Its doubly shocking because we think we are 'talking' safely here and this sort of thing reminds us we're not. Horrible!

That is a very spiteful thing to do. All I can say is that the person concerned must either have a nasty vindictive nature or be very jealous and unhappy in her own life.

jings spot on, and thank you for getting the drift of the thread.

I did wonder when the profiles page was down, and a profile thread was set up, with people putting pictures and history on.
It is not as safe as having ordinary profiles. Anyone can look at a thread with photos on and put two and two together.