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paddyann Sun 11-Feb-18 17:33:18

if he's used to you always being there he will be missing you.Is there a particular reason he still lives at home? Does he need extra support? A long break of months might be too much for him to cope with...but only you will know if thats the case.Can he go visit you in Devon for a weekend ? Just to make him feel less abandoned that might be a solution

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Luckygirl Sun 11-Feb-18 17:25:39

Enjoy your time in Devon - please do not spoil it by worrying about your son. He is a grown man now, albeit one who had a challenging childhood, and will manage I am sure.

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janeainsworth Sun 11-Feb-18 17:23:41

He ‘insinuated’ that he’d like you to go home earlier.
He didn’t actually say so.
I always find it safer to assume that people say what they mean, and mean what they say.
Are you sure you’re not projecting your own anxiety on to your son?
I’m sure if he really wanted to you to come home, he’d say so. He probably just wanted you to know he’s missing you, which isn’t the same as expecting you to change your plans for him.

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sufuller Sun 11-Feb-18 17:13:21

DH and I live in the Midlands with my 33 year old son. My 35 year D, SiL and DGD live just around the corner from us. My son works fulltime as a classroom assistant and after him suffering many health scares as a child we are very proud of him. He is very kind and sensitive and is very generous. However, we have a problem. DH and I are both retired and we like dividing our time between our home and Devon. At the moment we are in Devon until the beginning of May.

I phoned DS this morning and he insinuated that he would like us to go home sooner rather than later. It makes us feel really guilty about leaving him but as our friends keep telling us he is a grown man. We have left him before so I hope he will settle soon. Why do we feel so selfish. Help.

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