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Nice to meet you too corner. Hope the bug clears up soon and whatever family weight you are dealing with begins to lighten up for you.

Good morning Crafting. Double esspresso for the naughty one in the corner

ann to say it’s unfair leaving you to more or less get on with caring for you H by yourself is putting it mildly. What I would really like to say is unprintable! My aunt is in a similar position as you, caring for her husband. Fortunately she is in a position to pay for private care which enables her to have a life too as a spritely 92yr old. Maybe something to give serious thought if you are in a position to do so. Another thought, if your H becomes awkward you can always threaten to have him readmitted, something which may help to calm him

Good luck Ann .we found late morning quite good. I would bring Paw his cup of tea when we woke up, help him through to the en suite, disconnect his catheter night bag then settle him back in bed with the (online) newspaper and breakfast on a tray when he was ready for it. Second cups of tea whenever he wanted of course.So from that point of view his routine was very similar to when he was much less poorly.
We both liked this late start to the day, I could get up and do things if I wanted to or enjoy an hour with the paper nd a cup of coffee knowing he was safe. When there’s not a lot you can do, why start your day too early?
The carers came about 11 and would help him wash or shower on alternative days, dress him and usually make the bed while I got lunch ready downstairs and they or I would supervise him coming downstairs to sit in his armchair in the sitting room until he was ready for lunch (he preferred his main meal in the middle of the day). After lunch he would read, watch TV or sometimes a friend would pop round which he always liked.
Looking back this timing worked for us and I hope it does for you too. When there is no alternative you have to make things work for you, not you for them. Perhaps I am just feeling more positive today, but with hindsight, the 8 weeks Paw had at home were not at all bad, considering, and our lives fell into a reasonably pleasant if unexciting routine.

ann, I'm flabbergasted to hear that your H is to be sent home today. It's so very cold and I would guess that he has been in an over-heated ward, so you'll be using up a lot more than your winter fuel allowance (aren't we all!).
Glad you had a pleasant evening out and I hope that you will still manage to have some social life of your own from now on. You know where to come to 'sound off' but it's not the same as seeing friends and family face to face. xx

Mmm! When we go down in the charra (I’ve printed the song sheets!) for the opening of N&G’s new orangery we will have to tell the driver not to go round corners on two wheels in case she is hiding in the bushes with the speed gun!! If you donate your hard hat to her, corner, please paint it red. She will accept nothing else! ?
Ann you sound as if you’re going to have your work cut out, but I hope that once your DH is home, things will settle into a manageable pattern for you. Above all, try and make sure you look after yourself too.
We don’t know what to expect weatherwise today. Yesterday was very fine but very cold and we watched GS pay football and then went for a walk along the river. We have a school run to do today, so I’m hoping it will be reasonably kind to us until we get home. I woke up with a sore throat and a runny nose, having thought I had got rid of my cold. We shall overcome - eventually.
I will look in later.

Best wishes for today Ann

I echo corner's post.

Are you happy with this outcome? I'm sure you both will be happy for him to be home but please consider buying in more care. You really need to look after you so you can look after him! Do you have contact with the Alzheimer's Society?

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Ann I'm glad you had a 'last fling' and went out. 11am is late; will your husband need to stay put until the carers come?

Good luck ann, I have fears for you both while wishing you well.

My goodness ann that's not enough help really. I do hope your DH is just grateful to get home and doesn't get angry at you and the careers. We are all thinking of you. Hope all goes well

misadventure as soop would say, you tyke

I have been out for a really enjoyable meal with my ex Dil and her friend.I am now in for the long term as my H is coming home tomorrow.
We have care in place but the only morning time is 11am!!
No way is my H going to stay put till then.
I am going to see how it all goes, I will be back as Arnold Schwarzenegger said.

SHE'S HERE, EVERYONE!
CRAFTING IS HERE!
sorry, couldn't resist.
Popping in for a quiet sit down too. I don't feel up to much else today.

I'm creeping in to sit quietly in the corner. I am still very hungover tired after the 'do' at the Argy Bargy. I don't know what was in that poteen but it was very potent. I might have made an exhibition of myself been a little tipsy.

Ha!

Jane no desire to but Scotland did so well did they not?

Let’s not talk about rugby, OK? ?

Annsixty, I`m not good with words, but echo all that`s been said, please take all the help and advice you can possibly get, you and your husband deserve the best.
Soop, I hope the new baby doesn`t keep you all waiting for too long.
N&G, I`m picturing you with your speed gun, I hope it does the trick for you.
Corner, I hope the bug, or the lurgy, soon leave you in peace, it`s hung around quite long enough. I had the cough for a week, then a bad cold for a week, now I`m at the sneezing and sniffling stage, but I`ve got off lightly compared to some of you on here.

soop, I hope GGC2 won't keep you all waiting much longer. Some do arrive on expected date - mine both did but DS2 has seldom done anything punctual since!
Just remembered that I have to write a poem for tomorrow's meeting of my creative writing group. I am not a poet. Some of the others can produce a verse at the drop of a hat. I lack inspiration, so let's see if desperation will work.

Evening All. What a busy but good weekend, still feel odd, am convinced it is ‘the bug’ but a minor version. I’m at the bunged up stage which I suspect is impacting balance. Was it greyd who mentioned low blood pressure? Been checking it, down a bit but not hugely, good thought though.

Family day yesterday worked beautifully, enjoyable lunch out, nice walk in the very fresh beach air, then tea back here. Chaos but happy chaos. Quieter day today with Mr C, went to our local NT where the air was slightly less fresh than on the sea front. Two coffee stops, enjoyable walk, back here and then a visit from our daughter in law who lives separately from our son . Appreciated the effort she made to see Mr C on his birthday. Having said all that I think your weekend beats ours for busyness nonna, feet up now I hope.

I can see you with the gun, n&g, in view of kitty’s experience would you like to borrow the hard hat we have in the upstairs storage - aka the loft?

Hello agus don’t think I was here when you called before, nice to meet you.

Hope that fire is keeping you warm soop, it is jolly cold. Suspect our heating will be on all night. Just enjoying a glass of chilled white, can’t manage red, the digestion hates it.

How many times have we all echoed your thoughts about items we have let go of kitty? Never mind, we can’t turn the clock back, you have just the items you wanted so enjoy them. I feel for your daughter, had one pregnancy like that, having said that the resulting baby was the calmer and easier of the two. We decided he had done his challenging very early.

maw I’m absolutely certain paw knew how much he was loved, the ‘if only’ can always be there about something, please don’t give yourself a hard time. paw will have appreciated your loving care of him and not wished for more.

Oh ann I wonder how many of the people involved in discharging your husband have been in your position or have the imagination to understand the reality? There’s much excellent advice here, I can’t add to it and so send [hugs] and love to you both.

Family stuff is still a weight, we’ve a busy week ahead and I am hoping the forecast snow won’t impede us, particularly with three medical appointments. Worrying won’t help so I plan to relax and enjoy an early night.

I have opened a bag of chocolate now I am thin Kitty!! Thank you ! :-)

N&G, I made you thin!! Say thank you nicely Why can't I do that for myself? I could maybe offer it as a service and charge money for it!!

Thank you for the lovely welcome back Soop Wow! a Great Granny with not one but two little bundles marking their place in your heart, that really is something to celebrate.

Re Crafting well, what a dark horse she turned out to be. She then tries to excuse herself by saying she has no memory of her behaviour......aye right

Oh kitty how lovely to have another little bundle arriving to meet you. Good luck and good health to your DD.

Well what a lovely weekend that was! DS2 arrived Friday afternoon and we went for a meal. The venue do exotic meats as well as the usual, DS decided he fancied camel but I was rather glad when the waitress came and said they’d run out. He settled for marlin instead. Then on Saturday morning, after his friend arrived we went clay pigeon shooting. It was a first for me, DH tried once several years ago, DS has done it a few time, but his mate shoots regularly. Apart from standing in a freezing field for almost an hour, it was a great experience, I even managed to hit a few clays!
Then later DS3 arrived, rugby was watched (lads happy with the Ireland result, as they are half Irish). Disappointingly DS1 and DGD did not make it as his car broke down. However, my sister came, along with nephews and niece, plus 2 littlies and we all went for a meal. It was a lovely evening. Good too was the fact that originally we were celebrating DS2’s 40th, but we also celebrated DS3’s birthday which is today. Don’t know when I’ll see them all again, but it was lovely having them here.

ann If you enjoy poetry, and should you happen across a book - 'The Poetry Pharmacy' by William Sieghart, treat yourself to it. Every time I pick my copy up and browse through the contents, my spirits are uplifted.

kitty I'm sorry to hear that baby-in-the-making is making Mummy-to-be feel sick. It's a thoroughly unpleasant side effect. One that I hope will disappear as time passes.

N&G A Gatso gun. Sounds like fun. We could all do with one.

Today has been perfect weather-wise. But oh so cold. We went for our usual walk this morning and were chilled to the marrow. I'm still trying to warm up. We'll light the fire and countdown to a cheering glass of .

Until tomorrow...(((hugs))) a plenty to every one of our Granspals who is unwell or unhappy.

I loved doing the speed gun thin N&G and we caught loads!! There was a fair amount of abuse sent our way and people coming back for anther try. It was cold and rainy and they still do exactly the same speeds down the roads out of the village.

Having said that, I enjoyed meeting the people who were also involved.