Funeral clothes

We're at my cousin's husband's funeral tomorrow and I'd thought about black trousers and a black lacey top with a cream vest under it - I might rethink it now reading this for something a bit less sombre.

A friend had asked her family to wear turquoise to her funeral as it was her favourite colour. I normally wear navy and/or grey garments and would willingly have worn my turquoise pashmina, if I had known.

I think sombre and quiet are the words for funeral clothes rather than sticking to black. I went to a family funeral last year when the weather was like it is now and wore dark brown cotton trousers with a cream and autumnal coloured top. His sister, and they were very close, wore a cream shift dress.

The last funeral I attended was that of my DH's aunt. I wore black trousers and a stripey blouse. It was a coolish day so I also wore my black leather jacket. I would have left the jacket at home if it had been warmer.

When I was a child we had a funeral handkerchief with a black border at home, obviously a remnant from Victorian times.
I wore a smart red dress to my friend's funeral recently though many mourners were wearing black. I don't understand why it is necessary to wear black or dark colours to show your respect. You are showing that by attending the funeral.
I have told my family I don't want black worn at my send-off which I hope will be a celebration of my life.

I tend to go for greys and purples nowadays. Seems to have covered most recent funerals, but last one I attended we were asked to dress casually. There were a couple of people wearing jeans!!

I don’t wear black for funerals any more I don’t mean I would wear a multi coloured rainbow, but a subtle coloured blouse or top and darkish trousers
I certainly don’t want any black at my funeral

Black trousers and a long or three quarter sleeved white blouse. Maybe a sheer something under the blouse for modesty's sake.
With a skirt you will have to wear stockings or tights and can get clammy so I would pick some lightweight trousers.

It isn't overly hot where I am, bit overcast.

Without reading the other replies, my immediate thought was black or navy or grey if you have it, skirt or trousers, crisp white shirt and either a cardi or jacket or blazer if it gets cool.
If you did want to wear a black dress a cream or white jacket (one of those things I have “in case” but have only worn once!) on top.

I would wear black trousers with a light black top and chunky necklace and ditch the jacket for a grey or pastel coloured pashmina/scarf.

Too much choice, that’s the problem I fear!

Thanks for your replies. It’s the question of covering up shoulders as well but I don’t want to put a black jacket on as well. I might just have a cardigan for in the crematorium and can take it off later. I wondered if the white or light top was too frivolous? I have dug out a darkish grey top and grey trousers which I might consider.

I wore a black tea dress with small burgundy and cream daisies to a recent funeral . I had a light weight black jacket on top . Didn’t feel out of place at all as most women had worn clothes to break up the all black.

I think as long as you are smart casual and look business like rather than ready for a party it is ok. e.g A dress & jacket, black skirt/ trousers and sober shirt or top of any colour is fine. His family won't mind as long as you are there.

I agree, black trousers or skirt and a light coloured top. Certainly something lightweight in this weather.

Black trousers, white or pastel top is my go to now.
If it is chilly, a dark card I or pasmina, but never all black now unless requested as it was at a funeral I went to a couple of years ago.
It is you they want to see paying your respects, not your clothes.