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Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 11:33:02

I've gone completely blank - I have to write to invite someone to meet with the Chair of a local Committee and me. Meet the two of us, that is.

grin

Do I say:

... invite you to meet with XXX and me?

...invite you to meet with XXX and I?

... invite you to meet with me and XXX? - given that XXX (Chair) is more important than me Secretary, her name should go first?

Reason I have brain freeze is having seen this man's CV, I am not even sure that he is human.

Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 21:08:48

Hi purple smile

You've reminded me of the Joan Armatrading song "Me, myself, I..."

I used to love that song:

m.youtube.com/?gl=GB&hl=en-GB#/watch?v=YbT-z10zg0Q

Purpledaffodil Wed 02-Mar-16 20:42:57

This contributes nothing to the discussion, but a friend's mother used to say "Me, myself,personally" when referring to herself. Oh how we sniggered in our snotty teenage way.sad.
PS I agree with janeainsworth with the 'me' rather than 'myself'.

Jalima Wed 02-Mar-16 20:41:34

I have noticed that young tour reps use 'myself' instead of 'me' and I always cringe

'You will be going with Fred and myself on a trip' aargh!

Jalima Wed 02-Mar-16 20:39:51

You would never say 'invite you to meet myself'
so it is definitely 'me'

You could say 'join XXX and me for a meeting'
or I have noticed 'meet up with' as an alternative

Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 20:37:57

jane I like it smile

Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 20:33:35

My husband says "myself" all the time and whenever he is corrected, he replies "It's Scottish". grin

Ana Wed 02-Mar-16 20:27:49

It wouldn't cross my mind to use 'myself' in that context, jane - is it really customary? confused

janeainsworth Wed 02-Mar-16 20:08:00

Yes, I agree 'me' is better grammar Ana and it would be my preference, but in a letter it's often 'myself' which seems to be used.......what a dilemma for us pedants - do we go with what is correct, or what seems to be customarywink

Ana Wed 02-Mar-16 20:04:00

As someone has already said, you wouldn't say 'meet with myself', would you?

And sorry for getting your name wrong, janeainsworth!

Ana Wed 02-Mar-16 20:02:36

Fine, jainainsworth - but please not 'myself'....

janeainsworth Wed 02-Mar-16 20:00:03

Not sure how formal you want to sound Gk but you could put

'Dear Mr Weirdo,

I am writing to ask if you would like to attend an informal meeting with [Chair's name] and myself to discuss [fill in details] at [place] at such and such a time.
I look forward to hearing from you.

Yours sincerely,

Grannyknot.

Hon Secretary.

smile

Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 19:44:01

jings crossed posts!

Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 19:43:21

So I'm finding this all QI now - because ... it is not as if I am asking him to meet us as in "Hi, we'd like to meet you" (because we've not met before).

I am actually inviting him to an informal meeting. So in that case surely it is okay to use "meet with". Or perhaps better to say "XXX and I would like to meet with you to discuss... etc."

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 02-Mar-16 19:42:52

I would say "meet with". Just "meet" implies meeting someone for the first time, just in a social way.

"meet with" implies a meeting will take place.

That's what I think aNYWAY. 'SCUSE CAPS.

Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 19:38:38

alea "meet with" in my case is more likely to be a South Africanism wink

Ana Wed 02-Mar-16 19:32:16

numberplease is not correct, MargaretX, as others have pointed out.

MargaretX Wed 02-Mar-16 19:26:58

numberplease is correct. As simple as possible and definitely not 'meet with'

Lillie Wed 02-Mar-16 18:15:58

"Myself"is a reflexive and as such can only be used with the pronoun "I". For example, "I bought myself a car." You wouldn't say "to meet myself."

maryEJB Wed 02-Mar-16 17:19:48

It's correct to say 'meet x and me' As in 'would you like to meet me?' You wouldn't say meet I or meet myself!

wot Wed 02-Mar-16 17:17:12

It's like is it me or I ? Just take off the other person and then see how it sounds. I'm not qualified on any grammar point but found that helpful.

Alea Wed 02-Mar-16 16:53:40

I wouldn't say " meet with" in the first place. I believe it is an Americanism, but like "outside of" not really good English. Invite them "to a meeting (with) ." by all means, or to "meet and discuss with" or simply "to meet"
If you have to say who else will be there, "ME" not, please not, "myself"!!!.

numberplease Wed 02-Mar-16 16:36:43

I`d say XXX and myself

Grannyknot Wed 02-Mar-16 11:55:17

Thanks, everyone! It's all coming back to me now grin - and I will leave out the "with" it is completely superfluous.

Lillie Wed 02-Mar-16 11:50:47

It might be easier to use just "to meet" as you suggest in your second sentence and leave out the " to meet with" which really means to see eye to eye. I'm assuming you have not already met.

So it would read, "invite you to meet XXX and me."

Imperfect27 Wed 02-Mar-16 11:50:09

Ditto Daddima - exactly what I would have said. Good luck with the meeting Grannyknot, and remember: anyone can sound brilliant / intimidating on paper - let's hope he is very nice in person!