My DIL and I are feeling completely helpless. My 53 year old stepdaughter has always been a problem. She has lived abroad since she was 21. she left her first husband (by whom she had no children) after getting pregnant by an alcoholic, out of work, married French man. She went on to have two children with him (they ar now nearly 12 and 14). she and her partner tried to run a B & B in France, but she then became (or maybe always had been) and alcoholic and the chaos, dirt and screaming rows meant that the B & B failed. My husband died 21 months ago after a long illness and then my stepson went to France to try and extricate his sister. The upshot was that she and the children came back to England and I put them up for a month. She then went back to France to pick up some furniture and 3 dogs. I told her that if she brought the dogs (un-housetrained, destructive and aggressive) she could no longer stay with me. Needless to say she brought the dogs back and bought a mobile home for £6,000 with money her father left her. She was told by the vendor that he would buy it back when she was finished with it. A family owned cottage became vacant in the village so we said she could move in. The mobile home had been completely destroyed - it was filthy (used sanitary towels and cigarette ends all over the floor, rotting food in the kitchen, carpets ripped up, curtains torn.) My DIL spent four days cleaning it up - stepdaughter said she had a bad back and couldn't do it. There were 32 black bags of rubbish! The vendor was finally persuaded to give her £200 for the mobile home - this after five months. She managed to get a job as a carer but is suspended at the moment pending a disciplinary hearing on Monday. She said she had been given a few days off, but the letter arrived at my house and I opened it. The school have been in touch re the children's poor attendance. I have trued to contact the school and we have left messages back and forth but so far have failed to have a conversation. Her brother has completely washed his hands of her. My DIL (ex-wife of another brother who died) and I try to do as much as we can with the children and stepdaughter. We have helped her clean, taken her to AA, bought clothes for the children, taken them out, had them to stay, bought them food. But to be purely selfish after two years of caring for my husband I really don't want to take on two step-grandchildren on a full time basis. My question is what are the chances of them going into temporary foster care while we try and sort their mother out? Any advice would be gratefully received.
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic
Should women have equal pay and opportunities?
Another week, another Tory MP sex scandal!