Grammar question - calling all those teachers

A good rule is to take the other person's name out, and see if it makes sense. You wouldn't say, " I invite you to meet with I", so "me" is correct, and I'd also put the other person's name first.

Ditto Daddima - exactly what I would have said. Good luck with the meeting Grannyknot, and remember: anyone can sound brilliant / intimidating on paper - let's hope he is very nice in person!

It might be easier to use just "to meet" as you suggest in your second sentence and leave out the " to meet with" which really means to see eye to eye. I'm assuming you have not already met.

So it would read, "invite you to meet XXX and me."

Thanks, everyone! It's all coming back to me now - and I will leave out the "with" it is completely superfluous.

I`d say XXX and myself

I wouldn't say " meet with" in the first place. I believe it is an Americanism, but like "outside of" not really good English. Invite them "to a meeting (with) ." by all means, or to "meet and discuss with" or simply "to meet"
If you have to say who else will be there, "ME" not, please not, "myself"!!!.

It's like is it me or I ? Just take off the other person and then see how it sounds. I'm not qualified on any grammar point but found that helpful.

It's correct to say 'meet x and me' As in 'would you like to meet me?' You wouldn't say meet I or meet myself!

"Myself"is a reflexive and as such can only be used with the pronoun "I". For example, "I bought myself a car." You wouldn't say "to meet myself."

numberplease is correct. As simple as possible and definitely not 'meet with'

numberplease is not correct, MargaretX, as others have pointed out.

alea "meet with" in my case is more likely to be a South Africanism

I would say "meet with". Just "meet" implies meeting someone for the first time, just in a social way.

"meet with" implies a meeting will take place.

That's what I think aNYWAY. 'SCUSE CAPS.

So I'm finding this all QI now - because ... it is not as if I am asking him to meet us as in "Hi, we'd like to meet you" (because we've not met before).

I am actually inviting him to an informal meeting. So in that case surely it is okay to use "meet with". Or perhaps better to say "XXX and I would like to meet with you to discuss... etc."

jings crossed posts!

Not sure how formal you want to sound Gk but you could put

'Dear Mr Weirdo,

I am writing to ask if you would like to attend an informal meeting with [Chair's name] and myself to discuss [fill in details] at [place] at such and such a time.
I look forward to hearing from you.

Yours sincerely,

Grannyknot.

Hon Secretary.

Fine, jainainsworth - but please not 'myself'....

As someone has already said, you wouldn't say 'meet with myself', would you?

And sorry for getting your name wrong, janeainsworth!

Yes, I agree 'me' is better grammar Ana and it would be my preference, but in a letter it's often 'myself' which seems to be used.......what a dilemma for us pedants - do we go with what is correct, or what seems to be customary

It wouldn't cross my mind to use 'myself' in that context, jane - is it really customary?

My husband says "myself" all the time and whenever he is corrected, he replies "It's Scottish".

jane I like it

You would never say 'invite you to meet myself'
so it is definitely 'me'

You could say 'join XXX and me for a meeting'
or I have noticed 'meet up with' as an alternative

I have noticed that young tour reps use 'myself' instead of 'me' and I always cringe

'You will be going with Fred and myself on a trip' aargh!