Looking back

I never had a life plan, nor I think, did DH. But we met, married, had jobs, children, bought a house and muddled through. Just like Topsy, we just grew. , and I don't think I would change a thing. (Oh but I would like to be without the aches and pains).

kittylester* I couldn't have put it better. My thoughts exactly.

I certainly didn't and never have had a life plan - at 64 and after 47 years of marriage I still don't! I think my husband did and achieved some of them but at the end of the day to be content and healthy is probably all any of us can hope for and the same for our children.

Welcome wotnot.

I never really had a plan and nor did DH. But. despite a few setbacks and sadnesses, I am happy be where I am.

Hello Wotnot, love your question. To be absolutely honest, not one thing ever went to plan! That’s not to say it wasn’t as good, or as bad, it’s just been very very different and I have had some incredible and unexpected adventures. As for the rest of my life, I shall just hold on and see ?

We had our golden wedding last weekend, so a good time to think about this. I had hopes for my life, although I felt some of them were unlikely. I hoped for a happy marriage and children, but thought I was unlikely to marry or have children but I actually achieved both. I hoped for a professional career, I achieved that, but not the career, I expected.

Neither DH's nor my profession existed when we left school and this is why I would say that life certainly hasn't turned out in any way I could imagine. Every aspect of life: employment, technology, social attitudes, standards of living has changed so much in my lifetime that my life for most of the years of my marriage was beyond imagining when I left school.

Hello wotnot and welcome to GN. Good question to ‘jump in’ with.

I didn’t have a long-term vision for my life at any point apart from wanting to be happy. Although it started badly and been difficult and tragic at times, it has slowly and steadily improved so that life now is as good as it gets as far as I’m concerned. I’m happy enough under the circumstances but I never dreamed I’d be here, with this life, now.