Hi, thank you everyone for your supportive messages. an update for you. sadly it seems all departments involved dont seem to speak or help the other. we,ve been to the g.p twice this week, i,ve emailed so many organisations , it seems my grandson is suffering from severe trauma, and i,ve been told that most of trauma children dont do well in mainstream school. i have an appointment to see the senco lady at his school on Monday, he still hasnt attended school all week. The most disappointing aspect of all this is that i had a meeting yesterday with his social worker and another sw, i told them that i am desperate for some help , as i mentioned in my original post it really is a sad and complex case, and if any of you would like to know more info on this i am happy to share in a private message, as i said i,m not good online and i have no idea who can see these messages. Anyway instead of the help i was hoping for from ss, 2 hours after our meeting they hand posted a letter through my door, telling me that this was a private arrangement between my daughter and i, and basically they wont help, and the letter even said i need to ask his parents for financial support... firstly i didnt even mention the financial side to them, other than to say i,ve been told this is classed as a kinship, and secondly i am fuming they even put his fathers name on the letter. i am fuming about it. so anyway it seems i have made a little progress, but it sadly it seems we still have a long way to go.