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Would you let your 25 year-old son see you naked?

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pattypan Wed 20-Dec-17 12:13:02

I realise this is a slightly odd question but it has not come from nowhere but because Birds of A Feather Star Linda Robson said yesterday that she lets her son so he can see what real women look like. While I applaud the idea of the normalisation of women rather than the airbrushed celebrity look that is pushed in the media, I can't help thinking this is rather distasteful. Am I wrong? www.mirror.co.uk/tv/tv-news/linda-robson-lets-25-year-11721558

carol58 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:52:32

Eeugh no! Not big on nudity at all and it's too darn cold in the UK to prance about naked. Did used to share a bath with my kids, both sexes, up until they were around 5 though. At that age they become quite aware of the differences. A little mystery is not a bad thing IMO.

Cambia Thu 21-Dec-17 09:52:01

Definitely not! I still love skinny dipping in secluded places but only when OH and I are around. Have two sons around 40, one wouldn’t care but the other would be horrified! Think by the time they are 40, they have probably worked out what real women look like anyway!!!

Apricity Thu 21-Dec-17 09:51:39

No, I would not feel comfortable doing that. It would not be a major event if it happened accidently with my 40 year old son, more something to laugh about but not deliberate exposure. I do think adult sons can work this out all by themselves. I wonder if the actress who made the initial comment may be have something to prove herself rather than her son's need for education about the realities of the female body. If you haven't conveyed some understanding of that to your son by the time they are 25+ I rather think you have missed the boat.

Esspee Thu 21-Dec-17 09:50:19

Only if I never wanted to see him again!

Coconut Thu 21-Dec-17 09:47:13

I never covered myself up when my kids were growing up, however now they are all approx 40 and flown the nest a long time ago, it would probably feel a bit awkward. Not so with my daughter, but def with my sons.

Marion58 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:45:42

No! I'm not too keen on seeing myself ! She more than likely said it for publicity!

Coolgran65 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:39:37

I'd sooner have pins in my eyes !!!

MissAdventure Thu 21-Dec-17 09:39:15

I think I only saw my dad in his vest 2 or 3 times in my life! I haven't got a problem with other people being naked. I have worked in care for years, and have seen every size and shape of body. I truly believe everyone is beautiful in their own way, but for myself, I'm very shy about uncovering.

Pamaga Thu 21-Dec-17 09:38:23

I wouldn't intentionally but if he happened to see me I wouldn't freak out about it. I am sure my son would be more embarrassed than me!

Megmegmeg Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:55

It's a big no from me.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:27

If I needed help with washing and dressing I think I'd feel embarrassed if a male family member had to do this for me.
As children it was always a case of covering ourselves up. Poor mum had a weight problem and dad would've taken great delight in making fun of her if she had ever dared to wear anything like a swimsuit. A sad situation, really.

Lilyflower Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:19

God no! He'd be traumatised and I would shrivel with embarrassment. But then I was brought up by a very prudish Irish, Catholic mother.

Yellowmellow Thu 21-Dec-17 09:35:18

I wouldn't subject anyone to seeing me naked right now let alone one of my sons or any of my grandsons!

MaggieMay69 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:34:53

Lol oh dear, my poor kids have been subjected to the human form since they arrived in the world, no shame nor embarrassment here!
With two sons and two daughters, I wanted to be very different from my own mother, who found it hard to talk about being naked, let alone actually being in the nuddy! Even when myself and siblings were children she would hide herself away, or be mortified if we walked in on her in the bathroom. This sent messages that the human body is shameful!
So, I was the complete opposite, but I had to firstly repress all I had been taught! With my babies I breastfed wherever and whenever, as they were children myself and my husband would happily be nude in front of our kids, and while I would never nip round to my sons house and parade around naked (God Forbid, would put them off their weetabix!)
My children all know a naked body isn't shameful/gross/disgusting, its skin, bone, tissue, and its lucky my sons don't get squeamish because when I gave birth to their youngest sister, I was completely naked and my teenagers had to help me out of the bath and call an ambulance!
Nothing wrong with your kids seeing you naked, but no, wouldn't go and put on a show lol.

Nanny123 Thu 21-Dec-17 09:30:11

Not at all. I worked with a girl once and she casually said that her husband would walk around the house naked in front of her then 18 year old daughter - I really found that gross to be honest.

lemongrove Thu 21-Dec-17 08:39:50

I can imagine DS’s reaction if we ambled about in the buff in front of him now!
We only did this when the children were young.

BlueBelle Thu 21-Dec-17 08:02:41

By the way I should add I m in no way prudish I don’t haive any problem with nudity in others but I do think it’s about respect and acceptable adult behaviour

Fennel Thu 21-Dec-17 07:56:25

No way!
As a child we lived with my grandparents, and I used to get dressed in the morning in front of the gas fire, with Granny.
It puzzled me that she put her undies on beneath her voluminous nightie, like a tent, and I wondered what she was hiding - now I know.

Bellasnana Thu 21-Dec-17 06:20:09

I'm not at all prudish, but there is such a thing as respecting each other's privacy.

My son is 27 and still lives at home. I am sure he would not like to have the image of his naked mother imprinted on his mind, any more than I would want to see him naked now he's a grown man.

Some of the posts on here have made me chuckle grin

BlueBelle Thu 21-Dec-17 04:36:34

I would not be naked in front of any of my adult children, my son would be damaged for the rest of his life and so would I

Sennelier are you normally naked in the shops changing rooms ??? ??

MaggieM Thu 21-Dec-17 02:54:47

or even grandson who is 5

That reminds me of the time my 4 year old granddaughter came into my room shouting nana, Im here. Id just had a shower and was wrapped in a very short towel. I gave her a cuddle etc then bent down to put my pants on. The towel rode up and my rather ample bum was very clearly on show. It traumatised her and she ran out the room shouting to her mum and wee brother who were just on their way in - clickly, clickly, nana's bum is coming.

I still have moments of random laughter just thinking about it 10 years later.

Smithy Wed 20-Dec-17 22:03:46

I can't bear the sight of me naked in the mirror, so why would I inflict it on anyone else.
I did once work with a lady who had adult son and daughter at home, and they thought nothing of walking round the house in the nude. (The son's pals were on a waiting list to have overnight stays!)

OldMeg Wed 20-Dec-17 21:49:06

No way!

Skynnylynny Wed 20-Dec-17 21:44:19

My youngest daughter has to help me get dressed so has seen me naked lots of times. Neither of us consider this to be odd but I suppose if it wasn’t necessary then it wouldn’t happen.

Moocow Wed 20-Dec-17 20:04:34

With my daughters it's different though as they are not ones for covering up. But what if you found your son needed to become your carer? Wouldn't it be easier in the long run if we all stopped feeling the need to cover up/ avert our eyes?