My good lady wife......nooooo!!

graces, yes "my " could be seen as implying ownership, but I would still rather be introduced as "Phoenix, my wife" rather than "the wife"

The possessive pronoun can have it's place, do you refer to the son, the daughter etc?

I am still not sure what to call my partner of many years. We are both in our 60s so boyfriend and girlfriend just doesn't work and as someone mentioned, I am not fond of partner. He is certainly not "my other half" as I am a whole person with or without him.

I have heard someone introduced as 'my good lady wife' but it was highly ironic and intended to be amusing. They nudged each other and laughed. It showed lots of togetherness I thought.

We do the old "I wear the trousers in this house!" routine occasionally. He follows up quickly with "And she tells me which ones to wear" and it's obviously intended as a bit of fun. No one-upmanship or patronage because neither of us would stand for it. I don't mind terms of endearment either, even if they sound a bit out-dated and might not be PC. It's up to individuals I think as to what is acceptable.

He also has our adult children listed on his mobile as number 1 son, number 1 daughter, etc. He hasn’t listed the grandchildren that way - they are listed by first name!

My husband refers to me as his current wife - we’ve been married for almost 45 years!

It's grounds for divorce!

As is 'the wife' and 'hubby'.

I'm a good wife - taken as read by anyone who values their life!

'Lady' in your dreams!

My dear dad always referred to my mum as his first wife, which she was for 67 years and always got a clip round the ear but a tradition harmless I suppose
The

"My" implies ownership and I imagine you have made your own mind up to stay with him. "Good" implies judgement and it is simply rude and he does not have the right to judge you. Women was at one time deemed disrespectful now "lady" is. He can either stay in the dark ages or respect your place in society. It could also be a very bourgeois attempt to push himself up the class ladder. "Wife is what you are but it is not all of what you are.

I am sure he is a very nice man but you are a grown-up, hopefully feisty women, who does not need to be defined by your relationship to him and his approval of you. On the other hand it may be too late to stop him so you have to weigh it up with his other foibles - good and irritating.

My good lady wife is marginally better than THE WIFE.
My husband referred to me that way once.
Only once.
I was always no.1 daughter, I always thought that was a bit Chinese.

DH introduces me as 'the management'!
My Dad used to introduce me (when young) as 'my eldest unmarried daughter'! Very victorian.
Both are tongue in cheek.
I'd hate 'my good lady wife'!

I say ‘number one son’ or ‘number one daughter’ too.?
I think ‘ good lady wife’ is a very old fashioned and patronising expression and I haven’t heard anyone use it in over 50 years.
‘The wife’ is awful too, and you should be introduced as ‘my wife, Kate’ KateK.

I referred to DS as my 'son and heir' but the DD took it seriously and were most indignant

For a while we would occasionally refer to our elder son as Number 1 son. This was a quote from Charlie Chan, the detective who had 2 sons. And our younger was Number 2 son. Then number 2 son objected to the practice. Oops. No more!

'She who must be obeyed'

The Rottweiler?

I used to hear wives referred to as all sorts when I worked in pubs. 'The Terminator' is one that comes to mind.

My husband's friend often rings and asks if the boss is in - I say "Speaking..."

'The present Mr Kate' sounds quite good to me!

I dislike 'The wife' - it reduces the OH to the status of 'The Dog'.
I am sometimes referred to as 'Her Indoors' even when we're out .

Mud?? Must

I’ve also been known as ‘she who mud be obeyed’......shades of Rumpole! I don’t know why he can’t just call me by my name-think I may adopt the ‘current’ or ‘present’ husband tactic. When in Rome..........

He does call me "The boss" though as in "i'll just run that past the boss", I don't know why, we tend to reach decisions by mutual agreement.

You could always introduce him as my present or current husband, I do that sometimes it raises a chortle My husband does belong to a golf club but he never uses that sort of out dated termanology.

Smithy, I also get called, 'The missus', 'The old trout,' 'Boss lady,' and 'My love, my dove, my treasure' when he wants something.

He'd probably call me 'Er indoors' as well but I'm usually outdoors.

Not today though. It's flippin' freezing.

Merlotgran - that's what my dad used to call my mum, in fun of course.

I prefer ‘her indoors’ to good lady wife...has he got a bad one?

I wouldn’t mind my dad introducing me as honourable first daughter, in fact he’d call me ‘number one daughter’. I’d not accept being called ‘my good lady wife’ because it does seem very 1950’s, patronising and rather golf club snobbish. Sincere apologies to non snobby golfers, no offence meant (as a man may say to a woman he just patronised)