Need a hug!

Aw, huge hugs, oldwoman. I know the huggless feeling. Husband is currently suffering from horrible shoulder pain and is not feeling very well, hence huglessness around here.

I know just what you mean, I really miss that physical contact too. I so enjoy that lovely hug I get when I do see my two sons and my daughter in law gives the best hugs ever. Sending one to you.

And from me xx

Being ‘touch deprived’ really sucks doesn’t it? Ever though of getting a rescue cat? Could be a mutually beneficial solution?

How about organising a Gn meet up? Then you could get hugs from all the Gners in your area?

Here's a hug from me too. It's the lack of physical presence that gets you, don't you think? Lots of support on here.

I relate entirely and I'm sending you a warm heartfelt hug ((((( )))))) xxx

I like the teddy idea ? Big hug from me (((((( hug)))))) ?

Another big, warm hug from me x

Gigantic hugs from me too (((((((HUGS)))))))

Oldwoman, Have a look at the gransnet page for meetups. You may be able to find some friends in your area who might also like a hug occasionally. Are your sure your present friends wouldn't understand your need for a hug, they may actually need one themselves but don't like to say.

Sending you a hug from Cornwall

Oh bless you! A big hug from me too. As regards physical contact (in a good way) what about booking a relaxing facial or a shoulder/back massage?

I don't hug friends much but I do with my children and OH (who doesn't live with me)
My mum wasn't a hugger but that was due to her convent upbringing.
She used to 'tighten up' and freeze if you put your arm around her and she'd say 'don't be daft'.
I have a huggy dog and a tiny golliwog. Golly travels with me everywhere. My lucky charm.

Hugs coming your way ???
Perhaps a nice massage might help
Why don’t you treat yourself to one

A big huggy hug from me xx

Big hug from me too. I am just the same. My DC are so good at acting the hard guys they forget to be human x

Do you have an old jumper , dressing gown or anything of your partner still ? If so wrap it round you , close your eyes and dream . Failing this, did he wear a particular aftershave ? spray it on a pillow and hug the pillow.

Give one of your friends a hug. They may have wanted to hug you for ages! They may well love it and you may start a trend. If they don't like it bluff your way out by saying " sorry I always hug xxxxx or I thought you looked like you needed cheering up. I hug everyone and nobody has reacted badly. A huge hug from me.

Sending hugs oldwoman70.

Huge hug for you. We all need one at times. Lots of love to you. Xx

And one from Grandpa Joe

Im in the same situation as you are and feel the same. Being a widow is hard and even when the acute grief is past theres still so many areas of our lives that feel empty. The lack of physical touch is incredibly painful and drags me down as well. Also the loss of being related to as a woman is hard. I dont have any answers apart from reassuring you that you arent alone in this

Double ((((hugs)))) xxx

Sending a hug but second a massage. Was in John Lewis yesterday and was dealing with DH who doesn't cope with big shops. Sent him off on his errand and agreed to meet up at Waitrose . I had borrowed the chair by the Clarins stand for my shopping bag and the lady there said would I like a massage. So I had a free neck and shoulder massage in public! But I could choose calming or invigorating and because we had spent the morning dealing with our wills and poa I chose calming. The Clarins lady also offered me money off for a massage in their spa which I intend to take up. My lovely local beautician goes into an oak home and gives hand massages as she says many of them have no famil to hold their hand.