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Ma's driving

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BlueBelle Sun 10-Jun-18 19:08:30

I think you need to weigh up how you could live with yourself if she was to have an accident ( which sounds likely) and may be kill or harm a child or a family
I think there should be just as strict rules in later life driving as in young life driving and I also think like 17 is the start age there should be a cut off age I know a man with dementia still driving and an elderly lady who is extremely unwell she has one kidney a very very bad heart, blood clots and can barely manage to get around the house My friend who is 81 very wisely gave herself a cut off of 75 she didn’t feel she was as sharp as she used to be and with free bus passes didnt want to take any chances

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Marmight Sun 10-Jun-18 19:06:32

Just tell her! Have a gentle discussion. Explain that taking a taxi even 5 times a week is far less expensive than running a car. We did this with my Aunt, at the age of 95 shock, and she agreed and, what's more, handed the keys + car to one of my daughters. Win win situation!

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pensionpat Sun 10-Jun-18 18:50:04

Kill that car! Asap!

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Lisalou Sun 10-Jun-18 18:33:12

Dear Gns,

I could use your help. My mother is now in her early eighties and still living independently, she is in good health overall, with the odd ache and pain, but capable of doing pretty much everything for herself. My only problem is her driving - she used to be a good driver and, to my knowledge, no accidents; I went for a drive with her recently and was terrified. She is hesitant, drives far too slowly and she tends to hug the shoulder. She says she will probably give up driving when she is around 85 unless the car (very old) gives out first.
I dont know how to tell her that her driving is appalling, I suspect her eyesight (which she tells me is perfect, and is clearly not) should take some of the blame, but whatever the reason, she should no longer be driving. I wouldn't hurt her feelings for the world, but I would like her to be around for a good bit longer. I am afraid she will have an accident and get herself and/or others killed.

I could tell her, or I could "kill" the car (I use it quite regularly)

How would you wise ladies deal with this?

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