Vaguely disgruntled

Apparently all faiths have 'targets figures' now so sadly possible recruitment will go on in the most inappropriate gatherings.

I'm afraid I'd have made an excuse and left, but then I'm that sort of person.

Too often these kind of people take advantage of our good nature and our reluctance to be impolite.

Jehovah's Witnesses, don't call at our house, they call at the other houses in the close but miss ours out. I wonder if it was something I said.

Eglantine19, this tea party wasn't in the church grounds was it.

By the by ... l quite like a bit of vague disgruntlement ... sometimes it is good to be taken out of our comfort zone, especially when we can follow up with a touch of righteousness indignation. Hah! I am obviously in a provocative mood today , which is perhaps just as well as l need to advocate for a family member at the drs. Taking on the woeful lack of mental health care in a new burrough today. Whoopee!

How awful ... but funny to look back on ...

*it

Three weeks after our wedding DH and I were invited to a party by one of my work colleagues. This was after a chat about our respective spouses and a general remark about how broad minded they were.
We turned up to what appeared to be a nice summer party and we're introduced as the newly weds..... I soon became evident what kind of party it was. ?
We made our excuses and left.... We weren't THAT broad minded!

For 30 + years l was a fully involved member at church, including leading prayer and Bible groups, but would never have tried to evangelize as OP's host did and would have felt uncomfortable myself in that situation so l don't think it is just a matter of religious or not. Rather, the sense of false pretence would have annoyed/ saddened me too and to be held captive because of the occasion ...yuk! Phoenix ... on form tonight .

If it just came up in conversation and one person chose to give their views, I'd think that was all right. But arranging it, as they did, seems sneaky whatever the topic was - religion, politics, a charity, a local club.....

Sorry deceitful not decisive

It wouldn't bother me BlueBelle I would be surprised but not bothered. We are all different.

Another thing to put down to experience.

Lemongrove of course it would bother you church is not supposed to be decisive and cunning makes it worse if anything

Awww! ?

Well generally speaking I can see some things that make sense to me in all religions and some things that don't. I'm not sure what that makes me but I've been quite happy to participate in a number of things Ive been invited to like Christenings, Passover or Diwali. So I didn't know why this "ruffled" me. I think Bluebell put her finger on it. I thought I'd been invited for my perfectly lovely self and found out I was just a potential recruit. Ah the blow to my ego

Yes, of course, but if you were a practising Christian am guessing it wouldn't bother you unduly.You might even join in.

It's nothing to do with religion surely lemongrove. If you are invited for tea and it turns out someone is selling something you should have been told.

I suppose it all depends on how religious you are yourself OP.If an atheist /agnostic/a different religion then I can see you would be put out.If you are a practising Christian anyway, you may have been surprised but not bothered by it.So, it does depend, obviously, but I do see an underhand element anyway about it.Never mind, you won't be going back, and you had cake.??

I would have been livid!

Dgd1's best friend is from a very evangelical family who invite people to bbqs at there house and then try to persuade them to join their church. How to explain the issues involved to an 8 year old.

Sorry about the typos. Fat fingers.

I once went to an old school reunion and as we were all about to leave one old girl, who is very religous ( both her father and her son were clergymen) suddenly made a littld speech, saying " you've all heard that my husband is very ill. I just don't know how we would have got through these last few months without our faith" Then she handed out some religous tracts, which made manh of us uncomfortable, but of course nobody actually objected . We felt sorry thar her husband was ill ( he died soon after) and we all knew she had a strong faith which must have helped her when she was bereaved. Even so, I don't think she should have brought her little leaflets to that reunion. It was inapropriate and made most of us uncomfortable.

Thanks for the responses to my rather frivolous post!

I suppose that if such an occasion did occurr, and there was a guest of a sort of "maiden aunt" disposition, they might be persuaded that the item was designed to put a froth on your cappuccino

Many many years ago I did host a Tupperware party and my new husband (a medical houseman) was inevitably there. He caused a bit of a stir among the ladies when the much-vaunted free plastic gift was produced by the rep (heaven knows what it was) and my OH said it looked like something to hold your uterus up!

Can I have an invite to Phoenix's next party? Much more m kind of thing!
Thanks everyone. I'm over it now. Wonderful what a few people on Gransnet can do!