Your wedding ring

My first wedding ring was so pretty, 18 carat gold with three tiny, inlaid diamonds. After 20 or so years two of the diamonds fell out so it was replaced with a Russian wedding ring of three different types of gold. At some point this ring went missing, much to my dismay because I do take my rings off at night and if I'm doing a mucky job. Last year, having moved house, I was clearing the garage of unwanted furniture including an old linen basket/container which had an internal cloth insert. I detached the latter because it was on its way to the recycling centre. At the bottom of the container was my ring, jammed in a couple of slats. I was so pleased to recover it and now rarely take it off, it feels very special. I never had an engagement ring, I'd love an eternity ring but haven't managed to engineer my way to one yet! My mother wore her wedding ring all her life and widowhood and asked to be buried with it.

Never take my wedding ring , neither did DH. Although when we were first married I got terrible itchy eczema underneath it and had to take it off for a few days till it had cleared up.

Mine is part of a set of three which became popular in the 70s, a wedding ring/eternity ring and engagement ring they replaced my original plain gold band which I lost when on holiday I only wear them as a set when going somewhere special as they fill the bottom half of my ring finger and can be uncomfortable but I love them.

I rarely take of my wedding ring, only if it gets itchy due to irritation and then only for a short time. After 50+ years I can still get it off easily. It is made from 22 ct gold with white gold in the centre with a cross pattern. The yellow gold did have a pattern each side, like the side of a three penny piece but that has worn off.

I was surprised people had new rings just for a change. For me this was the ring I was married with and would not change it unless I had to. Never heard of taking your ring off when your husband dies as this would be a memory of him.

Engagement ring I have had a replacement as my husband wanted me buy me a new one.

Never worn it since my H asked me to hand it to him during our wedding meal and promptly passed it on to my MIL who wore it the rest of the day.

Never really recovered my interest in it after that.

Day6 I think that too - my mum was (supposedly) buried wearing her diamond engagement and wedding rings (I was not party to that decision). I would rather one of us (her daughters or granddaughters) had kept them. It makes me feel sad.

My friend died last year. Her husband wears his and her wedding rings on a gold chain around his neck.

I’ve worn mine since I got married 47 years ago, I’ve never taken it off

I've never had mine off in nearly 50yrs until recently when I had to have steriod injections in my left hand. After the agony of removing it the first time I had it re-sized but unfortunately when the time came to have the next injection my fingers had become more mishapen so I decided to buy another ring a larger size which is secured by my engagement ring which I can still get on and off. My husband then put my wedding ring on my right hand which is the way it is done in Spain and I wear my Mum's engagement ring on the same finger. I actually like this better than the original way!!

I wear my wedding ring everyday but take it off to put on my engagement ring first which I like to do sometimes rather than put the engagement ring after. Mind you I can only remove it when my fingers are cool! DH has given me a couple of rings which I also wear from time to time as my engagement ring is now very thin though I love it. DH doesn't wear a ring and neither did my father. I used to wear my grandad's signet ring a lot but it's a bit tight these days!

I wear my wedding ring German fashion on the right hand and DH wears his everyday as well. We were engaged with the same rings when we wore them on the left hand.
I don’t intend to change mine but have had it made slightly bigger when I took it off for the first time some years ago because of a burn on my hand.

Widows here wear both the rings, his on the other hand and I have often seen the gold ring hanging on a long gold chain round the neck.

I have a very broad patterned wedding ring which I take off the minute I come into the house. Mostly because my finger goes soggy underneath and also because I can't work with that and my 'engagement' ring on. I actually mislaid my engagement ring mysteriously. It was a large sapphire cluster, came in one night after being out, put it on my dressing table and next day it had gone! We had the whole Hygena wardrobe/dressing table unit out but nothing! That was five house moves ago!

I wear other rings which I've acquired over the years. I was bought an eternity ring one year after getting married which I don't wear at all. My OH still wears his ring which is more of a signet ring but engraved with our initials, it's 49 years on Thursday since our dreadful wedding day but we are still here, hanging by the skin of our teeth against all odds!

I take wedding ring off at night and if doing messy jobs. My gold wedding ring had a bark effect which began to wear off. DH bought me a platinum one of the same design for Silver wedding. I continued to wear the gold one for special occasions and a few years ago we had it rebarked, it's much thinner than it was!

I’m on my third wedding ring. The first came from Woolworths! We replaced the second one when it started to look old fashioned and was too tight. I also wear an eternity ring everyday. I never had an engagement ring. I don’t sleep in the eternity ring and I only take my rings off when I make pastry or am putting on handcream. I like wearing my rings. Neither of them were terribly expensive but I know my husband has never bought a ring for anyone else so they are special.

When I got divorce from the moron I sold my wedding ring to pay the electric bill as he never paid maintenance or child support and I had a load of debt from loans he had taken out in my name. I am not married to current OH but we got engaged after 13 years together and he bought me an eternity ring instead of a traditional engagement ring and I never take it off.

My DH chose to have a wedding ring back in the 60s when most men did not. He wore it all the time until one day, about 40 years ago, it caught on his woodworking machinery and thankfully split rather than tearing his finger off. It has lain in his bedside drawer ever since......... UNTIL

Two weeks ago, he found it while looking for lost watch (which was on his wrist - DH has advanced FTD) and announced 'I've been looking for that for ages' popped it on and has worn it, complete with split, day and night since. When DD1 noticed it on his finger, her Dad told her that he might not wear it forever but as we had not been married for long (actually 52 years and counting) it was right to wear it now. He seems to find it very comforting.

gummybears Outstandingly thoughtless behaviour from your husband?
Dare I ask if your husband had some reason for handing your ring to mother in law?

gmelon - she asked for it, so he got it for her. If she asked for a kidney, he'd be creeping up behind me with a butcher knife

gummybears I am not sure which of them needed a good spanking most!
My darling MIL would never have dreamed of interposing herself between DH and me in any way ever and for your brand new MIL to do such a thing on your wedding day beggars belief. I hope her behaviour has improved since then.

Granny23

Oh dear "gummybears" . Did you consider an anullment whilst eating your wedding meal?

I am also a victim of a 1970s wide wedding ring . It appears there are quite a lot of us.

I rarely wear mine. It is quite wide and my finger gets soggy underneath the ring, so I leave it off when I am gardening or such.
I don't often remember to wear it. but keep it in a box.

My current wedding ring – I have been married twice with a divorce in between – is the 22-carat ring that my grandfather put on my grandmother's hand in the 1890s. We asked my elderly mother if we could use it and she delightedly gave us her blessing. It is paper thin as the soft gold wore down during my grandmother's pretty hard life and I don't think she ever took it off, whether blacking the range or scrubbing the front step. I treasure family heirlooms and us them as much as I can.

use – not us them!

I am so glad there are other women on here who don't wear a wedding ring. I miss placed mine years ago and keep hoping it will turn up but as a plain silver band it had become too tight to wear anyway.
A friend commented on my lack of a wedding ring and photographs of my wedding and asked 'Are you even married?'I would love an eternity ring and keep dropping hints but as I have been married for 46 years,I think I may be unlucky.