My good lady wife......nooooo!!

You could try a few comments that might make him think twice. Such as- "Good- if only you knew what I've been up to!, Lady- well not always. ``Still one out of three isn't bad. We are married."

"Good Lady Wife", how old fashioned, I think there is a lot of irony in its use now, you could try "Lord and Master" yourself, definitely ironic! I think Lady Wife was originally the mistress of the house.

How about “the Memsahib” !

I can think of worse things to be addressed as "wifey" is an example. I really can't stand that word or "hubby" either.

I think it depends on how any words are used and the intention behind them. Our relatively newly married son refers to her as 'the wife' and she as 'the husband'.

I can't begin to tell you how much love there is behind both names and how proud they both are to be able to use such terms. Just my thoughts.

it was Arthur Daley (or the other one) who used to refer to his wife as "er indoors" in the series Minder -- and it was Rumpole of the Bailey who used the term "She Who Must be Obeyed."
I find the term 'my good lady wife' rather patronising and inappropriate these days, it smacks of Ladies Night at the Lodge. If my husband ever said it about me it would be only the once....
As for men holding doors open for women, I do it for all and sundry and find that other people (of either sex) do it for me in return unless there are special circumstances. It's just good manners.
Is it not best to treat everyone the same? We're not such delicate flowers that we can't manage to open a door for ourselves, after all. I'm not including anyone who has physical difficulties of course. Everyone should naturally open doors (or whatever) for someone who needs help.

Definitely patronising very old fashioned too.

Try referring to him as "have you met my first husband?" might make him think that the patronising plank is not irreplaceable - just a thought

TerriBull, I also used to refer to my DH as 'my current husband' when we were first married, as he was my second. It was only said to friends in jest and he used to laugh too. He has referred to me at supermarket checkouts as 'Mum' many times to cause a laugh and for me to sigh and raise my eyebrows.

I don't think I would appreciate being called 'my good lady wife' either. He, of course, may think it is a compliment.

Why don't you introduce him as "my first husband, still on trial period" . See how he responds to that!

You haven't disappointed me at all Kim19 nice to know I have an ally.

But then it took years for my husband to stop whistling for me ...like a dog! I sometimes still catch him about to do it even now.... he stops himself in time! He still doesn’t know why I objected!!!! Different species... different species !!!

IT doesn’t matter why you object to ‘my good lady wife’... if you don’t like it , he should respect your wishes and not use it. No explanation should be necessary...even though it’s so obviously such a patronising ‘little woman’ phrase!

Lady wife... oh dear it is so cringeworthy. You are right. Tell him we overwhelmingly think so. And are shocked that he is so old fashioned ...say anything that will make him stop. Ask him perhaps to supplant it with ‘my lovely wife’ if he doesn’t want to just introduce you by name. He obviously loves having a wife. And loves having you as s wife he just needs a bit of gentle guidance.

My husband refers to me as 'management' !

DH and I are always "darling" to each other. This is because we both had particularly affection-free first marriages and we like it, so yah boo sucks to those who think it's patronising/whatever else might offend you.

Likewise he always refers to me as "my wife" and I refer to him as "my husband", because 9 years into our marriage we still can't get over the fact that we found each other and we really like saying it.

I'd love to be called that! I think it's so respectful and loving too.

I've just thought of something my husband says when arguing with a woman on the radio - he says such &such "lady". Which I've told him is very patronising.

My brother used to introduce me to his friends as ‘this is my sister. Sorry’.

Katek You could ask him if he uses the term to differentiate his lady wife from another wife? Perhaps a gentleman wife? Or maybe you are his good wife and somewhere, stashed away, he has a bad wife?

Seems a bit old fashioned to me - if my DH said it I'd be laughing and asking 'Are you ok, dear?' lol

peaches50 Bless you! You included those of us on our own. That means a lot to me, thank you! Happy Valentines Day to you

I, and others in my position, were referred to as "the wife" on a job contract! I objected but it didn't do any good. I too hate the expression your DH uses, it sounds very pretentious and patronising. Also it is way out of date and makes him look very old. I think any term a husband uses in referring to his wife must be acceptable to her. Surely he loves you, so would he not want to make you happy? Why does he do something like this knowing it upsets you?

Add Senior Management to the list. Sigh

Arrgh damn auto correct! Should have been to Day6