My good lady wife......nooooo!!

Personally, I can't bear 'my hubby', in any context.

I get called the Ayatollah! ?

Does he introduce you this way or is it a term he uses in conversation? Does he say it in a patronising manner? I don't think I'd like to be talked about in that way, although your husband is just maybe a very old fashioned person? I do seem to remember the older (than me at the time!) generation using the term years ago and not necessarily in a patronising way. My darling /dear/ lovely wife would be much nicer in my opinion. Failing that, just 'my wife' or your name.

My present OH introduces me as his "future wife"
Haha-No way!

Katek Have you actually asked him not to address you this way?

Isn't it sometimes ( or most times) used ironically? As a joke, surely?

A very patronising phrase and old fashioned too. I also would hate to be introduced as ' my partner' as I am a wife Not that DH would ever do so.

Ah, that was your dad Baggs, different relationship, plus his saying is actually very complimentary as well as being sweet and funny. Sounds a lovely man.

My good lady wife is (to me) very patronising and puts me in the clubhouse making tea! Or, as someone once said to me? “the girls can colour in the posters!” DH also still talks about the ladies in the office....

My husband calls me "our lass" when talking to others. I think it's a Yorkshire expression. Or maybe from Andy Capp.
I don't know whether to be offended or not.
I call him "my 'usband" like Pam Ayres - they should have asked my 'usband.

Kate, I'm squirming with you! I think it's a patronising and old fashioned term. A simple "my wife, Kate" sounds so much nicer to me.

Much better than “ the wife”.

Have you tried referring to him or introducing him as “my good gentleman husband”?

My dad used to introduce me as “Honourable First Daughter”. It never occurred to me to feel patronised. Daftnesses (nearly wrote dadnesses) like that we’re just part of the good, clever, always friendly, daft man was

It’s the general patronising tone I think-ranks alongside ‘the little woman’ or ‘the girls’ in my head. I don’t need my head patted.

It definitely has shades of 'Only fools and horses'.

Which bit of ‘my good lady wife’ do you object to specifically katek?
Identifying that might help you to work out why you object to it.
Or is it the general patronising tone and the image it evokes of the golf club captain whose wife stays in the background organising everything while he gets the credit?

I suppose it depends on the motive.