Feeding your family = weighing 20 stone ??

Then it felt kind of dishonest not to tell the back story.
Sorry for not spilling the beans straight away .

Portion size comes into this.

I don't bake regularly either, or I would put on too much weight. Treat your self one a month or so unless you have visitors.
I have been feeling rough this week with a poor appetite and I have met my target weight. Maybe it is time for a cake .

Everyone is so very helpful. Thank you for being kind.
I truly started this post to get some tips on your cooking routines.

Stella1949 Yours is rather a harsh comment.
You are so very, very, wrong. My life has been a misery. I'd do anything to be free of this. I'm constantly fending off comments about "bag of bones. " Trapped in a cycle that grips your mind. Not vain or self pitying, just had enough.

Most of my life I happily kept this a secret because my mind tells me everything's fine. No boasting there. For decades the case was I'd rather be left alone, draw no attention to myself . Then no one will notice. and I'll be free to carry on.

This suited my mind fine but I made friends with a new neighbour (retired nurse) who started popping in daily (far too much) , she seemed to just take over and catch on straight away that i was in a stage of not eating and was weak. She told my closest family and friends .
I could have cheerfully strangled her. I was furious.

If you have been yo -yoing up and down size 22 to size 6 and back then your body will be very confused and unfortunately not very healthy if you ve had hospitilation and loads of nutrional advice it’s obviously a brain thing and needs treating from a psychological point of view which would be beyond any advice you can get on here gmelon and I wouldn’t thnk something you can do yourself
Have you been referred to an eating disorder agency or psych artist I think that is the only way forward if you ve already been down that route without permanent help I m not sure what you can do

Full fat milk & yogurt, scrambled eggs etc take careGmelon you need to be strong with you having MS!!

Sorry, I have just read your more detailed post. Mary Berry was asked the same question and she said she does eat cake but only small portions, so I guess that would be a sliver of cake for most people. Personally I don't bake too much as we would/do end up eating too much. So I guess the answer is just to bake say once a month or perhaps on special occasions? The other point is of course that most of us are probably overweight, I read that over 60 percent of adults are overweight.

Size 6? I wouldn't worry too much about the calories.

I have a sil who would be about a size 6. She makes sure to ask questions of others, which always end up with her mentioning her tiny size and how she is fearful of gaining weight . I think it's her way of boasting about her size. Your post sounds much the same to me.

Gmelon, I guess that Carbs will be the way to go for you, plus some good fats, and protein. If you have had an eating disorder for so very long, then I’m sure it will be difficult for you, however, the Internet is a great place for sharing diet advice and that includes putting on weight as well as losing it.
Good luck, will power is easy to write down but a b****r to get a grip with.
I get bored and then I snack, I need to keep occupied or I would be heading for the diet books as well.
Just a thought, have you tried hypnosis?

Health issues - I have Multiple Sclerosis.

"Teetime" I understand in some measure how you feel. It can become obsessive and overly important. I'm happy you are managing well now.
I've been locked in that nightmare of wanting to be a certain size.

After a lifetime of an eating disorder, I'm stranded at a place where I'm not living normally.

Things got worse a decade ago.
I've been up to a size 22/24. and back down again to a size 6 about six or more times in the last ten years.
Each time it took a year to lose it then up I went again until clothes, embarrassment and basic mobility became a problem.

I ate strangely all my life and denied a problem.
As things got severe in the past few years I've received lots of medical assistance, been hospitalised through lack of nutrition, unfortunately the sterling assistance hasn't helped me change.

Current situation is that I'm stuck at a low body mass and it's been that way for a while.
I'm planning to use all my willpower to improve.
That's my back story.

Need advice on a measured approach.

Feel a bit of a wreck, like many of us but as Elton John would say "I'm still standing " (even if sometimes with help).

Am sure you'll never be a greedy guts!! But hope that unlike me you don't ever reach the point where lying in a bath was impossible as all my bones hurt,last year was at my son's in Australia for 6wks,daughters in Dubai had 3visits there never once wore a swimsuit because I looked so awful...will wear one this year though ?

A visit to some of your freezers might help if I need a bit of fattening up

gmelon if only I knew. what I do know is after a life time of trying to be a size 12 and only managed a 14 although I have been a 20 and for a few weeks a 22 I am tired of the whole thing so its healthy eating and plenty of exercise for me. I count my calaries on about 5 days a week (weekends off) and try to keep some kind of lid on it. The enemy for me is boredom. If I don't have an activity day I pick more. I only bake if we are having visitors but even then they arrive and say 'Oh we not eating this or that at the moment' so we take them out to eat. I cook from fresh everyday but succumb to the nightly glass or two!

It's the control issue. I'm asking advice on how to stop being a greedy guts in the face of temptation.

Wasn't questioning your integrity just don't understand why at size 6 you fear putting weight on!

Well I'm 5'6tall very large framed and ALL my bones were sticking out,I looked awful,felt awful,am being monitored by consultant re cholesterol etc. I'm vegetarian,ate/eat healthy..just wasn't eating enough! Everyone now is saying how well am looking,hair condition is excellent,getting a bum back and curves.slowly but surely..always felt good at size 12/14 so aiming for that!!

"Fairview "
Do not question my integrity.

BTW a friends DM was only 4ft 10 inches, very tiny lady, ate well and was always zooming around. She died when she was 86.
Don’t know how she managed to have 4 strapping sons and a daughter. Her GCs called her pocket nanny, because she was so small.

Sorry that was for Farview

High fat diet? I would have thought a size 10 , (in the UK) was a pretty healthy size. Can’t see why you need to put on another stone or two if you’ve lost 17 kg?
Am I reading this wrong?

I've lost 17kg in last few years,now under a consultant and been put on high calorie/fat diet, was size 8/10 ..always feeling poorly etc.
Have now already gained a stone,looking and feeling better,got another stone or so to go. So can't imagine how being a size 6,unless tiny and tiny framed is not a worry to you!!!

Is the OP a wind up?

DD is a size 6 and has been since she was 18, nudging 50 now. She is very healthy but is also vegetarian which may explain the lack of body fat.
GD is the baker of cakes and I can't resist but do try to limit the portion.

I don’t bake or eat cake ( or biscuits or pastry...) yet am 2 Stones or more overweight. My diet is healthy I take exercise. Life is unfair.