I forgot to add that I have never actually had an accident. But to cut a very long story short, I had a very sudden, severe, painful and terrifying urgency episode in town last summer that was extremely upsetting and very frightening. Town was crowded and I thought that was it. I was so scared you would think a gun was being held at my head. It was a 3 minute walk to the ladies and it felt more like 300 miles. So shaken up. How I reached the ladies on time, I don't know but I did. I've not been the same since. Think it impacted on me psychologically because I have been obsessed with being near toilets whenever I go out, ever since. I have avoided all sorts because of it. Really haven't been myself since that day. Seen Doc, Urologist and Bladder Nurse and they all say everything is ok. However I am still suffering Vaginal Atrophy that includes uretheral soreness and feelings of urgency that seem to be triggered by the soreness - my bladder is numb since the episode in town.
Interesting thing is, I never get the urgency whilst at home or when I am near a loo. So that shows its mostly an anxiety thing. I've been for CBT but wasn't amused when the therapist said we are all dying to wee from time to time, implying I was over reacting! I said yes of course we have all been in that situation but it's nothing compared to these urgency feelings which are 1000 times worse and are on your mind before you leave the house and if someone suggests going somewhere or doing something.
So you can see this has really upset me and I get up every morning feeling slightly sick thinking I've got to face this problem yet another day. I just want to be who I was before all this started. I am seriously wondering if I will ever be back to who I was before though and this is really impacting on my life. I'm taking 5HTP for the anxiety. Been on it two weeks but seen no change in myself as yet. :-(