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oldgoose Mon 19-Sept-16 13:59:07

When I was about 8 and the avid reader of 'Bunty' and 'Mallory Towers' books, I always considered girl crushes to be things that the younger girls got on the captain of the hockey team or the Head Girl at school. The feelings disappeared when boys came on the scene and were a part of growing up.
However, having a 'girl crush' is, I am told, quite a normal thing for heterosexual women to have. They don't fancy the object of their crush, they just admire them and see them as a role model. After asking around, I have discovered that my neice has crush on Joanna Lumley, my sister has a crush on the girl who runs the zumba class she attends and my daughter has a girl crush on Roxy from Eastenders!
Anyone out there got a girl crush?
My girl crush? Actress Catherine Russell who plays Serena Campbell in Holby City.

Jalima Wed 21-Sept-16 20:39:26

Yes, several of us had a crush on the young gym mistress (all girls' school). We worshipped the ground she walked on - literally!!

Then the boys at the grammar school became more appealing.

Vonnie34 Wed 21-Sept-16 19:29:33

I had a crush on my teacher when I was about 11.
Not a sexual one. I just thought of her as my heroine. ?

numberplease Wed 21-Sept-16 01:12:18

My crush was on our PE teacher at grammar school, she was a very sporty young woman who wore shorts and a t-shirt all the time in school, never ever saw her in a skirt. She was Miss Cunningham.

Eloethan Wed 21-Sept-16 01:03:27

I definitely had boy crushes and sort of girl crushes but not sexual - just finding someone really attractive in appearance and personality - trying to copy their "look" and mannerisms, etc.

I actually haven't found many men attractive for a long time - apart from my husband and a very few exceptions. I think women are much more attractive in personality and looks and I feel more comfortable with them (perhaps that's due to being an only child and going to an all-girls school). I agree about Serena in Holby City.

WilmaKnickersfit Wed 21-Sept-16 00:06:47

My first girl crush was Alesha Dixon when she was a contestant on Strictly. It wasn't sexual, I just thought she was fantastic. She looked amazing and came over as great fun. In fact, thinking about it, I only really have girl crushes when Strictly is on! It was Karen Hardy when she danced with Ramps and Ola Jordan when she danced with Kenny Logan and Chris Hollins. When I saw Natalie Lowe dance with Ian Waite on the Strictly Pro tour, she became my favourite and I still have a little bit of a crush on her. I don't mind admitting when I find a woman attractive. In general I think women's bodies are much nicer than men's! grin

Nannanoo Tue 20-Sept-16 23:40:59

I don't think girl crushes are always sexual. I have always been rather too fond of men, and lost my head over them, so I'm not given to Sapphic lusts, but I do so agree with OP about Serena Campbell. I would love to share a bottle of wine and some chocs with her and have a girly giggle - she's so twinkly and rather adorable.
Sexy? No. She invokes in me the same lovely warm cuddly feeling I get when I think of babies, not the swooping, soaring, visceral attraction I would feel for an attractive man.
Not that I feel that way much nowadays - blokes my age are, on the whole, rather awful, and I'm sure they feel the same about me as I've reached the age of 'oldbaggishness". grin

littlefierce Tue 20-Sept-16 23:11:03

Glenda Jackson in the 70s. Maxine Peake now. I find strong women very attractive.

pollyperkins Tue 20-Sept-16 22:30:01

Of course when you are at a girls boarding school with all female teachers theres no-one else to ave crushes on. Its different at a mixed day school!

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 20-Sept-16 20:53:53

piss off crafting

Deedaa Tue 20-Sept-16 20:47:16

I suppose my two sixth formers were pretty masculine looking (They always got the leading men parts in the school plays) and we didn't have any access to boys so they were the next best thing. Soon forgot them when I was let loose with real boys grin

Crafting Tue 20-Sept-16 20:33:34

#that'llwindjingsup

Crafting Tue 20-Sept-16 20:32:31

Anyone got any gransnet crushes? (Batts eyelashes....oh jings I think you're amazzzing .... swoon) grin

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 20-Sept-16 18:45:20

On a bike ride once with a friend, when we were about ten or eleven, we waited outside the entrance to the farm where we knew the film star Richard Todd lived. When eventually he came striding down the lane we managed about two minutes before throwing ourselves on our bikes and pedalling hell for leather for the hills! Definitely had a little crush on him. smile

Falconbird Tue 20-Sept-16 18:40:55

Girl crushes are all part of growing up. My first crush was on my science teacher, a tall handsome young chap.

My second was on my male dentist (bit weird) and in between I had a crush on a female teacher who taught commercial subjects.

I had a few boyfriend but I found them annoying but compulsory to keep up with the other girls.

I often admired girls older than me who I thought were very mature and good looking.

At last at 18 I met my husband to be (sadly passed away) and at last I knew what love was. smile

Ana Tue 20-Sept-16 18:31:14

Yes, I think it's more usual in the first of second year of whatever type of school you went to.

When I was 11 or 12 there was one older girl I alway looked out for in Assembly. She must have been in the fourth or 5th year and was very pretty and a bit of a rebel (i.e. wore her regulation school hat at a bit of a rakish angle!). I admired her looks and her attitude, although she obviously knew she drew admiring glances from the juniors.

I saw her in the street once snogging a boy and being very silly and giggly, and went right off her!

pollyperkins Tue 20-Sept-16 18:21:48

No jingle by 14/15 i had a boyfriend and pictures of Dirk Bogarde and cliff Richard on my bedroom wall.

whitewave Tue 20-Sept-16 18:13:53

Moira Shearer in Ballet Shoes - had a full page "Girl" comic picture on my bedroom wall.

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 20-Sept-16 17:52:09

11?!!! I was thinking 13/14/15.

pollyperkins Tue 20-Sept-16 17:50:14

Well you are right jingle in my case ie fluttery and shy and excited if she spoke to me etc but it was thedone thing and was built up by others who also had similar rections. Really dont think it was sexual. I didnt know what sexal was at 11. I had heard of the mechanics of course and none of that appealed to me . However it does all sound weird to me now looking back and dont talk about it - except on anonymous websites! (Hero worship is more like it. )

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 20-Sept-16 17:31:43

What is GBF?

jinglbellsfrocks Tue 20-Sept-16 17:30:00

To those who reckon it's nothing sexual, no different to wanting to emulate the other person, think back. Did your heart go fluttery when you passed them by in a corridor? Were you able to actually speak coherently to them? If you somehow got to dance with them in a country-dance lesson and their (overly large) bosom brushed against your semi flat chest, did you practically drop in a heap at their feet? And did you remember the moment for ever after?

No? Are you sure you had a crush? wink

LullyDully Tue 20-Sept-16 17:13:10

At 11 I was impressed with the 6 th formers. Nothing sexual GBF. I.do know.the difference. Now Ashley at confirmation class. He was so tall and knew all the answers. Phew.

specki4eyes Tue 20-Sept-16 16:37:19

isnt it a natural part of growing up? For me it was ponies, then my very pretty geography teacher and then I suddenly discovered that boys were actually quite nice and so the ponies and the geography teacher were cast aside. I've always had lots of GalPals throughout my life and I love them dearly but 'crushes' were definitely relegated to my 12 year old state.
I also HATED Patti Boyd for getting George Harrison but I cackled like a witch when I saw her recently on tv - locked in time, stylewise, back in the sixties.

Ana Tue 20-Sept-16 16:36:36

I don't think it was actually 'Duckface', Maggie...wink

Maggiemaybe Tue 20-Sept-16 16:34:47

I must say, Kitspurr, I was a bit confused as to why the Anna Chancellor character in Four Weddings was known as Duckface.