Horrible neighbours

It would probably bother me AlgeswifeVal as I really dislike any kind of atmosphere. If they were at fault though I would ignore their behaviour and just smile and nod whenever our paths crossed.

Yes, they were at fault. My DH asked him politely if he would straighten his car up as it was parked at an angle so that I could get my car parked but DH was met with a terrade of abuse. Then his partner came out and joined in. DH was bombarded with the 2 of them using obscenities at him. I wish we had waited and he would have probably straightened it anyway.

A year later and we both get blanked. They are not very nice people, WE ARE, that is the difference. I do not like any kind of atmosphere either but they choose to continue. I think they are being very childish but perhaps I am being childish to let myself be bothered about it.

Before you had the argument had you spoken to these neighbours or have any sort of relationship (neighbourly) with them? If so maybe you could have a quiet word with her and just say you dislike this atmosphere and could you put it behind you and move on? After almost 30 years of living here and never having a problem with our neighbours on either side a new couple moved in one side last year. There were some issues with their dogs barking continuously while they were out all day but nothing was said then we came home one day to find they'd started dismantling our fence which we'd had put up during the previous neighbours residency. Admittedly it needed replacing but to remove it without asking was definitely not a good move. My husband went round to find out what was going on and there followed a very heated argument between him and the two of them which almost came to blows. They then proceeded to do a great deal of work to the house over several weeks resulting in disruption and noise, parking problems and an obsession of my husband that they were encroaching on our boundary. To cut a very long story short one day the woman came round to ask if we'd had any problems with the neighbours behind us and we spent quite a long time chatting about a variety of things. She then asked me in to look at the work they'd had done and when they were having some paving done my husband spoke to them about it and made his peace with them without any of them actually apologising to the other. They did replace the fence which made our garden look much better as well. We'll never be bosom buddies but at least we do now acknowledge each other if we meet outside and would not have to declare we had neighbour issues if we decided to move. I hate confrontation and would have just remained silent about it all but I guess it's best the air was cleared eventually.

Just blank them back! Probably better that way than anything else.They were completely in the wrong.

You never know what the other person is thinking. I too had neighbour issues and I realise now that people can take offence, not so much at what is being done or said but because they are tired, had a bad day or are upset. I fell out with my neighbour and he came along and raged over a simple matter but we found out later that his wife had just found out that their baby was to grow up with learning difficulties. I don't doubt that this caused his attitude. Having said that some people are just nasty and nothing anyone can say will make a difference. 'good luck' to anyone having these problems.

Rosesarered, you are right, I will blank them. They are not pleasant people. Willow, no, never had any form of relationship with them. I will try to ignore and make them invisible to me.

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I would totally ignore them…..

Shinamae Did you notice that this thread is 5 + years old.

Oh dear! This often happens nowadays that people can turn on you and get aggressive for the most trivial of reasons or no reason at all. Perhaps they saw your dh’s polite request as a criticism and went ape as they say. Who knows? If they are that kind of person they are best avoided.

Aldom neither did I notice. It seems to have been resurrected by dasdascasd for the sole purpose of advertising. I have reported it.

Why do GN permit these threads to be resurrected in this way?

I think you need to try and let it go. Just ignore it, it's better for your well being.

We have had some awful neighbours in the past and it really isn't worth engaging with them or letting them upset you.

Aldom

Shinamae Did you notice that this thread is 5 + years old.

No, I actually didn’t, I automatically assume if it’s in the trending it’s recent, never mind..?

Oh fgs at old thread she could have murdered the neighbour by crushing her head in between the gate and the gate post by now

I used to live in house in a terrace of four. Between my four and the next four along, there was a joint driveway that we could use to access our garages at the rear of our gardens.

In our deeds it clearly laid out responsibilities for this driveway. Those with houses on either side of it had responsibility to maintain and keep their half clean and clear, and we - the rest - had similar responsibilities for the area directly outside our garages at the rear.

A very 'loud' couple and their two older teenage sons lived in one of the house on one side of this driveway. Most of us used our rear garages as store rooms, and tended to keep our cars off street on front of the houses areas.

However, one time I was planning on doing a car boot sale on a Sunday, so loaded my car and put it in my garage ready to drive out very early that Sunday. These people used the driveway area next to their house and close to the road as their own private parking area. On the occasions when I wished to use it I would knock and they would move the car they left there, but as I was going out so early I went to them Saturday afternoon to tell them to keep it clear for me.
They got quite abusuve, telling me they would park there whenever they wished as they 'owned' that driveway!!! I told them they should check their deeds (or talk to their Solicitors), as they most certainly did NOT, BUT....did have maintenance responsibilities for it. Got a lot of verbal for that at the time. However, they obviously did follow it up, as, after a few weeks, they kept it clear of cars. However, whenever I went past their house, if the 'boys' were outside they would start swearing at me.
I was not the only person in our little (normally pleasant Close), to suffer from them, and much to all our delight, they eventually put that house on the market and went away.

This thread is five years old!!

Oh dear!

DiscoDancer1975

This thread is five years old!!

Hoepfully the problem neighbours have moved on by now then.

JaneJudge

Oh fgs at old thread she could have murdered the neighbour by crushing her head in between the gate and the gate post by now

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janejudge brilliant ?

dasdascasd

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Another “zombie” thread resurrected by a spam merchant.
Nearly 6 years on, one hopes somebody has moved!

Maybemaw can Grans Net not do something to stop this? It’s annoying and time wasting.