Soop's welcoming and supportive kitchen

You are all very patient and kind and I am hugely grateful for your support.
It knocks the knees out from under you though when someone whose opinion you have respected up to now appears to “rubbish” your contribution and give it a slant which was clearly not part of the original intention.
Live and learn.

I hope I didn't contribute to your angst MawBroon, as I thought what you said very reasonable and sensible.

Of course not!

I meant that I hope I didn't make things worse.
My knuckles are still stinging.

Sometimes the wider GN needs a health warning, funny old place out there at times.

The tooth isn’t straightforward. The referral hasn’t been made yet, we were due to discuss at my appointment in a couple of weeks. I’ll phone the surgery and ask for a message to go to my dentist. See what he says. Hopefully he can send a fairly urgent referral without seeing me. I’m not so bothered about the extraction process, more about the process of the process if that makes sense. The hospital is a swine to get to and it will apparently need more than one appointment. No fun this getting older lark at times.

Anyone seen kitty? Don’t recall seeing her around but maybe missed her while arbitrating on the railway design. . Hope she’s OK.

More Granny duties tomorrow and Wednesday with the big ones. Thursday we sleep .

Soop, I`m already laying bets with myself as to what will happen if Tabby decides to take up residence in the chalet!
Everyone is right, MacS not only doesn`t LOOK his age, he has a younger outlook on things as well.
Corner, I do hope you`re not suffering too much.
I was about to head out to visit a friend over the river this morning, but had a phone call from Carers First that lasted 45 minutes, so then didn`t have time to go visiting, will have to wait till next week now.
Daughter 3v is whisking me off to London again in February and March, Feb to the Strictly roadshow at the O2 arena, and March to the Albert Hall for our 3rd Classical Spectacular, a truly marvellous concert/show. She rang to tell me which hotels we`re staying in, in Feb it`s the Radisson Blu Edwardian near the O2, and in March we`ll be at the Millenium Gloucester in Kensinton. They look lovely on their websites, so I hope they are. When we were in London the other week, the theatre was just along the Aldwych from the Waldorf Hilton, and cheeky Dawn decided she wanted to see inside. I didn`t go because I didn`t want to be a part of getting thrown out, but she came back saying a lovely man had shown her round, after she told him she wanted to bring her mother for a special treat. After seeing their prices, I don`t think it`ll be happening any time soon, lol!

Morning all, hope your feeling better maw I often worry somthing I say (write) might be taken out of context. It’s hard when you have no body signals to see. I really need to scroll back to catch up with anns news. All my family have gone home apart from my sister whom I really love. She’s so supportive and kind but because she fairly unobtrusive often doesn’t get the thanks she deserves. In my younger days when things were hard and my children were young she would fill up my freezer with food whereas my husbands large joyous Irish family would bring toys and sweets so my children didn’t appreciate what my sister did behind the scene. It’s still the same today. She has quietly supported me and indirectly my son and sick DiL throughout these difficult years. My husbands family are nowhere to be seen but turned up this weekend with great fanfare giving presents galore and waving £ and kisses out for all. They are lovely and I love them but I still feel it’s unfair. When I next see my children I’m going to tell them how much she’s done for us all over the years. We’ve got the children today so she’s treating us all to lunch. I’m almost certain the grandchildren will shout McDonald’s when asked to choose where to eat. Take care one and all.

Goodmorning everyone I’ve had a few wakeful nights whether it’s the cold or racing mind I’m not sure I just want to get through a night with one long sleep ?.
I’ve kept away from that ‘cancer’ thread I just know I’d pour my heart out and not be able to stop but it’s such an emotive subject it’s no wonder things get said and misunderstood and feelings hurt, such a shame that those trying to be supportive are criticised.
I’ve been thinking about the Winter that is looming long, lonely, dark and depressing in front of me, family are giving me things to think about and I’m going to look out my knitting needles and order some yarn and at least keep my hands busy. I’m not a joiner of groups I wish I were but it’s just too hard for me.
Now I’ll wish you all a great day.

Morning all! It’s photography class today but I am already well behind as I was working when it started, then our half term was different to theirs. I’m sure I will get there in the end.
Tanith would a knitting group be something you would be comfortable with? There are one or two round here - chat and coffee with knitting as an excuse I gather.

Chilly but beautiful frosty start to our day. Will be off out with the children later, just a walk and hot chocolate.

You sound tired morerthan, I’m so pleased you have your sister with you. Of course you’re right, the under the radar people often seem invisible but you may be surprised and find your family have noticed her after all. Enjoy lunch, if I dare say this I quite enjoy a trip to McDs now and again.

The forthcoming trips sound wonderful callgirl, isn’t it good to have something to look forward to? My tooth isn’t dreadful, thank you for asking, i just know its there if you understand that sort of feeling. All will be well. I had just hoped the temporary filling would be a little less temporary.

It’s easy to be misunderstood when we write I think tanith. You’re being very wise in staying away from that particular thread. I’m not a natural group joiner either, a small knitting group might perhaps be doable though as nannyt suggests. When I have ventured into the world of groups I’ve found a call to the organiser in advance often helps ensure a greeting and introduction. Look after yourself, no need to rush into anything, there are no ‘shoulds’ I think, a hug from me.

I’m also anticipating a change of heart if the tabby decides to share time with you soop, a happy time ahead with a birthday for Macs who most certainly appears to be younger than his years. If I dare say so it’s the same for Mr C, in my view it’s because they are cared for so well

That’s my quiet time gone for today. Stay warm and take care everyone.

Hello the kitchen. Well I didn’t find my new camera yesterday. It was a complete waste of going into town. John Lewis was so busy I couldn’t find anyone who knew anything about the camera I wanted to buy, so I gave up in the end. Now I am faced with going to the out of town retail park at Meadowhall where there is a dedicated camera shop. Meadowhall is absolutely huge, it takes ages to get there from here and I hate it with a passion. I’m not even sure now that I want a new camera, but DH has the bit between his teeth.

Morethan my DH’s large family are like that! Because we don’t live in Wales you think he didn’t exist most of the time, but you throw a party and they come out of the woodwork! It annoys the hell out of me! Your sister sounds lovely, caring and quietly supportive. Mine were like that and I miss them both sorely.

Tanith ?. I’m not much of a joiner either these days, but sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and plunge right in. Easier said than done I know! I was amazed when my daughter, who is painfully shy and not good in company, joined a running club (not that I’m suggesting anyone in their right mind should join a running club!). She said going for the first time was the hardest thing she’s done for years, and she nearly changed her mind at the eleventh hour, but she it did wonders for her self confidence.

I’ll leave you for the moment with a photo I took out of the window of the tram yesterday on the way home, of the sky which was rather dramatic. I will look in later - if I survive my shopping experience ☹️.

Morning, Corner; crossed your post! I am having more quiet time than I like this half term, with GS away. I miss him sorely. He is bombarding me with photographs though! Have a happy day with your grandchildren!

morethan I am ok thankyou, very little sleep last night as my H fell in his bedroom at 11.15, I managed to get him up and into bed but by midnight he was up and dressed and the roamed the house until 3am.
Which brings me to be tanith, I feel so sad for you, grieving for your H and missing him so much that it makes me feel so bad about hoping each day brings a phone call to say my H can go into care, I know I will be lonely, very much so, but I also know I will be able to visit him whenever I want, however I also know that I cannot go on like this.
I am so tired and frustrated with him, today he says he feels ill, well so do I sometimes but I can't sit in my recliner and sleep all morning, I have things which need doing.
I send my heartfelt good wishes to you both, take care of yourselves and to you all with poorly H's, toothache and other trials in your lives , I send the same.
I love this kitchen, we can be ourselves instead of playing a part to make others not worry about us.

I don’t post often but didn’t want to read and run. Sending hugs to everyone who needs one. tanith, ann, morethan you are specially in my thoughts.

Annsixty your hopes that your DH will find the residential care he needs are every bit as much for his welfare as for your own.
You must not beat yourself up about this. If he had a different sort of (physical) illness you would not resist him going into hospital for the treatment and care he needed - you cannot provide for his present needs single handed, so do not feel guilty.
Tanith my dear, my lovely MIL said after she lost FIL that “the winters are long when you are on your own” but to be honest, they are no different from other seasons. Make yourself comfortable in your home, go out when you feel you need company or ask friends round, you will come through this. If anything I often found last summer bleaker!
Today is another sad day though, you would think that 45 years on there would be no tears left to shed, but you would be wrong.
“Our dearest little boy
Walter Desmond Palliser Dawson
6 October 1973 - 30 October 1973”

"Sleep well, little one"
Mummy and Daddy, but now, just Mummy
Xxx

Maw

maw

MawBroon
But you know that Daddy is now holding him and caring for him.

Maw xxx

From one extremely sensitive soul to another indeed our Maw, I am at least pleased you were able to join us and let us help share your grief for the loss of your darling son,now resting in peace alongside his daddy.

Very poignant and yet sadly life in one of its rawest moments.

Sending a special cwtch and sincerely hoping the loving support of our Kitchen members has and will help you through this day Maw and the other difficult days ahead.

Dear Ann knowing too that most days are such a trial and all we can do is offer our kind thoughts, but yes it is good to share.Always uppermost in my heart.

A shame about not finding that one camera you have set your heart on GreyD....,just when I was gearing up to enjoy the “fruits of your labour” it seems the passion is waning.......have a rethink I say.

Nanny topsy perhaps your advice is needed to help our above kitchen friend!!

I read about your caring sister with tears in my eyes Morethan a lot of wishful thinking on my part ....if only I too had even a sister, but to have one whom is such a gem as yours is indeed extremely precious.
Someone you KNOW you can quietly rely upon.
Well worthy of a little uplift I say.

I just can`t keep up with those treats you have marked down on your Agenda Callgirl but I sincerely hope all goes well and you really enjoy them.Always nice having that something special to look forward to.

Not a truer word spoken Corner.....it is indeed no fun getting old,however at the moment perhaps concentration on your dental problem.... so this dastardly business of extraction can take place at the earliest.
What a swine knowing the parking difficulties surrounding that Hospital,this is a real nightmare in itself.
Surely the sooner this has been attended to the better thinking of all the Christmas fare not too far away.

Understanding only too well Annodomini when pain puts paid to what might have been a glorious walk around one of your NT homes in Cheshire,hopefully the steroid injection will do the trick......as for flat ground and a mobility scooter ...........now that is what I call “forward planning!!”

Soop I have every sympathy with you on entering such a busy Kitchen where oh! where to begin!!!!
We are all patient and so do not panic your pretty self ......instead concentrate on treating your great MacS to a birthday he certainly desrerves.

Happy Birthday MacS!!!

Keep going Charley ........I am of course talking about your Blue badge form....which by now is quite likely sitting there on your dash board ......I just can`t keep up with you all!!

You have spoken from the heart just like so many of us Willow...... so many of us or our family or friends have or are suffering from some form of cancer.
Yes it is not a pleasant disease and it robs many lives but it must be discussed nice and openly,share your views.
I remember returning from my cancer treatment to my home at the weekends, and although our lane was a much loved lane for dog walking....heading to the beach......and yet many a time I would note people I knew quite well ........ yet they would turn around rather than walk down to confront me.
It really hurt.
For goodness sake I was not a leper.
Yet hushed voices talking behind closed doors benefits not those going through this disease and treatment.

Thank you too Mapleleaf,Fennel, Synonymous, Doodle and indeed all of you who happily stand up for us talking openly about Cancer.........and indeed all the other illnesses that cause such suffering and ultimately death.

This was meant to be just a quickie, but perhaps since I have been reprimanded about it..... I will come clean.
Firstly this hard frost is very unusual for our area and certainly in October...........it has certainly caused both of us problems healthways.
My dear man,still my carer... is virtually doubled over with osteo arthritis whilst his Emphysema and Asbestioses is truly playing up.
He is a man whom staunchily tries to dismiss his ills and just gets on with his lot........our lot.......but indeed he is far from well, and that of course scares me to death.
Many of you here will know all about it.
Whilst I am up constantly EVERY darned hour in the loo,both night and day............... just one of the side effects of one of my many issues, that in turn means my eyes are virtually hanging out every morning.
As for meals,this is a real nightmare and it seems I am back to those drinks again,talk about life having its difficulties as we age .......that you can say yet again!

However the one pleasant side to things is the sun is at least shining.
Makes my hospital trips slightly less of an ordeal!!!
It started with those blessed clocks turned back and now we seem in a vicious circle.

With that I can but wish blessings on each one of you.

A flying visit from me. DH has, oh so generously, shared his bug with me and I feel dreadful. I have read everyone's news but have no energy to concentrate and can do no more than send you all lots of love and hope for pain free days for those in pain and a little relief for those who are troubled.

And, please feel sorry for me as, apart from feeling awful, I have had to put off a visit to see Wolfie.

Oh! dear poor Kitty...........a massive AW from me,perhaps we can go in your place??!!
Do pick up .....and soon. needed I think.

Sympathies kittylester ???
We may have undertaken to share “all our worldly goods” way back then, but I have no recollection of agreeing to share bugs and viruses
I have cheered myself up by choosing and “personalising” a 7 th birthday card for DGS2 who will be 7 in November -good old Moonpig.

Hugs and to maw, ann, panache and anyone else who is ill, sad or in distress x.

Maw ?

I will investigate a knitting group if there is one in my area as suggested by several of you thanks for the suggestion.