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This video makes me quite sad

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NanaandGrampy Tue 30-Aug-16 08:39:29

www.msn.com/en-gb/video/other/free-range-kids-no-medicine-no-school-routine-no-bed-time/vi-BBurPuk?ocid=spartanntp

I watched this video out of curiosity and its lovely to see such a happy family but I disagree with almost every choice and statement they make.

Obviously this is their life choice and its a snapshot of their lives so maybe there is more that if I saw that I would feel better about their choices.

There were lots of points that I disliked but the one that hit home most was when they said their 7 year old had no need to read and write at that age.

When I look at our little ones who are so proud of their achievements in that area, who learn through their reading and not just from books. Who love to choose food from a menu, or pay at the till being able to check their change. All those little things in life that do need you to be able to read and write.

I think I was also quite horrified that the little girl walks outside in an urban environment with no shoes. Its one thing in your home or garden but pavements have all sorts of nasties on them and linking that to a lack of any type of vaccinations makes me quite sad.

And quite frankly , anyone who carries a placenta around for 6 days needs their head examined smile

But I could be wrong , and this could be the way forward....or not ? smile

Bluecat Wed 31-Aug-16 00:42:32

I'm doubtful of the decision not to vaccinate, though they are not unique in this respect. If you read magazines such as Green Parent or Juno, which deal with alternative methods of child-rearing, the anti-vaccination movement is quite strongly represented. It is motivated by concerns over the safety and effectiveness of vaccination, and has presumably been influenced by the now-discredited (in most people's minds) link between vaccination and autism. Well-meant, certainly, but I think they are wrong.

As for the rest...It's their choice and I can't see that the children are being harmed. They're not the only family in the world who choose the unschooling way, and a child with two loving, easy-going parents are surely better off than a great many kids who are undergoing traditional schooling but don't have close and loving parental relationships.

My DD has recently chosen to home educate her little girls and I am helping her, and I support her decision to do what she thinks is best for her children. It wasn't made lightly or easily. We are taking a semi-structured approach but trying to allow plenty of free play and expression as well as literacy, maths, etc. All home schoolers are different, and who is to say how this couple's kids will turn out? It may be that they will blossom through this sort of childhood.

NanaandGrampy Wed 31-Aug-16 08:12:52

Apart from the obvious issues with the lack of vaccinations I think the thing that made me most sad was their affirmation that the little boy at 7 didn't need to be able to read and write at this stage and they didn't bother with it.

Reading is something all 4 of my grandchildren take great pleasure in and provides a whole new set of experiences and for that matter learning opportunities.

I have no strong feelings about home schooling, its not something I would have done and neither would my daughters but I'm sure done well its ok.

I do know that despite the fact that I never wear shoes indoors preferring to be bare foot , I wouldn't walk to my shops barefoot and I wouldn't allow a toddler to either.

But again - horses for courses.

Legs55 Fri 09-Sept-16 21:29:37

I do worry how these children will integrate into the "real world", being able to read & write is essential as is some understanding of maths. I disagree with children not having boundaries - all children need them if only to give them something to rebel against hmm

As for walking barefoot, indoors is fine but not outside (I am not allowed to walk barefoot indoors as I am Diabetic & have Peripheral Neuropathy)although I would prefer to.

Have severe doubts about the way they are funding (or expecting others to fund) their lifestyle confused

Pollengran Fri 09-Sept-16 21:56:41

I don't give a stuff about how they will integrate. Just don't ask me to contribute to "gofundme" for £100,000 to move out of the one bedroom flat in Brighton for a better life. angry.

PS: if you kid peed on my carpet you would be huckled out quick smart, and never be invited again.

durhamjen Fri 09-Sept-16 22:37:10

The boy is five, not seven. Does that make a difference?
No formal schooling in Finland until seven, and they have the best results in the world.